thread: Why not me?

  1. #1
    Registered User

    Apr 2007
    SE QLD
    2,321

    Why not me?

    hi!

    I'm 32 weeks now, and my husband has been telling me for about the last week that he's starting to get anxious/nervous/worried about having a newborn in the house. It's going to disrupt all of us, most in particular Ds, who is 3.

    It doesn't seem to have registered yet that yes, I will have a new baby in about 8 weeks. It just doesn't seem real.

    Why not? DS can't wait for baby to arrive - although I'm sure he is not expecting an actual baby at this point. DH is worried about finances etc, but there's no emotion from me? I'm counting down the weeks, but no omg we need to fix this place up before baby comes (we have sooo much stuff, I'd like to have a clean out before he/she arrives). No nesting. We also have no names.

    Why not me?

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Sunny Qld
    14,682

    Ahhh I wouldn't worry - the nesting part never hits me, I figure its easy to make a bed when you get baby home - so don't really make a fuss before its born.

    Don't worry about names either - we had a list of names for DD2, and then never picked a name off it!!

    Nothing wrong with being chilled out about a baby's arrival Not everyone nests - and it doesn't mean you don't care

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Jul 2010
    sydney
    2,187

    babe i would just lay back and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy...
    believe me there is nothing relaxing or joyous about nesting i couldnt stop nesting from so early on that i actually nearly went too early..
    as for names thats something you can decide whenever you think you have found the perfect name my SIL didnt name her daughter till she was 9 weeks old... we used to just call her bubba lol
    i think your ds will adapt alot easier then anyone will expect my son has extreme behaviour problems and he was over excited when she came home he asked if i could go buy another baby and put it in my tummy lol
    enjoy your pregnancy babe and remember you still have 8 weeks thats along time to go (not really) but thats how it will feel soon...

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Aug 2007
    3,526

    maybe its because you are actually living it every single day!
    You are the one thats pregnant, and because you feel it, see it, etc every day maybe that's why the OMG bit hasn't happened yet???

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Jan 2009
    pakenham, victoria
    3,660

    i havent gotten the nesting bug in any of my pregnancies, and we were very anxious about how DD1 would cope when we bought DD2 home (she was 3 at the time too) and to be honest with u, she handled the transition better than any of us!