obsessed with my boobs

[kelebek]

I wasn't sure what area to put this in and I am in interested in all POV's which is why I put in this more general area.

My DS will be 4 in March and he is obsessed with my breasts. Is it normal? is it a phase? whenever he sees them either naked or in a bra he tells me I have beautiful boobs (but I also look beautiful if I dress up or where some pretty jewellery or have a nice top etc...) he has periods where he just wants to kiss them all the time or use them as very comfy pillows apparently

I have a pretty care free attitude and while I try to be modest I don't have a problem with DS seeing me in the shower/naked/getting dressed whatever. I don't flaunt it but I don't hide it. My attitude is that the human body is a natural form and there is no need for shame. I just thought as he got older he wouldn't be so attached to me, that he wouldn't be still expressing his appreciation for them. I did wean him at 2 and 3/4, I know he wasn't ready and he was only feeding at night but for myself I had to. I still feel a little guilty about it but I wonder if this has caused him to be more obsessed then he needed to be because I denied him his chance to wean himself just feeling a little lost and confused about it all *sigh*

[feeb]

DS1 will be 4 in July and still feeds, and always touches my boobs and kisses my boobs, hand down my top. He does also try and put hand down a friend of mines top and my mums sometimes.

Hugs hun it can get hard at times when they are that much older.

[~clover~]

DS is similar! He always puts his hands on them when I'm strapping him & DD3 into the car. Drives me nuts! He talks about them & kisses them... Or tries too.

I don't know, he is watching DD with them now, so he's seeing that relationship all the time...

[Loveinamist]

My personal opinion is that babies and toddlers are supposed to be obsessed with them...not grown men. LOL! I always remember that anecdote from the anthropolgist talking to a group of mothers in a tribal village (Africa or South Pacific? Can't remember!) who mentioned to them that if women in her culture (Western) walked around with no top on the men would get all excited. Apparently they all rolled around laughing, saying in disbelief 'What grown men act like little children about boobs??'
I think your DS is just showing his appreciation for them and the time he had with them. Completely normal in my eyes. Although I completely understand your getting tired of it. It can be tiring having little hands reaching for them all the time!

[RoyaUK]

MY DD2 is also enthusiastic about my boobs. She's 4 yrs in a couple of weeks time and i weaned her at 2.5 yrs. I'm pretty sick of the touching especially when i'm strapping her or her sister in the car! With DD1 she went through this phase but i managed to distract her to put her hand on a mole i have near my neck which she called 'mummy mole'...instead of down my top. She did that for a while then grew out of needing to touch me all the time. I'm trying the same with DD2 but she's more determined than DD1! She will grow out of it....i know she will!!!

[kelebek]

thanks so much for replying ladies. I am usually not bothered but do know that OH thinks that DS shouldn't be so touchy feely. I know I shouldn't worry what society thinks but can't help but worry that they will think there is something wrong with him for being so obsessed with them

RRH I like what you said about the african people and it makes a lot of sense that if they get that obsession out of thier systems when they are little and if you make it normal that they won't have a reason to be obsessed when they are bigger.

[RockingBaker]

My DDs are obsessed so much so that they ask for booby. They latch and a tiny suckle and then say finished and wander off. It only happens every couple of days but they haven't been BF since they were 6 months old and I'm definitely not still producing milk! In my kids I think it's that is normal for babies so they want to play baby every now and then.