Is this normal?

[Addison]

Hello,
This is my second pregnancy I am now 18 weeks along but the last few days I have felt like I have been carrying a bowling all between my legs. It seems to be getting worse each day.
I had a terrible first birth & 2 years later I am still very sore and tender from my episotomy (It took 12months to heal) now it aches all the time. I also looked "down there" and much to my horror something is falling out! I went to my OB and he didnt even look at it, he just felt around and said I was fine & that I have terrible damage done to my bladder, bowels and uterus.
My first labour was 18 hours long, my son was posteriora & I was stuck in transition from 11pm till 7am the next morning when they decided to get a dr in so he could deliver my baby with forceps as I wasent making any progress. I was sliced from here to there and my beautiful son was born.
Then my placenta was quickly removed and I haemorrhaged quite severely. I passed out every time they tried to stand me up. I was so weak I could not even life my baby to feed him
To make matters worse I was sent home after 7 days and was so week an sick I didnt know what was wrong with me. 2 visits to the DR and he finally gave me an utrasound to find that I had retained placenta & HUGE blood clots. 12 days later I was back in hospital having a D&C. As I stated before it took me a good 12 months to recover. my Dr knows all of this and he is still insisting I have natural birth instead of a C Section. I am terrified!!! and now all this heavy feeling like i have just given birth is comming back and doesnt seem the slighest bit concerned! Has anyone else experienced any thing similar?
Thanks any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Santosha]

Oh that sounds so scary and uncomfortable (understatement perhaps?!). I'm afraid I don't have and experience, but if I were you I'd be getting a second opinion from someone who has the professionalism and respect to take your concerns seriously. Good luck Hun, hope you get some answers very soon.

[Addison]

Thanks Santosha
I think my husband and I will go and get a second opinion, We are both very concerned. I don't think I am built for having babies...lol my body seems to small for all of this.

[CrazyLady]

Maybe even see if a midwife can take a peek for you hun? They've seen it all so maybe they might be able to help out or refer you to someone that will? I would be getting it checked for sure even if it only eases your mind.

HTH!

[Alan]

Hi Addison

Mate you need to see someone that cares. Find yourself another doctor or a midwife. The doctor you have been seeing needs a good slapping for treating you like that

[HotI]

Mate you need to see someone that cares. Find yourself another doctor or a midwife. The doctor you have been seeing needs a good slapping for treating you like that

I agree!

[black_rose]

I agree with Alan too, you shouldn't be feeling like this! You need a dr who cares and understands your wishes.

[Addison]

Thank you all for your support & kind words, I will definitely be getting a new OB. I have just discovered I have started to bleed a little, fingers crossed it's nothing. I did this at 12 weeks too. I will go and see the DR tomorrow first thing.
This pregnancy is so different to my first I wonder if I am having a girl...lol