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thread: VENT I can't stand the whinging!!

  1. #1
    Registered User

    May 2008
    Melbourne
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    VENT I can't stand the whinging!!

    DS2 for the past.... 6 months easily, does nothing but whinge. It's driving me crazy and as much as i hate to say it i get to the point where i end up loosing it with frustration and yelling at him to stop whinging.

    I'm home with 3 kids, DS1 being almost 5, DS2 getting close to 3 and DD 13 months. My day is spent doing my absolute best to fulfil my children's needs physically and emotionally but my god it's so hard. When doing all i can to be pretty much be at their beck and call i wonder if i've created a bit of a monster in them as they are so demanding. It's hard to know if it's my kids or just kids in general but DS2's behaviour is amplifying things x 10.

    I can only do so much!!!!!!!!!

    DS2 has a great day sleep, anywhere from 2+ hours and sleeps really well at night but i sware sometimes it's like he's ready for a sleep at 9 or 10am if you took the whinging as a tired sign.

    Just needed to get that out, thanks for reading. Am i the only one with a whinger???

  2. #2
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    Jun 2007
    Brisbane
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    Oh sweet Lord no ... you're definitely NOT the only one LOL.

    My DS2 is (in my opinion) Australia's champion toddler whinger - and soooo different from his older brother!! Definitely nature, not nurture, I reckon!

    He has the ability to whinge from the minute he gets out of bed. I love him dearly, but I fully admit some days I lose my rag with him (I try my best to be patient, but after 8 hours of whingeing, whining and sooking enough is enough!!). Some days I can't wait to put him down for his day sleep so I can have 2 hours of whinge-free time. Like you,there are many times I could assume he was tired by 9am, just going off the whingeing.

    He's not like this every day, and it's easier for me of a weekend when his dad is around to share the load. I think at times it is attention he's after. Other times it's because he wants food (he loves his food, but I won't let him eat/nibble every 5 mins of every day). Some days he whinges just cos he can ... I'm sure of it

    A friend of mine had a son like our boys - at age 2 he was a shocking whinger. He grew out of it before he turned 3.

    So here's hoping - for our sakes!!

  3. #3
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    May 2008
    Melbourne
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    Oh i'm so sorry to hear that but it's so good to know i'm not alone

    Our boys do sound very similar, i too savour the few hours when he is asleep. If only he realised he could ask me anything he wanted without whinging so constantly like he does.

    So we're almost at three, absolutely lets hope for this stage to be over very soon

  4. #4
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    Sep 2005
    In the middle of nowhere
    9,362

    noooo you are definitely not alone.

    And if he isn't whinging, or whining or screaming he's being a holy terror....doing my head in after a fairly placid DD.

  5. #5
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    May 2008
    Melbourne
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    Oh Kim, not another one? Same here DS1 was nothing like this.

    AndiE i forgot to say also isn't great when the DH's are home?! Especially as DS2 is his shaddow and just loves being outside with him.

  6. #6
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    Jun 2007
    Brisbane
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    Ha ha, yes it IS great when the DHs are home. Even better when their dear hands-on grandparents are visiting

  7. #7
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    Jul 2008
    summer street
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    With dd, I ask her to speak properly or nicely to me, meaning she doesn't whinge and uses manners. I then give her an example 'mum can you please get me some watermelon' rather than 'i want watermelon'. It has definitely helped, especially since she won't get anything until she asks nicely.

    Not sure if that would help?

  8. #8
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    Feb 2008
    Country Victoria
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    DD1 is the same!! Your not alone and it drives me batty!!! Ive started sending her to her room until she comes out happy because i just couldnt handle it anymore. Whinge whinge bloody whinge!!

  9. #9

    Jun 2010
    District Twelve
    8,425

    Yep. The bad news is as they get older, and more hormonal, the whinging gets more incessant

  10. #10
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    Dec 2007
    Sunny Qld
    14,682

    All of mine whinge. All of them. DD1 is shocking though, and DD2 is getting to the more whingy stage too, so between the both of them I just want to pack up and leave home.... and I didn't think I would feel like that until all the girls were teenagers....

  11. #11
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    May 2008
    Melbourne
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    Arcadia i do do that, with a very calm voice and encourage him to ask whatever it is he's asking without whinging. It's just when it gets a little too much i regretfully loose it

    Oh no so it's really only a small taste of what is to come??

    Ahhh i'll just have to keep working at it

  12. #12
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    Mar 2006
    4,542

    I'm joining this group too - DS who is also 2 is a huge whinger!!

  13. #13
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    Jan 2008
    Brisbane
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    How is his diet?

  14. #14
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    Jun 2007
    Where Chaos is fun and plentiful!!!!
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    Your so not alone!!!! My DS is a whinger, whiner and yes.. cry baby 3 yo!!! I agree on the teaching them to ask nicely. DS is a champion whinger!!!! (3 and a half.. but it HAS gotten better in the last few months!!!!) And when he is whining or whinging too much, we simply say, "You arnt getting _________ until you stop whinging and ask nicely for it using nice words" Its amazing how INSTANTLY his demeanour changes, and he asks nicely!!!! And then how INSTANTLY it can swing right back there if I have done something "wrong" in getting him what he wanted (eg wrong plate or bowl or heaven forbid I cut his apple!!!!!)



    The other thing we have started is that he gets sent to his room if he is just in one of his "moods" and whinges at everything or cries at the drop of the hat.. its then either time for a rest or some alone time in his room until he is ready to come back out and play nicely. This is a nice break for me and for him. He will usually come back out on his own in a better mood. i dont shut the door (unless DD is trying to follow him and then its to keep her out not him in) and i dont inforce a time, he just has to go there until he is ready to be calm and talk normally. And if he comes out and isnt ready, he goes back again. This has helped a lot. He still has his days where it just doesn stop- but that usually after a big day or week and he is just a bit frazzled and exhuasted and tired and just needs some TLC xoxo

    I hope your LO grows out of it soon xoxox

    DD (one and a half) is now getting to the point where she is starting.. but she is much more forcefull in her demands lol. She screams. Its fun.

  15. #15
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    May 2008
    Melbourne
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    Ok so i see i'm not a alone, i sympathise with you all

    Starbright i know what you about the change when it's pointed out to them. If only they realised it really isn't necessary and just asking normally will quite easily get what they want in the first place... for the most part

    Tegam i'm starting to take a real good look into our diet for all of us. I already (or so i thought) am really concious of what i give the kids and constantly look at ingrediants but i think there is more that i could be doing. My kids are pretty good for the most part but it can get a little tricky knowing when they are just behaving like kids do or there is a possible reaction to something.

    Today was a little better. Better go get him in bed, he hastn't had a day sleep for a few days.

  16. #16
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    Jul 2008
    Melbourne
    3,244

    i seem to have a whinger as well! i'm hoping it's just a stage but i'm not convinced it's 'i want' constantly. sometimes explaining that he just needs to use the word for what he wants with a please is enough to get a proper request but sometimes he just loses it. i think i naively thought that if i just explained that he could ask nicely instead of whinging, he'd automatically understand unfortunately i still seem to be repeating this over & over! he's also extremely impatient (no idea where he gets that from)

    i guess it's good though that he's moved on from just saying 'no' to everyone & everything, right?!

  17. #17
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    May 2008
    Melbourne
    1,838

    Yep, sounds like he's moved up a scale I wonder what is after the whinging?? Oh wait... no i don't want to know

    And yes, is seems that no amount of explaining gets us anywhere

  18. #18
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    Jul 2008
    Melbourne
    3,244

    my MIL tells me it should ease off by the time he's about 17 or so

    normally it's mainly just directed at me (well, worse if i'm there) but apparently MIL copped it yesterday when he was there for an hour or two.

    sometimes i just have to laugh though. when we got back to MILs yesterday there was a dog in her garden & it went something like this:

    DS - hello puppy dog
    DS - no doggy, go away
    *dog moves away*
    DS (crying) - i want the dog, i want the dog

    if you didn't laugh, you'd cry

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