thread: She doesn't like me :'(

  1. #1

    Jul 2009
    Australia
    5,102

    Unhappy She doesn't like me :'(

    My DD lately doesnt want anything to do with me its always "nan" or "dad dad" she doesnt want a bar of me.

    I will complain that its nothing but tantrums, she wont sleep when i put her down when shes tired she wont eat anything or have any bottles but anyone else has her and shes an angel and so then i am left feeling like its me.

    I know its probably a phase but it breaks my heart. She looks past me and goes to others. Hell she is even wanting Pop more than me and he always growls at her...

    She is currently in her cot screaming and carrying on and i go in there and she just goes nuts.

    tell me it gets better

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Dec 2010
    The zoo
    735

    Aww I feel the same way about DS sometimes, but it's completely normal. You are the one who she sees the most, whereas they are the novelty. When my mum is around DS doesn't want a bar of me because his Nanna is far more exciting.

    Just relax, do as you normally would and it will definitel pass. But please don't take it personally!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    May 2009
    west NSW
    462

    didn't want to read and not post. im sorry you feel this way could it be that it's because she doesn't see her dad enough, (like does he go away for work or something?) and so then feels really attached when she does see him? i know it's hard not too, but don't feel like it's you, im sure it's just a phase she is going through. xoxo

  4. #4

    Jul 2009
    Australia
    5,102

    Shes always been a daddys girl and i love that, i really do but when it comes to her tantrums he never believed me when i said she throws them but hes witnessed a few and so he knows what i go through. Same as his parents. They thought i was lazy but it really is hard sometimes to get her to do anything. Usually i am very tolerant of her behaviour but lately its been getting too much. I had an anxiety attack on monday i was a mess i couldnt go to work i couldnt do anything. I slept all afternoon and even yesterday was hard.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Nov 2008
    Perth
    3,686

    I'd definitely say it's a phase hon Your DD would love you to pieces, you're her mummy! I find that DD rabbits on about DH a lot because she only sees him quickly in the morning (if she's awake) and for an hour at the most in the evenings - and weekends. She sees me pretty much all day every day though so I guess I'm a bit boring DD even points at photos of both DH and I and says 'Daddy' at each of them but not mummy although I'm in the photos too!!

    I know your DD is a bit younger than mine but I suspect it's something similar. I have no doubt your DD is nuts about her mummy

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Dec 2008
    Brisbane, QLD
    5,171

    Oh honey, she does love you. I have felt the same way and posted similar things myself before, still do some days. I know it hurts.
    I believe, that she behaves this way with you because she feels safe enough with you that she CAN behave like this and you will still love her and still be there to comfort her when she is ready. It's because she trusts you.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Dec 2005
    6,706

    I'm told that they tantrum in front of us because they feel loved and secure enough to show their real emotions. But it's damned hard to believe that!

    I always feel like Sam hates me too. I'm sure he doesn't, but the days where he's just screaming when I so much as look at him and all he wants is daddy are just so hard!

    Hang in there.

    BW