When I was working and DD was going to Grandma's during the day - I'd wake her up about 7ish drop her at Grandma's at 8 and she was back down by 9.30am til about 11ish, then she'd be back down by 2ish til 4.30ish. I'd pick her up at 5ish & we'd get home and do our nightly routine - dinner, bath, play & she'd be in bed by 7.30-8pm.
When she is with me she wakes on her own anywhere from 7-8am, and will only have 1 nap. Sometimes it's around 11ish til 1ish but mostly it's after 1ish & she'll sleep til maybe 2.30pm if I'm lucky, then will stay awake until bed time at 7.30 - 8pm.
She still wakes during the night, sometimes more than once other times, not at all. (Lately, when I go into her off a night she is hysterical when I leave her which she never used to be).
Is what I am doing ok? Or should I insist she has more sleep during the day. When I have tried, she just whinges and cries and screams (OMG the screaming...). At home, she's in a toddler bed and at Grandma's she still in a cot.
It really frustrates me that she sleeps so well at Grandma's and not for me =(
When DS was 18mo, he only ever had one nap. From about 12 or 1 ish for 2 to 3 hours. The length increased slowly. At 12 mo he dropped his second nap but would only sleep for an hour or so. At night he'd sleep from 7.30-8 until 5ish with one or two wake-ups. Now he often won't have a nap at all (he is 3) but sleeps longer at night and very occasional wake-ups.
She might be in the process of dropping the second nap.
Maybe Grandma wears her out more? DS would always sleeps better if he gets serious exercise in the morning as in a big trip to the park, lots of running etc. If we are just doing everyday stuff, he'd sleep less. When he went to his grandma's he was so excited that he'd be running all over the place regardless of the activities she gave him and therefore was more likely to nap ITMS.
We dropped DD1 naps. Now she naps from 12-30 til 2 and thats it. She is in bed (usually easily) by 8pm and is now sleeping through the night til 6-7 (sometimes 8).
We found she was napping too much as she was waking so we dropped her morning and afternoon nap.
Could it be just a phase? I feel for you Nel.B. My 17mo DD changes her sleeping routine almost all the time. I mean I was just getting used to one and she changed and this has been going on since she was born! She cut short her day naps to twice a day, of about one or two hours each. Then (here's the killer) she changed and had only a 20-30 minute nap each time. Her bedtime too she seemed to stretch it to later and later. Then she dropped her day nap to once about 40-60minutes. Just a couple of months or so she's started having a 2 or 3 hour nap but her bedtime is later. Now she goes down between 9.30-10.30pm (before it was between 6.30-8pm). I try to develop a routine, get her into her swag by 9pm but she has a mind of her own. She will just toss and turn in her cot and being silly sometimes and even cry and drop her dummy several times and if I ignore her will sometimes cry harder until she throws up. When she finally goes to sleep she sleeps right thru until 8.30-9am and sometimes close to 10am. So I'm not sure to be thankful for that or wish that she could settle down easily at night without the crying. Just hoping, it's just a phase.... and bedtime won't be as stressfull as it is and she'll continue to sleep right thru the night.
At 18 months it was well and truly one sleep in the middle of the day. Same for all in my mothers group. Down around 12.30 pm for at least 1.5 hours, generally 2-3 hours.
It was moving to one sleep that made him consistently sleep through the night.
Maybe mum is more exciting than nana? My kids always slept well at my MIL. Drove me mental.
It could have something to do with the fact that she is in a cot at Grandma's??
My DS is 18 months old and his sleep pattern is as follows...
8am: Wakes
11am-1pm: Nap
4pm-5pm: Nap (some days he sleeps the whole hour, other days 15 mins - pretty sure he is in the process of dropping this)
6:30pm: Bedtime and he goes down without any issues.
He hasn't woken during the night since he was 5 months old so we have never had an issue with that.
DS dropped down to one nap a day around 13 months. He now sleeps from around 12:30pm for 1.5-3 hours. Bedtime is 7:15am and he sleeps through til 7am. There was only one baby in my mum's group still napping twice at 18 months and he was in the process of dropping the second nap. The other toddlers in my mum's group (now around 21-22 months) sleep from 1-3 hours during the day (one doesn't sleep at all, bless her poor mummy!).
I think you're doing great! Maybe the second nap is on the way out, maybe it's a growth spurt, maybe it's separation anxiety, maybe it's the weather, maybe it's something/nothing all at once...
My only suggestion is to try putting her down at roughly the same time each day. Also, I find if DS stays awake later, although he can do it easily, he never sleeps as well. We try to follow the same pattern for nap time...lunch, quiet play, story time, nap. That way, he knows nap is coming. These things might make absolutely no difference to your DD though!! GL
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and bedtime won't be as stressfull as it is and she'll continue to sleep right thru the night.
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