thread: the pain a mothers heart feels ...

  1. #1

    Feb 2008
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    the pain a mothers heart feels ...

    when your baby comes home upset everyday because of other children. I don't know if id class it as bullying or kids being kids.
    dd1 went through enough at school last year with the sexual abuse and the way the school handled it.
    Yesterday she was getting teased for still having all her baby teeth, being told she was a baby etc which upset her quite a bit - shes only 5 whats wrong with having all her baby teeth still?
    Today apparently everyone was "dibba dobbing" on her for being wasteful as she didnt eat all her lunch - it was a big lot of leftovers and all scraps go onto the compost pile so again whats the big deal.

    Its lots and lots of little things like this but its a few of them everyday and it rips my heart to pieces having her tell me and get so upset all over again, I want school to be a happy, fun place for her where she learns as much as she can .... not this

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    Registered User

    Nov 2006
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    Awww! That's not nice at all. Children can be awful (so can some adults!). I don't know what to say other than giving you (and DD1) some hugs If it is every day, maybe it is bullying? Maybe worth talking to the teacher (and principal together?)

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    BellyBelly Member

    Jul 2006
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    I understand totally what you are saying. It truly does break your heart doesn't it. Big hugs

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    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2008
    Kurri Kurri
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    Is there anyway you can swap schools??? It sounds like this school is doing nothing to protect your DD and she is having her confidence eroded every day. I would be having a hard "chat" to the principal, with the teacher present, and letting them know that they are ignoring their "duty of care" where your daughter is concerned and will be bringing it to the attention of the regional office of DET. Your poor DD must hate going to school so I hope you can solve the problem very quickly.

  5. #5

    Feb 2008
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    Not really a possibility at the moment but soon i could look into transferring campuses but all 4 have the same principal although hes hardly ever at our campus, def something to look into as the campus head doesnt give a crap about anything

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    Jul 2010
    sydney
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    Nawwww poor little one! That's awful!
    I know the feeling babe and it's exactly what PP's have said kids can be so cruel.
    Massive hugs to you and your DD


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    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    Qingdao, China
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    Oh Darl,
    I'm so sorry, It really breaks your heart when your LO's comes home upset because of some mean-spirited little brats!!! Grrr.
    FWIW, my Jess only turned 6 in December & she just lost her first took in February! She is definitely NOT a baby for still having her little teeth!
    Kids are kids & yes, kids are cruel. But still, I don't think they are ever too young to learn how to treat somebody elses feelings!
    I would have a quiet word to the teacher & see what she makes of it. School is supposed to provide a positive environment which encourages your child to learn to their full potential - not an unhappy place full of bad memories (& kids).
    Good luck honey, give your beautiful little girl some from us!
    xx

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    Mar 2011
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    Personally, I am not a fan of the changing schools idea - as a child that was allowed to change schools everytime things werent perfect for me - I'm not sure that it is very good for a child's social skills to be able to run away. What if the same thing happend again? Which I think is common because the child starts the new school still worried of the same thing - and the bullies pick up on that straight away. I personally think that I lost the ability to be in awkward or anxious situations as an adult because I always ran away from situations that in hindsite really weren't that bad.

    Have you thought about some kind of outside school activites? Something to boost her confidence and let her make some friends that are the same age that have you around most of the time when she is interacting with them?

    I hope that someone can be done within the school - I would definitely get her teacher involved - and make it clear you really arent happy and that moving her is an option - so that she/he knows you are serious.

    What a horrible situation for you and her to be in

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    Registered User

    May 2011
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    Wait a minuite, did you say sexual abuse?

    Sue the pants off them honey. School is a work place, there are laws to protect your child in their work place. This school is not taking their duty of care seriously.
    I'm sorry, your dc has a right to be safe and secure while at school. Bullying no matter it's form is the school not taking their duty of care seriously.
    If your child has been sexuly abused wether at school or not, I truly hope you are providing professional help for her. If she were my dd I would be removing her from the school where she was sexualy abused.
    Just imagine for a minuite you were sexually abused at work would you like being trapped there everyday for 6 hours a day with the abuser there as well. Even if the abuser is not their any longer please remover her. Think about her long term mental health.
    I wish your dd love and you my support.
    Sue them.

    If your child was an adult and in a work place there would be a good case for work place relations prosacution.
    Sexual assult is a criminal matter. Schools will try to internalise to avoid prosacution to save their own bottoms. You are well within your rights to sue the school for the sexual assult and for the bullying. No punishment a school can dis out will ever be enough.

    I removed our eldest child from the system due to bullying it was so bad and constant for him. It even followed him to afterschool activities where there were kids from the same school. At 8 he wanted to kill himself. It took us a whole year of dash hard work to see him smile and relax and stop being the angry little man he had become. I feel for your daughter but you are her advocate speak up for her, shout and scream at them if thats what it takes to get results, but honey I would sue them. Sexual assult and bullying cause long term damage. Damage that can take years to get over if they ever do get over it. Get your daughter help.
    (((HUGS)))
    Last edited by fromscratch; May 14th, 2011 at 11:37 PM. : Adding

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    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    country victoria
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    That is so sad for your little girl, and tough for you as her parent.

    Sometimes children astound me, I mean really why would they care if she has lost a tooth or not. My 5 year old lost his 2 bottom teeth soon after turning 5 and I had parents commenting on how early it was. I really think its more common for them to lose them at around 6.

    Is it just one group of girls, are the teachers aware of this?

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    Feb 2005
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    There is nothing worse when your child comes home from school sad My ds3 came home the other day and said some kids had called him ugly. (they are 5) I asked what he said and I was proud when he replied with..... I called them jerks and told them I am awesome..

    Ds1 is always lonely at school and Ds2 has 2 kids who are always picking on him and calling him gay (7) and won't let him play games in the playground..

    Its so hard isn't it... I want school to be a happy place where they feel safe and love to go. So I know how you are feeling