[urgent]. How to get rid of a bridesmaid.

[Charlotte91]

DP asked her to be in it. I didn't really want her in it. (SIL).

She's being a mole all over FB about me, reporting my status updates to MIL who then rings up and abuses DP about them.

How do I *nicely* get rid of her?

Wedding is in a few weeks, this needs to happen ASAP.

Thanks.

[Catastrophic]

You tell DP to deal with it...
he then rings up SIL and tells her to bugger off outta the wedding party.
Discussion closed.

[Charlotte91]

He can't!! He's too soft!! I'm freaking out.

[LimeSlice]

*Pick up phone
*Dial SIL phone number
*Say hello, but do not enter into small talk
*"SIL, I am not very sad to have to say this, but I do not wish to have you standing up beside me on my wedding day. I don't feel you are a friend to me and so I will not have you in my wedding party. Thank you, but your services are no longer required. Good night."
*Replace reciver
*Pour glass of wine.

[Amity]

*Pick up phone
*Dial SIL phone number
*Say hello, but do not enter into small talk
*"SIL, I am not very sad to have to say this, but I do not wish to have you standing up beside me on my wedding day. I don't feel you are a friend to me and so I will not have you in my wedding party. Thank you, but your services are no longer required. Good night."
*Replace reciver
*Pour glass of wine.

I'd only add - *pour glass of wine first and drink.

[Catastrophic]

or new FB status ... "Tag SIL since your so good at reporting back to MIL, could you please go and tell her that you are no longer my bridesmaid. thanks"

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I agree with Limeslice and Divvy. But don't get too beswipst before calling.

Or you could always text her from your DF's phone, with his knowledge. Or respond to facebook with "and you really think I'd want you as a bridesmaid after that? That's right, I don't." (Actually, just un-friend her on facebook and save your sanity.)

As you didn't ask her, you could always just not get her a dress/outfit, not tell her when the rehersals are and act all surprised when she thinks she's a bridesmaid. My mum asked some of my cousins to be bridesmaids/pageboys that I didn't want at all, so I ignored the whole situation and she eventually had to un-ask them because I wasn't doing anything to include them. Wow, I'm a wuss.

[Tinks]

or new FB status ... "Tag SIL since your so good at reporting back to MIL, could you please go and tell her that you are no longer my bridesmaid. thanks"

Either this or what Lime said.

[sahbear]

I'd only add - *pour glass of wine first and drink.

Exactly that!

[Charlotte91]

Thanks Ladies (still open to more suggestions!). I'm thinking Mumme's suggestion is the one I'll probably go with (coz I'm a sook!)

TFB- Her dress is already been bought and she's tried it on.... Gah, its this stupid fight between MIL and us (as of the last conversation I'm a stuck up, self righteous biatch who needs to get off my high horse....umm, full of 'poo', overprotective, she doesn't know if she's coming to the wedding because she doesn't approve of DP "marrying that".)

This is just so stressful....

[Babyluv]

That's awful, all I can say is hugs and I hope your wedding goes off without a hassle.

[Catastrophic]

Combine both of them...

Pour glass of wine...

Write status....

once message is recieved Delete toxic people out of your life (inc FB)

Have another wine

and enjoy YOUR day. xoxox

[Heaven]

rofl, go with MN's idea!

[ladybird11]

Good luck!

[Miss K]

I HATE MY SIL!!!! She is the same are we related

Ok so I've had to do something like this DH's mother invited her to my baby shower I just sent her a fb message saying " look I know you've been asked to attend my baby shower but sorry you are not invited" and left it at that and she never rocked up short and sweet always works! I never had her mobile number as I CANNOT stand her!

So why not try " Look I know you have been asked to be a bridesmaid to my wedding but unfortunately you are no longer needed, thanks for you willingness to be my bridesmaid it means alot" Pretty much slaps her in the face but also has a nice twist at the end You could also add please feel free to wear the dress still though HAHAHAHA!!

[delphmoon]

Once its done, its done. Don't think about it...just be straight out about it....you will feel 1 trillion times better once you have done it.

You can't have her in your wedding- she is already spoiling YOUR day...off with her head I say!

Just do it hun...

[Jellybean29]

This is your ONE day.
It is YOUR day.
Stuff anyone elses feelings, this is the one day you can be totally selfish (not that I think you are) and demand what you want!

You don't want to 1) have a bad day and 2) look back on wedding photos with her in them upset , just to please others.

I say, pour the wine, pick up the phone, say your piece and hangup and be proud for standing up for yourself

[Cassius2]

*Pick up phone
*Dial SIL phone number
*Say hello, but do not enter into small talk
*"SIL, I am not very sad to have to say this, but I do not wish to have you standing up beside me on my wedding day. I don't feel you are a friend to me and so I will not have you in my wedding party. Thank you, but your services are no longer required. Good night."
*Replace reciver
*Pour glass of wine.

yep, yep and yep!

your wedding, no beating around the bush! go do it!