Is it too much to ask?

[aussienic]

Now this is a serious question

Is it too much to ask my 11yr old, 7 yr old and 5 yr old take their lunch boxes out of their bags and empty the rubbish into the bin then put them next to the sink for me to wash up?

Is it too much to ask that their water bottles are put on the sink ready for rinsing and refilling?

Is it too much to ask that socks go in the dirty laundry and their shoes go on the designated shoe area??

Seriously am I asking too much? I remind them every afternoon so it is not a case of forgetfulness

Yesterday due to that and going outside when they refused to do homework I gave my first ever proper tv, comp and gaming console ban. 24 hours.. so far so good.. Ds3 can watch tv now but DS1 and DS2 lost it till tomorrow morning due to getting up and turning the tv on this morning.. Is that a harsh punishment? It sure feels like I am punishing myself

DD and DS3 are constantly trashing their room.. To the point this afternoon I couldn't even walk in there. I don't want to yell and scream or smack I just want it tidied up with no fuss.. Is that too much to ask

DS1 and 2 really got in and helped a few mins ago and we did a power clean but now they are being annoying but not naughty.. thanks to the inlaws buying DS1 an electric guitar for Xmas he is so kindly playing it in h is bedroom..

Is it too much to ask for a quiet night? apparently so

So tell me your gripes for a friday night

[*Sparklez*]

No not at all
My ds's know that if they don't take out their lunch boxes I make them make their own lunches the next day
And if they whine about it I make it a whole week and write lines about why they should take their stuff out
And it's their letters and homework etc not just lunch boxes
As for their rooms they make their beds and clean their own room so they get allowance

My whinge is the stupid flu!!!
I feel like crap I'm moving next weekend and haven't done jack to prepare..
And dd has caught it too aaarrrgghh



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[Purple Penguin]

My 5 year old started school this year and takes her lunch box out of her bag and puts it on the bench and puts her dirty clothes in the laundry most days without having to be reminded.

I don't think you're asking too much at all.

[helle]

Is it to much to ask for my husband to ANSWER HIS DAMN PHONE!

Hate to think if I need him one day for a life threatening emergency -.-;

[aussienic]

i have one more

Is it too much to ask DD to go to sleep withouth kicking and screaming every night? sigh.

[~Jayne~]

Aussienic - NO! Not at all. I think your requests are quite reasonable. I have the same thing in my house, when I ask my children a question, or ask them to do something, I actually expect them to answer me or do what I have asked of them. I am having the same dilemmas about not tidying up after themselves. I am really tough nuts on them now, but it is slowllllllllllly working. One thing I have found that works, is that after I have asked them to tidy the toy room, if they still haven't attempted to clean it up, I get a big rubbish bag out & I mutter to myself 'gee it's a shame to throw all these nice Barbies in the bin' & pretend to start packing them in. Well, they move a mile a minute!

I hear you loud & clear though!!! I sympathise completely!

[RainbowBrite]

I don't think it to much to ask at all!!
I have had to resort to the electronic ban here too.
I have held them to ransom in the house today to clean there room...properly! To MY standards.
I am so sick of dirty, messy bedrooms.
I am sick of being referee to arguments, sick of having to ask them to help me, to pick up towels and plates after use.
Gee it is 7 against 1 in this house...a little help without asking goes a long, long way!!
I think thses things teach responsibility and appreciation for things done for them.

[aussienic]

I am so glad it isn't only me that has children like this. I know its nit a ncie to thing to be pleased about but clearly its just a kid thing and not a parenting thing kwim?

We started a traffic light thing here today.. Even Dh and I have our names on there which I think is fair.. If they back chat or speak nasty, whine ect their names get put on the yellow dot.. hitting means an instant red dot and time out according to age.. Olivia hit today so she got put on the red dot and 3 mins in time out.. it took 9 mins for an apology but on the bright side she didn't move from her time out spot..

Same will go for things like lunch boxes and picking up after themselves.. For Dh and I if we yell or upset them then they get to choose if we go to the yellow or red dot (this may backfire)