Why is she always screaminggg

[turtleschell]

DD is just always angry and frustrated.
All day, all I hear is this deep throated angry screech of frustration, and nothing can stop it. It starts out of nowhere, one minute we are both giggling and playing tickles, and then she suddenly screams and cries and hits me.
Panadol doesn't change anything.
It doesn't happen if we are out and about somewhere, only at home.
Sometimes it's coz she's tired, but really it is just an ALL DAY thing.
It's making me really hate being a mum. I start feeling angry at her, and it really puts me in a bad mood.
Does anyone know why she is doing it? It's been going on for a few weeks now.

[Santosha]

Don't know Hun, I wish she could tell you! I'm guessing it might be just that though... she can't tell you. At this age her understanding of language, the world and her potential to have influence on your behaviour / things / food choices etc. is really expanding, however she doesn't have the expressive language or motor skills to make these things happen. It must be SOOO frustrating for the little people. Guess it also could be teething, reaction to particular foods, something else sore (such as an ear infection??, though this sounds less likely from what you described). Sounds like distraction when you're out is what's working best for her so I guess (though I know it's easier said than done) it might help to just keep her as occupied as possible with new and engaging experiences. Maybe try a bit of baby sign language with her so she can communicate her needs??

I hope very much that it's a short-lived phase. Big hugs.

[*Sparklez*]

Oh i know this all too well lol... my son used to do the same but i discovered his hearing wasnt all that good n he is very sensitive to noise so if i dropped anything it was like a bomb would go off in his ear n he would literally get the s**ts at me.. and start attacking anything in front of him.. also its a phase they all go through like the pp they cant talk and express to u in a verbal way so they will go nuts...
i hop eit settles soon hun, but just be patient cus i know how frustrating it gets too n how angry i used to get cause it was always happening at the wrong times which they dont know when ur ok with it too happen

[~Kim~]

Anger and aggression is totally normally in little people in my experience. Around that age they start to be aware of some autonomy and control for themselves, but they lack the verbal and mental skills to help them manage their needs/wants = frustration on their part. Case in point, you example of the playing. She understands that it's fun to play and then in her mind she wants to stop/do something else, but she lacks the understanding that there is a better way to make that happen. In the past the explosion of anger has worked and so that's what she uses because it's worked before.

It's different when you are out. She's distracted by all the new stuff.

They also test their skills on their favourite people - us. We are their safe place, the people they feel OK to drop their guard and try out new stuff on.

How do you react? DO you mirror her or do you give her words to understand and let her know that she's still OK even though she's frustrated/angry?

I used to feel like I had the angriest kids in the world until I started to do a bit of research on it and employing a few of the tips I found.

for us it really has been a phase, but maybe if you're concerned, give your GP or MCHN a call and have a chat?