Unprotected sex, but don't want more babies! WWYD? (warning, waaayyy TMI!)
DH and I have just DTD unprotected. He did withdraw, but still, no condom or anything else was used. Stupid, I know, but well, I guess we got a bit carried away...
Anyhow, we are not planning on having more children. I *think* I am on day 9 or 10 of my cycle (I think AF started last Sunday or Monday). I'm not 100% sure of any of it though, because we were away for a week and a half and I haven't written it down this month. But AF has been pretty spot on for the last few months (about 4mths) and it makes sense if this is the timing. So technically, I could fall pg. It's within the supposed timelines of when you can ovulate and fall pg, again, I'm not charting or even taking much notice of my cycle at all, except when I start and finish my period, so I have no idea if I'm on a 28-day-ovulate-on-day-14-cycle. But my cycles for the past few months have been 27, 27, 27, 28 days.
So what are my options? Can I take a morning after pill? I am bfing my 7mth old, usually 3hrly, day and night. He doesn't go any longer than about 4hrs at the absolute most, more likely 2-3hrly feeds. Is there anything else I could do? Should I be worried at all? Or am I just destined to have 4 kids like I always thought I would, lol? Mind you DH would be rather cranky...
I'd ask at the chemist pharmacists are usually spot on with what you can and can't have and you don't have to pay to see them. I was going to suggest the morning after pill.
But If you don't mind a 4th just let it happen!
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the MAP is available over the counter without any prescription but it would probably be best to have a chat with the pharmacist about it tho. i have a feeling you cant take it if you are breastfeeding. i could be wrong tho. good luck
The morning after pill is simply an extreme dose of the regular pill - usually 4 instead of 1 (I busted my Dr giving me the MAP which was cut from a Levlin Ed pack )
COnsidering you're BF I'd see your Dr and ask about it, but if your DH wasn't on the firing line (so to speak) and considering you're BF so regularly I personally wouldn't be too concerned about it.
Do you know how many days our cycle is? ie 28 days?
If so, you should ovulate on day 14 of your cycle. But it all depends on how long your cycle is.
The MAP is safe to take during Breastfeeding but be sure to mention it to the Pharmacist.
If you don't want to use protection or a contraceptive, than track your cycle. I've used this method for the past 2 years.
You have to be pretty pedantic though. I save everything in my phone calendar. The day I get my period. The day I think I'm ovulating and the day my next period is due. Then I avoid sex around the time of ovulation.
I find it as a reliable method if you can remember to follow the regime.
Kel- I think if your totally "unlucky" I acually dont know if thats the right word.... then you might fall pregant. Im the same as you, Im not on contraception and we dtd all the time and although we use the withdrawal method there are some occasions where that first bit comes out before hes had the chance to pull out (sorry if tmi) and I havent fallen pregnant... but that could just be me!
If youre not fusses about having 4, then dont worry about it too much. GL
If you really don't want a 4th child then definitely go and get the MAP. Might save you from a much harder decision in another few weeks time. TBH I don't agree with the whole "DH can't be cranky, he was there too" comments. If you and your DH have agreed not to have another child, then its not really fair to turn around and expect him to be happy about it. If you aren't entirely sure of your cycle then there's no way he would be. My DH and I are actively trying for a baby and he wouldn't have the first clue as to where I'm up to in my cycle most of the time - he just realises he's getting lucky more often
But if this is what you maybe secretly want but just haven't voiced to your DH then this could be the time to sit him down for a serious chat and at least give him some role in the decision making of whether or not you just wing it and let whatever will be will be.
Me and my DP have used the withdrawl method as contraception and the only time ive fallen pregnant is the both times he didn't pull out. So honestly i don't think the chance of falling pregnant is very high. I would wing it.
I would explain to your DH that there is a chance you could fall pg, and discuss the options with him, and make a decision together..
DH and I spent a night discussing the options a few months back, so I could still take the MAP within the recommended time, and if that didn't work, then we might have been having another child.. If you include him in the decision, he may be ok with the fact another might be on the way..
I won't tell you what to do, but I'll just let you know of my very recent experience.
I'm currently pregnant with a VERY surprise baby. My youngest is only 7 1/2 months and both her and my 2 year old son are both still breastfeeding. I haven't had an AF since having my DD. Also, in the entire month, my husband and I only ever DTD once due to illness after illness in our house. Basically, this baby is as close as you get to divine conception, lol.
I guess my point is, even when the odds of falling pregnant are really really low, it can definitely still happen.
My DH was very against having any more children because we already have 2 together, and we also have his two older sons from a previous relationship that also live with us. Even though he is still quite shocked and still trying to convince himself that things are going to be ok, he has never once blamed me for falling pregnant. If it turns out you fall pregnant, I hope you partner is the same. Hugs to you.
Thankyou for all of your replies!
DH and I had a chat and have decided to wait it out. I don't think it will be too likely that I will fall pg, but if I do, then it is obviously meant to be. I don't want to mess with my milk supply by taking any pills as my supply is hugely affected by my hormones (DS2 gets terribly fussy when AF is around, and DD and DS1 both fully weaned themselves within a few weeks when I fell pg again) and to take the pill, even just momentarily, I am scared would make DS2 possibly wean or leave him hungry since he's not too into solids yet which is totally not fair to him.
While DH and I aren't planning on having another child, nor necessarily want another (by choice!), if #4 is on the horizon, then he/she will come no matter what! So be it. DH would never put any kind of blame on me since he was half of the equation! Whilst I often joke about him leaving me or being angry if I was to fall pg again, he knows full well that he is part of the plan too and I know he seriously wouldn't take it out on me or any potential child. We would never regret any child that is brought into our lives. Although I think if I were to fall pg under the circumstances, then it would be one tough and determined little cookie!
I must just say though, we are usually pretty careful! Not that we get to get busy so often these days, lol! But this is the first time since having DS2 that we have been so...'irresponsible' isn't quite the right word, but I'm sure you get the picture! I would definately not reccommend using withdrawal as contraception unless you don't mind having a child/more chidren. DS1 was concieved using it and though we didn't intend on having another child so soon after having DD, we did plan on more chindren, so weren't being REALLY careful. Though I was vaguely watching my cycle and using the withdrawal 'method'.
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