16mo babies fighting instead of playing.. wdyt?

[turtleschell]

So I have a friend who's DD is same age as mine.
But they do NOT get along.
Her baby is always pushing, pinching, snatching, and it makes my DD cry and then my DD gets scared of her and tries to run away, making friend's baby even rougher.
At first I felt it was good for DD to learn that some other people are rough, and it would toughen her up, but I'm starting to feel that it's just making her distrustful, fearful and insecure around her peers.
She is fine with any other kids though, it's just this one.
WDYT?
Should I be kind to DD and stop making her associate with this 'mean' kid, or is it a good 'learning' experience? She is jsut SO miserable when the other baby is around.

[Ginger]

i would keep her away for a while. she's very young to be learning such a tough lesson yet iykwim?

[MummaBee]

I think keep her away for a while if you can i dont think it would be helping her in any way as a learning experience, she's probably too young to stand up for herself and its probably not in her character. Hope that helps

[*Sparklez*]

I think keep her away for a while if you can i dont think it would be helping her in any way as a learning experience, she's probably too young to stand up for herself and its probably not in her character. Hope that helps

Yep that, she is very impressionable and you don't want her to think this is normal and good Behaviour


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[briggsy's girl]

At similar ages, DD and Pandora's DS had a weekend together - and we spent all weekend keeping them apart! It was pretty ordinary for all of us really. Two seconds alone and there were tears (DD wouldn't fight back if being pushed etc). about 3 months later they had a few hours together at Div's, and then another couple of months later, we had another weekend together - and the change that came about over the latter two visits was huge. they were the best of friends for the whole weekend

if it were me, i'd give it a bit more time and then try again. 16month olds aren't going to learn the difference between gentle and rough - she will just end up distressed and reluctant to be around this child longer term

[Roryrory]

exactly what BG said.

[turtleschell]

Oh well I guess I will keep them apart!
You know, my instincts told me it wasn't a good thing, I wish I'd listened, this has been going on for many months now, every single week!
My friend always says that my DD is the problem, she's too sensitive and that her baby just wants to play.
I'm going to stop torturing both of us and just see my friend without our kids around!