This is something dh and I have done regularly and we are going through some changes at the moment and I think I will put some thought into it again. It's a wonderful thing to do and it gives clarity and allows you to stay congruent with the life decisions that you are making. So set aside some time and write a list of your top 10 values in order. It may not be as easy as you think Some things are really hard like everyone may think family comes first for them but then if you think about health that is probably even more important. To figure it all out you need to ask yourself things like money and health, well there's no point having loads of money and not very good heath but then money is really important to maintain or fix bad health... See what I mean! You don't need to share what your values are on this thread if you'd like to keep them private, I was just really throwing the idea out there to others who may be interested
This is great to do - there is a section in Organized Simplicity about writing a family mission statement. I have been slack and not done it but it really is good to sot and think about the priorities of your family, off to think and maybe get my butt in gear and actually sit and write one with DH.
DH and I sooo need to do this! we used to have clarity of direction and dreams, but ATM with a move OS and all that entails we really need to focus on our values and the priority we give them. i figure a change of scenery is as good as any time to get that happening
It sure is cas, and wow that's exciting that you are on the move! Things like that I think are on the cards for us, I desire to live os at some stage and to shake up the neurology and I know dh is in favour of that too
Tanstar good luck with it hon, lovely to see you btw, how are you going? The mission statement is a good idea, we have similar things like 'rules' such as can't leave the house without a hug and when we get home there is also a hug and kiss etc and we have a symbol which we designed that we put on everything special, birthday cards etc..
For us when we 1st met like in the same week we did up a path, an individual one and a joint one so we have been on the same page since day dot. We are also doing pretty well with where we wanted to head. The values are something that change I think depending on where you are at. For us though health is really high up there along with dh, ds and I (family) before other family also money is a big one but freedom is even more important then that which is interesting as by having a big home loan we are not free at all! We have the house on the market and when we sell it we will be 'free' and then the other things like travel etc can start to happen. I'm going to also write a path (3,6,12 and 5 year vision) but will need to get those values sorted out 1st so that I know what to put on the path. I know I want to move, travel, get FIT, make money, have a dream home etc.
Last edited by Cherished; October 8th, 2011 at 08:12 PM.
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Thank you for starting this thread.
I have been thinking about this kind of stuff for awhile now. I want to get DH and myself on the same page with our family. This is exactly the kind of thing we need to do together.
I think as mother and father we may have slightly different priorities and then as a family they may be different (slightly) again.
See DH and i share all the big ticket values. we both share a deep need to make 'home'. that wherever we are, whereever we live it is 'home'. this is something we find important. we both really struggled when we first moved to Fiji as it took almost 3 months before we found a place to live and the hotel, although nice, was not home and we really struggled emotionally.
so for us, it is important to always have a base and to imagine a 'safe' home place wherever we go ITMS.
health is also so high on the list, except on this i have my challenges unfortunately .
economic freedom is my bug bear. i grew up below the poverty line and although we did amazingly well all considered I dont want to go back to that, or to have my girls experience that. DH is different in this as he has grown up in privelige and therefore has slightly different values with respect to money management. and although the difference is on paper minimal it is a bug bear at times for us.
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Some things are really hard like everyone may think family comes first for them but then if you think about health that is probably even more important. To figure it all out you need to ask yourself things like money and health, well there's no point having loads of money and not very good heath but then money is really important to maintain or fix bad health... See what I mean! You don't need to share what your values are on this thread if you'd like to keep them private, I was just really throwing the idea out there to others who may be interested
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