gentle nightweaning

[trishalishous]

our nearly 2yo has gone from a bedtime and morning feed to 3/4 feeds overnight.
she gets upset with any soothing/cuddless/offers of water, and wont calm down until she has boob. since we are cosleeping im finding it harder, as she rips at my clothes to be fed, butwont let me just cuddle her
we used Dr Jay Gordons technique to encourage her to nightwean, now shes gone backwards!
any suggestions please?

[xXHopeXx]

My DD has been having atrocious sleep, the past few nights she has been sleeping ALOT better, I had a thread about it, in which the lovely *EJ* replied and gave some advice, I would write it out, but I'm on my phone, but check out my thread to see it if you like?


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[YoYo]

Subbing coz I want to know too *typed whilst feeding 21 month old... Again*


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[*EJ*]

girls

I was able to help xXHopeXx which is great, it was only about 6 weeks or so ago that i was there myself.

I'll link you to the thread where xXHopeXx and i were chatting and maybe you can get something out of it also. I became a little desperate at the 12 month mark with my DD. At about 10-11 months she started feeding 2-3 hourly again and i felt helpless to do anything about it. She would not have a bar of DH during the night and the only way i felt i could get her back to sleep was by feeding her. So i did it. Not hating feeding as such, not wanting to give it up in any way but finding myself actually thinking about if it would be easier if i did. Because with 3 kids I NEED SLEEP.

Anyway we got through Christmas and the New Year and i decided it was time for her and I to change things. I was considering the Sleep School method but had been previously with DS2 so had an idea of what they would do and figured i could/should save myself the effort and just try to change things myself. That and the wait to get in was at least 3 months.

So i decided it was time, i'd thought about it in my head a lot and was prepared with what i wanted to do and how, so from me making the decision i was ready we gradualy started to make changes. You have to be comfortable in yourself to make the changes i believe, i'd had many little 'sleep melt downs' along the way but i don't know that i was turely ready to do anything about it until i finally did. Same for DD maybe, she put up a little bit of a fight but it wasn't as hard as i thought it would be

We don't co-sleep but even in xXHopeXx's case she was able to adapt what i was saying to still work for her which is great.

Good luck in maybe being able to make some changes ladies and i'm here for questions if you need me

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[Panda74]

Hi there. I don't have a quick fix but wanted to share our experience. Jay Gordon's stuff was definitely not gentle enough for our DS . He is quite sensitive and I think the key to good sleep for him is feeling safe and secure and loved all night.

I was sleeping with DS1 on a mattress in his room and he was breastfeeding a few times a night (I think he was 2ish) and I was soo sick of it. Especially as I was breastfeeding his little brother as well.

So I stopped sleeping with him. I breastfed him to sleep and then DH slept with him the rest of the night. When DS1 woke and wanted 'booby' or Mummy DH would get me immediately. We never said no to him so there was no anxiety on his part, he knew if he really wanted me I would be there. This worked brilliantly and faster than I expected. Eventually DS became used to a little wait for me and to my amazement was sometimes back to sleep before I got to his room!

Once DS was used to the new arrangement DH was able to start stalling him to see if he would go back to sleep without me or offering water instead of boob and DS was pretty fine with it. We've had bad nights, if DS is sick I still find I'm in there a few times a night.