Wedding after baby. How long would you wait? Am I being realistic?

[lissy]

So a bit of background.
DF proposed to me 2yrs ago. We had just started planning our Wedding end of 2009, when we found out I was PG. So we just dropped all our planning, but unfortunately we mc'd in Jan 10. Soo we were both a bit of a mess & things were hectic for a while.

We started planning again in August 2010, had temp bookings for venue & photographer for June 2011 when we found out we were expecting again & Im now due 2 weeks before the date we'd planned to get married!! Bit of a pattern but I swear it wasn't on purpose . So we dropped all our planning again.

So Ive been thinking that I'd like to get married maybe in April-May 2012. Bub will be approx. 10months by then, I'll still be on maternity leave. My plan is to work my butt off once bub is born and get as healthy as I possibly can, I don't care if Im not back to pre-baby 100%.But I want to know if I'm being realistic about this???

[toomanyshoes]

Sounds realistic enough to me. We pretty much had the same thing, got engaged set a date then months before I found I was pregnant so called it off, we ended up getting married 9 months after DS was born.

Good luck with the planning!

[Calluna]

It really depends on your body. You could be one of those people who's baby weight just falls off or you might not.

The other thing to consider is once you have bub there will be less time/ opportunities to exercise.

If you're planning to breast feed, that should help a bit.

Not saying you cant do it, just giving you my thoughts

[*becstar*]

we got married when DD was 9 mo old.

It's realistic but then it also depends what your concerns are? Are you concerns loosing the baby weight (which honestly.....most people never do completely), or that it will be hectic and hard to pull off??

It's doable for sure, but be prepared you might have to give a little in the baby weigh department Good luck to you that it all just falls off

[RainbowBrite]

I think it is realistic. We got married 4 months after dd2 was born.
I hope all goes well.

[lissy]

I think my concerns are mainly Time, Emotionally & Physically being able, Money, and of course anything else I need to take into account with a 10 month old??

Im not concerned soley with loosing the baby weight, Id like to try & get my 'fitness' back up a bit though. But I also want getting married to be a 'Good' thing for us both. If its going to be so hectic & we end up at each others throat & neither enjoying it, then why bother rushing it?

[UntoldAngel]

We got married when bub was 10weeks old... We started planning then fell pregnant VERY unexpectantly, but didn't see the point of putting it off even though his parents were telling us to (maybe they just didn't want me in the family)

Do what you feel is right