Hi I have a friend who is going through IVF, she is so lovely and so is her husband. ( i work with them )
What is something that you would of liked when going through IVF that you never had or didn't think of?
or what would you of liked someone to do for you?
I don't want to over step the mark, but want to give her something to help ehr get through and give her a little smile.
kawazuki thats a lovely thought, there isnt many ppl out there like you! Iv been trying to concieve for 2 yrs and it is the hardest journey ever! as my 6 cycles went on my hubby and i told less and less ppl because i got to the piont where i felt like i was dissapointing everyone and they were starting to try and work out why i wasn't falling pg. The best thing i can say to you is support them as best you can, be someone she can talk to if she needs it but dont push her too much with questions all the time. My best friend buys me chocolates or flowers every once in a while or gives me a lovely card which i love and makes me feel like ppl do care. Iv had 4 ppl offer to be a surrogate mum for me and this just plain p**s** me off because its my hubby that has the fertility issue not me, its a lovely thought but not what i want to here. PPl going through IVF just need love and support and thats the best thing you can give her. All the best for her xxxx
Being there for her when she vents. And really listening. I found that invaluable in another friend who'd done IVF herself. She was truly THERE for me.
you are a beautiful friend! You know, I think just being there and listening to her with out saying all the old cliched (sp?) things. Asking her to still do all the normal things you would have done before and not leaving her out cause you dont know if she will comfortable. I also reackon not hiding friends pregnancies from her, that I found awful, especially when I found out off people who werent so much my friends you really are just lovely!
That is a tough one..... there is not alot you can do but such a lovely gesture. I'd say as far as giving emotional support, if she is a talker just let her get it all out.... without saying the things that people think is comforting. If she doesnt like to talk about it then just spend time with her without mentioning it. Let her know its up to her if she wants to talk.
If you really want to give her something... perhaps a voucher for a pedicure or something pampering
Or just take her out... the cinema is great escapism during IVF, depending on the movie of course
What a beautiful friend you are for going above & beyond.... Wish one of my friends would do that......... they just oh thats sad.. maybe next time or go on holiday and it might happen then or just have a blank look of uh oh what do I do now.......
I agree with all of the above - let her know you are there to talk or not talk about it when ever & do nice girly things that will make her feel a bit special.
Maybe cook a few things to put in the freezer for when she has that horrid synarel headache
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you are a beautiful friend! You know, I think just being there and listening to her with out saying all the old cliched (sp?) things. Asking her to still do all the normal things you would have done before and not leaving her out cause you dont know if she will comfortable. I also reackon not hiding friends pregnancies from her, that I found awful, especially when I found out off people who werent so much my friends 
you really are just lovely!
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