What would you do?

[lilima]

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What would you do?

My DS has been in kindy for this year. There is a mother there that has two younger kids, and honestly, until recently i didn't even know that she had two others. She leaves them in the car for every kindy drop off and pick up. Obviously during winter she just left them in the car with the windows closed. (as I was unaware that they were in there) Then as the weather has become warmer, she leaves them in the car with the motor running and air con on. She never seems to rush back to the car, and they are clearly out of her line of sight for at least 10 mins at pick up, and probably a bit less for drop off.

It is downright dangerous.

Firstly, you should never leave a child in a car on a hot day, regardless of leaving it running
Second, someone could nick off with the car
Third, what if the hand brake failed or something else and the car took off??!! (i had a friend that was run over by her own car!)


I know another mother and I often take turns waiting in from of our cars. We park next to each other, and I wait by both cars (doors open) while she gets her DD, then she waits while I get DS.

She is the sort of mum that would go nuts on you if you dared say anything, and I have another 7 years with her (at least) within the school system.

Was thinking of contacting the committee and asking to put a note on the door requesting that children should not be left unattended in vehicles.

[HotI]

Was thinking of contacting the committee and asking to put a note on the door requesting that children should not be left unattended in vehicles.

I like this idea.

[Amity]

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[Butterfly Dawn]

I think that approaching the committee is also a good way to handle it. That way no names are mentioned, no blame or nasty feelings. Its something Im sure they will be happy to do

[Violet Star]

Dont feel bad about contacting someone about it. You would feel worse if you didnt say anything and something happened to the kids.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I agree with speaking up about it, no matter what her reaction is what she is doing is dangerous.

[surprised]

Can a general note to the whole community be put in the school newsletter?

[~StarBright~]

Maybe you could mention that you and the other mum take turns and park and watch eachothers kids and see if she is keen to join in your tag team with you. She might really appriciate the offer of assistance and help rather than the ostrocising of being mentioned in the school newsletter. (Even though I am sure you wouldnt be mentioning her by name)

I do understand the seriousness of leaving the kids unattended though- dont get me wrong, I dont agree with it, but I think an offer of help would be more usefull and would get you further with her.

[helle]

My aunty would do this when she took her eldest to school... My mum and other aunty got wind of it and when she did it next they had followed her to the school and pinched him from the car to teach her a lesson. Kinda mean but she doesn't do it anymore!

I'm not sure what I would do but I think SBs suggestion is probably the kinder of the lot. Otherwise I would go a "no name" option.

[Jennifer13]

Since you and the other Mum are doing it already, why don't you just offer to help her out? You never know when the favour will be returned and like you said, you have another seven years with her potentially. Some of the other Mums at DD's school are the most help to me when I've been desperate! They're even more reliable than DP.

[lilima]

One of the other mums asked her and she said "nah they will be right."

[misty]

Are you talking about me????

Seriously. You could be.
Generally I do 'pick up' where I drive the car up and the teacher puts my DD1 in the car, but sometimes that isn't possible because you have to collect your kid from the classroom. Rather then drag all 3 children out of the car in the rain, or if one (or two or all three even) are asleep, I will leave them in the car for the entire 5mins it takes to go and get my DD1 - they are just as likely to be adbucted from their bedroom at night as to be in danger for that brief amount of time. They are safe where they are and often in a much nicer kinder climate then me making the dash to the classroom.

I am only being honest here because I doubt many others who think the same would be brave enough to do so. I truely believe that parents today have gone completely overboard with their overprotectiveness nowdays. The world in no more dangerous now then it ever was. My vechicle is probably one hell of a lot safe then me trying to wrangle through the school car park with four tantruming children.

So I respectfully and politely suggest that maybe you should mind you own business. You can choose how you wish to raise and parent your children, but the rest of us are also able to make our own decisions. We are not talking about someone leaving their kids in the car for extended periods of time. We are talking about school pick up.

[Butterfly Dawn]

I understand what you are saying Misty, and on some levels totally agree with you.
In alot of countries it is against the law to leave children unattended in a car period 2 seconds 2 hours makes no difference.
If another mum suggested joining a tag team for watching kids while 1 went inside to collect theirs- I would be really happy and relieved to be able to leave the kids undisturbed but attended, wouldnt most of us?

[Bex]

I'd get the kindy to put up a note. It's been on Tv a lot as of late the dangers of leaving children in the car, it's not safe for even 5 mins. It's a very dangerous thing to do. Good luck I can imagine your frustration. So irresponsible.
Children are so precious.

[lilima]

Misty - I respectfully say it was 30 degrees today. All over the news today they talked about kids beingvleft in cars. It is simply not safe. Words like mind your own business are not good enough when we are talking about kids left in cars.

15 mins is extended period. They are out of sigh. Alone in a car park. You can't see them in the car, as I said I didn't even know she was bringing them till recently. Plus it is illegal to leave children unattended in a car.

Thanks for your honesty Misty. It is appreciated, but we are talking walking two kids all of 2 meters inside the building, rather than leaving them alone and unattended in the car on a hot day. Air con on or not. Things do happen to kids in cars. My DH could talk your ear off about all the call outs he goes to.

[diva det]

CHILDREN AND YOUNG PERSONS (CARE AND PROTECTION) ACT 1998 - SECT 231
Leaving children and young persons unsupervised in motor vehicles
231 Leaving children and young persons unsupervised in motor vehicles
A person who leaves any child or young person in the person’s care in a motor vehicle without proper supervision for such period or in such circumstances that:
(a) the child or young person becomes or is likely to become emotionally distressed, or
(b) the child’s or young person’s health becomes or is likely to become permanently or temporarily impaired, is guilty of an offence.
Maximum penalty: 200 penalty units
This equates to a fine of $22,000

[krysalyss]

I agree with you Lilima. You can't muck about with leaving kids unattended in a car either in the heat or with the keys in the ignition.
If you think the committee would address it properly I would get them to do it. If you think either that they won't get to it quick enough or they aren't likely to keep your complaint confidential and you feel she is likely to become aggressive towards you then either leave a note yourself or let the police know. It wouldn't take much for that situation to turn into a tragedy - I know how often I run into kindy only to get caught up with the teacher for 15 mins.

[black_rose]

I leave them in the car to avoid the tantrums and chasing the kids back to the car, but not yesterday when it was 30 degrees. I have a sunroof which I can keep open to keep the car cooler for the couple of minutes it takes to drop my kids off I don't dawdle but on hot days no way will I do it.