My DS is 4.5 and has been toilet trained during the day for about 12months now. So far he is still wearing a night nappy and he has always woken up wet. Lately he has asked why he still has to wear a nappy and then this week he asked to not wear one at all. I said ok.
We have spoken about him having to get out of bed if he needs to wee and that we'd be really excited if he woke up dry. On the first night he did get up at one stage as he left a light on but woke up wet anyway. The other two nights he as woken up wet. Last night at 11pm when i went to bed he was wet and i got him up and changed him and his sheets (and put a nappy on so he'd atleast get a good nights sleep warm and dry).
My question is - Is this the right time for him? Similarly to the day time training do you allow them to wet to get them used to having to wake to go to the toilet or should i be waiting until he's woken up dry to know he's ready??
I really want it to work for him because he obviously wants to try but so far no success. I did say that when he wakes up dry we'll buy him a special toy which may or may not be a good way to do it!?
I'd love for him to be out of nappies but i am in no way pushing for it. If he's ready though i'll help him along, i'll wash all i need to to help him get there.
I was very patient with the day time and was doing the same with the night, but him wanting to do it makes me a little more inclined to help it along. We'll see if we get any help/suggestions
my Ds is 4 and half and has just stopped waking up for the last 2 weeks..expect one night.
we just make a big deal out of it espeically daddy, i tell my Ds you're sure a big boy, its ok accidents happen,and when he is dry make the biggest fuss.
he goes to the toilet before bed, my Dh used to wake him up..no drinks before bed.
He is fully TT of a day and now I have noticed his nappies arent wet of a night so I will be letting him sleep without them in the next week or so and see what happens.
I think you are meant to reduce fluids before bed... make sure they use the toilet before bed and then once you start to get dry nappies or pull ups then they are ready, Letting them get "wet" doesnt really teach them anything .. Maybe no drinks after dinner?
I had planned to do the same as Clover and wait until they wake up dry, but when I forgot a nappy one night she just managed, and I now have to get her up in the middle of the night to wee...what a pain that is.
DD was nearly 5 after TTing in the day before 2.5.
It sounds like he's just not ready.
Oh and don't let him listen to anyone who tells him something detrimental about it....my MCHN told me it was highly abnormal for her not to be dry at 4 overnight....then I asked on here should've trusted my gut.
I was always thinking i'd just wait until he was dry which would then be my indication that he's ready for no nappies but with him actually asking i wanted to give him the chance to give it a go. It's been very gentle, the last thing i want to do is create any confidence issues, so there'e been lots of encouragement and praise. Like i said i'm not pushing for it, it's just him asking to give it a go.
Trouble is now he's really determind to not wear the nappy.... So i might be changing the sheets every morning for a little while... It's all good we'll figure it out.
Thanks so much ladies, the toileting issue is clearly one of those things when they all get there in their own time.
DS was dry at night about a week after day TTing. However, he stayed in nappies for a few months just in case. He had accidents maybe once a month. He's had one in the past 4 months. So it isn't completely failsafe.
We went from nappies to training pants after a couple of months. We used cloth training pants so they were still pants and big boy pants et cetera, but they were pants that meant I didn't have to worry if there were an accident. Would that be an acceptable compromise for your son?
You never know... maybe that determination is all you need. Plenty of kids just decide thats it & that is it.
Although I don't see our night ending up that way. DD doesn't mind pull ups, but hates nappies... we're out of pull ups. She's decided sh just has to go without... fabulous!
My 2.5yo DS asked not to wear a nappy about 2 weeks or so after TT during the day. From the time we ditched day nappies, I had been encouraging him not to wee in his night nappy. He was often dry in the morning, but not always. So when he asked to wear jocks at ngiht I said ok. We've had a few accidents, but most nights are dry. I think he was just ready. The only other thing I can suggest is using a cloth nappy at night that will allow him to feel wet. And limit evening drinks.
By a couple of "conni bed pads." look on the independence solutions web page. They go over the sheets. So if he wets you are not changing the whole bed. They also draw the wet away,so he won't stay feeling cold and wet.
Good on him though. If he's conscious in his decision I think that will help. Darlings Downunder have a range of larger cloth trainers. I think they also stock bamboo bed pads like Lilima suggested too.
Thanks again ladies, i do have a mat thingy on his bed so i do have to change the sheet and mat but the bed itself is safe. I was thinking to myself though i need some backups of the mat Lilima Thankfully these last few nights have been quite warm but i hate to think of him being cold because he's wet.
Kim i really want it to work for him because he obviously wants it.
Last night was a dry night!!! We had my nephew stay over so bed time was a little later than normal and he went to the toilet before falling alseep (he's very determind about not going if he doesn't 'need' to and i always loose that battle). We were very happy and excited but didn't get to make as big a deal about it with his cousin there. He was more interested in beginning the day of palying anyway. So we'll see how we go tonight, i hope we're getting close.
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Night toilet training??
should've trusted my gut.
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