Im back with a small update:)

[bubno.3]

hello beautiful BB girls

im back .... beed re reading all my post from 2009 and now im in such a different place and a happier place.

im living alone with my 3 beautiful children and my youngest is 10 mths old.....

I have been put thru the ringer but im coming out the other side

And i have no regrets at all re leaving the controlling/abusive marriage

Cheers

Bubno.3

[TeniBear]

Go you! Glad to hear everything's coming up roses for you


Sent from my iPhone so forgive the speelung misstacks

[Charlotte91]

Congratulations! I'm glad everything is working out for you!

[Tinks]

I'm happy to hear things are going so well for you Bub!!

[KimB]

It's good to hear that you are doing well bubno.3

[bubno.3]

mmmm apart from family members still judging me yep i cant seem to do anything right atm !

I left alone and was told i would end up trailer trash if i didnt go home until i found another house .... so i ignored that comment from my mum and didnt speak to her again for 3 weeks

I found this new house 2 1/2 weeks later (those weeks are a blur) i had no visits from my family at all and that really hurts

I moved in by my self too organised a truck and did it .... so very proud of myself. My oldest sons dad and his mum helped me on the day .....

Then my dad finally rang and said he had some beds i coulod have .... first time i had heard from him .

Mum finally talking again liked the house but she doesnt understand why i left him so we had a huge fight and i told her to leave if she wasnt going to be a) supportive and b) nice. I told her im over defending my actions and i shouldnt need to ... and my own mother should automatically been on my side and not of my husbands and where was my family support my hugs my this my that when i so needed it ..... so she left the house July 9 and i havent heard from her since.

Then sat just gone : i has a party for my up coming 41st .... had a few close friends and a couple of new ones and my sister came. BUt the following day rings me and tells me she is very worried about me as im not the happy go lucky girl and is it wise for me to be seeing someone so soon I said im not seeing anyone she said well why were you canoodly with that guy ? i let fly and said F F S he is a friend and if i would like to kiss him i will . I said to her if she doesnt like how i live too well dont come over either.... i told her that it seems that all my friends have been my greatest strenth but all my family does if judge me and now im self destructing as i was kissing a friend and drinking ummm hello it was my bday no kids and first time in a long time it was all about me .

Why why why cant my family just accept me for me ?

[KimB]

Huge hun. Family can be a PITA. You have told your mum and your sister what you think and want so leave it up to them. If they continue to be like this then don't invite them around or talk to them. Your friends have been your strength and will continue to be so. Know that you did the right thing and that you are a great mum.