Gentle parenting

[helle]

So, I'm all for gentle parenting. I never leave DS to cry. I trust that he will tell me when he needs something and for how long and I trust that in his own time he will decide when he doesn't anymore.

For example. Booby. I trust that in his own time he'll stop needing booby to get to/back to sleep at night and will settle on his own instead... Right? RIGHT?

[MummaSue]

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

(I freaking hope so anyway!)

[dusty]

I think trusting your instincts is important. If something doesn't feel right then it may be time to change or alternatively if something feels right then listen & trust yourself. BFing involves 2 of you & your role & feelings are just as important as your child's IMO, so don't discount that when parenting gently. Xx

[Fleur]

:yeahthat: What Dusty said...
but yes, he will grow out of it... you don't see many teenagers breastfeeding

[helle]

I've been up with him since two. It's now 5:21. For three hours of the three hours and twenty one minutes he's been sucking in me.
I'm tired.

[kelebek]

are you able to co-sleep? I found I didn't notice soo much once we were co-sleeping and at your DS's age it is a lot easier to co-sleep. Could he be teething? sick? going through a wonder week/growth spurt? I usually find there is a reason why DS would have mammoth feeding/comfort sessions which ususally didn't make sense for a few days and then a new tooth would pop through or he would be sick or he would start doing something new.

If you can sleep when he does today it's the only way I survived

[helle]

Co sleeping never worked for us unfortunately. Apparently I'm too interesting and he just thinks it's a game. Has from word dot.

No rest for the wicked I'm afraid. Got a job to get to today *sigh* he comes too, he's gonna be exceptionally grumpy after a crap night sleep which will be double fun.

Eta. He's just started walking, I think it might be one of those developmental spaz outs. Again.

[sloane]

helle, i know you're probably really tired & this isn't going to be much comfort today but i definitely found that my DS settled down a great deal once he was walking. i found alot of the clingyness passed & he was also calmer & less frustrated.

i've also noticed changes in the last couple of weeks where DS has sometimes gone back to sleep with just a cuddle & no feed (i co-sleep part/most of the night). it's taken a while, but they do get there hope today isn't too stressful or long

[Ginger]

yes.

both my boys were breastfed to sleep, on demand, overnight...all the time actually!
ds1 self weaned at 14 months old and ds2 at 20 months old. They both put themselves to sleep now and sleep all night.
hang in there, you're doing a great job!

[onthefly]

Absolutely. It's hard to believe right now, especially after a really crappy night, but he will give it up when he's ready.

[maz]

its even harder to hear this right now...but you'll miss it down the track ..yes miss the closeness that it brings...*sigh*

[helle]

its even harder to hear this right now...but you'll miss it down the track ..yes miss the closeness that it brings...*sigh*

I know I will

[Lulu]

I had to force DD off my boobs when she was 3. Sorry.

I kept waiting until she was ready, but that time never came. Had I known that I would have dragged her off about 2 yrs old or so. It wouldn't have killed her. *sigh

[helle]

I had to force DD off my boobs when she was 3. Sorry.

I kept waiting until she was ready, but that time never came. Had I known that I would have dragged her off about 2 yrs old or so. It wouldn't have killed her. *sigh

[onthefly]

Yeah, well, their time to finish may not coincide with yours...

[helle]

Yeah, well, their time to finish may not coincide with yours...

Lol. True true. I know I'd rather go the distance than wean him early "just in case" iykwim

[Lulu]

Definitely - I have changed my mind about a few things though. I would never consider weaning around 2 years old as 'early', and if I had another they'd be off the boob by then like it or not

[helle]

Definitely - I have changed my mind about a few things though. I would never consider weaning around 2 years old as 'early', and if I had another they'd be off the boob by then like it or not

Oh, of course. 2 isn't early... maybe the early needed some " " too XD

I think I'm thinking in the now oO; Which to me is early... Shhhh, Mumma's tiiired XD