I originally had no plans to co-sleep when pregnant, I didn't quite 'get it' but now I can't stand the thought of DS being away from me.
ATM he is sleeping with me but in a snuggle bed above my covers, and DH is in the spare room as he travels 3hrs a day for work.
So now I want it to be more permanent, I'd like to attach his cot to our bed so dh can sleep with us again. But he is refusing to even consider it
He claims there is no room but I know I can make it work! He has totally closed down to the idea. I've even had a dear friend send us a photo of their co-sleep set up and he won't even look at it!!!
So my question is, has anyone had trouble convincing their husband to do this?
I'm getting the impression the only way to get dh back in with us is to put Bub back in the bassinet
Could you get the bed & cot set up one day when he's out at work and just do it - if it works then he might just come round. Depends on your hubby though, how he might take that.
My DH and I don't always agree on teh details, but at the end of the day it's me that has to spend all day (and night) caring for her so whatever makes things easier on me is what we do.
I was thinking of that, I'd rather do it without his help anyway even if he did agree. But I'd need someone else to help me cause our bed is massive and heavy!
I'm not sure how he would take it, not well at the moment but maybe after a little while of hinting
I think attach the cot and get a mate to help move the bed etc. When he sees that the co-sleeping arrangement involves extra space he should come around. Co-sleeping meant we all got better quality sleep (until DD got too big and spread out across the bed forcing DP and I out ). It's a tad stubborn that he won't even look at the setup photos but if he gets a visual it really could sway him or at least might get him used to the idea.
We have done many things that we probably wouldn't have chosen, or thought that we would do, 12 months ago- but over time we have found they work best. For me, i wouldn't try to convince my DH of anything, but i would say that i want to try this and see if it works. You (singularly or as a couple for family) might find it doesn't work for you and i find it better not to argue or create tension before you work out if you need to (hope that makes sense).
I would work out how the furniture could fit and either do it myself or have it all ready to go when DH got home. If it doesn't work, you can always change the furniture back again!
Hmm this is tricky, I did this with my ds also and prob is his now 4 and won't get out and I now have my dd attached to the bed in the bassinet.
Dh doesn't sleep with me at all, he is actually in my ds's bed. And his that used to it now that even if ds isn't around he still sleeps in there.
And why? Cause I did this too and he said that I was selfish and etc and that I never respected his decision and took it upon myself to do what I wanted and ignored his wishes, so now the sleeping arrangement is what it is..
My point? Maybe try and see if he will participate in trying it out and promise him if it doesn't work over a time frame you will move it all back and drop the subject.. If that doesn't work just slowly talk him around.
Just make sure what ever you do doesn't backfire and create unnecessary friction for you both, even though it's a little thing, it can certainly blow up into a huge topic and you don't want your dh to feel that his not part of the decisions that occur.. Itms?
GL Hun, hope you an your dh can compromise to do what's best for your baby boy
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). It's a tad stubborn that he won't even look at the setup photos but if he gets a visual it really could sway him or at least might get him used to the idea.
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