advice/opinions please?

[*becstar*]

DS2 will be 3 in a couple of months. He was my baby, and I was less keen to get him sleeping alone....well going to sleep alone.

Then precious surprise well.....surprised us. So in 6 months or less we will have an addition to the family

DS2 for SO long would go to sleep with me, sitting on the couch, cuddling him. IF he was wrecked, he would just go to sleep quickly. 90% of the time I'd end up literally pinning him so he couldn't move, cry for maybe 10mins then drop off to sleep. His problem has always been getting him to be STILL enough to go to sleep.

So we've progressed to the bed. I tried for a few weeks to sit on the bed while he went to sleep.....it would take hours, frustrate me to tears and as he and DS1 share a room he would disrupt DS1.

So I layed down with him. Again if you are lucky enough to get him at the right time, and if he hasn't napped during the day he will sometimes just flake it. But most of the time I end up holding him so he can't move, and he goes to sleep.

Lately he has been asking and telling me he can go to bed himself and wanting me out. Which is fine. But he mucks around, and most nights ends up bumping his head, crying, cuddling me then sleeeping.

I don't want to squash his desire to go to sleep alone. But I can't get him to just STOP moving!!

I would like for him to be going to bed alone by the time baby arrives, if possible way before that. He hops into bed with us every night at some time and I don't mind this. If I'm awake enough I take him back to bed once he's asleep.

What can I do??

[Kmn]

Put the mattress on the floor for a while so that the bumps are less sore?

Let DS1 go to sleep in your bed for a few days while his brother works it out?

[*becstar*]

I had considered putting one of them in the toy room to sleep but it really is too small!! DS1 sleeping in our bed work...he'd love that! lol. The I have to move him to the top bunk.....might be DH';s job LOL

[onthefly]

You might just have to let him carry on for a while before sleeping - will that disturb your other kids? DS is the same - he rolls, kicks (sometimes bumps his head even), chatters, sings etc for ages before finally dropping off. It's just his 'process'.

[*becstar*]

Yes Mad, that is it!! (I nearly called you Marcellus, LOL)

But this will disturb DS1, and I can't let him go to sleep in our bed forever! I don't know...I might give it a go and if it continues we may have to re shuffle and put DS2 in the toy room after all......*sigh*. Is your DS in a cot still?? mine is in a bed which I regret right now lol.

Oh and congrats on DD

[onthefly]

Thanks
DS is in a bed - never really slept in the cot though. Getting some use out of it now as DD is happy there.
Guess you'll need room in the bed for your next one