What's the Better Option???

[Crystalwings]

I'm 32 wks pg with number 2. DD is 2 and 2mths and is extremly bright. She is perfectly aware of the baby coming, talks to my tummy every morning, kisses the baby through my tummy, tells me how she will help when bub arrives and is very facinated by breastfeeding atm - "babies love breastmilk"is what she says every day.
She sleeps terribly though and while she is getting better in general she only wants me to pat her to sleep and get up to her at night (usually one of us just calls out come in to our bed")
Dh's grandfather isn't well and they won't make xmas this year or will probably never be able to make the 5-6hr journey to see us again. Dh wants to go see him with DD when he has 3wks off when the baby is born as it's very stressful after a full wks work to do the drive on a weekend.
I do feel quite nervous about it and how Olive will take this, especially after the changes with the new bub. I'm a pretty protective mumma and don't know if i will be pining for my girl or needing a break from settling a newborn. Olive has had 2 sleep overs in the past couple of months to prepare her for when bub comes should she need to stay with mil and has gone really well.
Last time i had a really bad bleed and got quite aneamic which led to anxiety issues so am also abit worried about that.
dh thinks it will be a great opportunity for them to bond and get more used to him at night(will only stay 1-2 nights) and for me and the baby to bond.
After thinking about it more and talking to other mums i then thought maybe i would go to with the new baby as they will only be a couple of weeks old and should still be sleeping alot (touch wood).
So would you
a) let your dh take your other child for a night or two
b)go with dh and dd with new bub in tow
c) try to put it off until easter
I know it will depend on how the birth and everything goes as well but assuming everything is fine.

TIA - sorry about the mammoth post!

[beckoes]

i would have trouble letting DD go away without me, having never spent a night away from her. im worried enough about having my second and being in hospital over night.....but having said that i know that DH and DD will be just fine without me and she will probably have a great time with her daddy.

It would also probably be good for you to have time with bub...but only if you can relax being away from DD.

I agree with Epacris...i wouldnt put it off JIC.

[Epacris]

JMHO of course.

c) try to put it off until easter

I wouldn’t do this because I’d be paranoid that Easter wouldn’t be an option. Whenever I’ve “taken an opportunity” I’ve always been immensely thankful that I did.

a) let your dh take your other child for a night or two

Yep I would do this as my first option. But I totally understand (and would expect) you to be fretting about your DD, I would, any mother would. But chances are, everything will be absolutely fine and maybe even quite good (but it does to a large extent depend on the DH in question. Not every DH could do it).

b) go with dh and dd with new bub in tow

I would leave this option open if you can. See how you feel. You might be well up for it, or it could be the last thing in the world you would want to do. You can’t make this decision now, you have to wait till you’re there.

Goodluck.

[shellbell3]

I'd send him on his own with her and u relax with newborn.
Might be good for the 2 of them too. When u have bubs will u stay in hossy a couple nights? Cause yr Dd will be away from u then u can see how she goes.