I want to stop dwelling on things - advice please!

[chody47]

I have this awful habit of dwelling on things, especially in relation to when I've accidently hurt someone's feelings.

An example: This morning I accidently put my foot in it. This is the short version, without any details just in case someone from my workplace happens to be on here... Admittidly I came into a conversation part way through and thought I had the gist of it and made a comment that, to the people involved in the whole conversation, made me seem insensitive (it was honestly not intended in that way at all, I had the whole wrong thought process going on). There was a lot going on so when I realised I'd made a mistake I walked into the adjoining room and was able to hear a comment "some people only think of themselves" said by person A. By this time person B (who had been upset (before I said anything), so I didn't upset them in the first place) had left the area. I went back in to try and apologise to person A and explain that I obviously hadn't heard the whole conversation and to try to explain the reason for my comment. They just walked away from me. As person B had left the workplace by this time, and I don't have their number, I sent them an email apologising. I since heard that person A was having a great time telling numerous staff about what an insensitive person I am....

Anyway, the point of this is, I'm still dwelling on something that happened 12 hours ago! I know there's no way I can change what happened and I've done my best to correct things, but I still can't let it go. TBH, I know that realistically the other people involved are probably not even thinking of it anymore (I know whenever I"ve been in their shoes and someone has upset me (whether deliberately or accidently), I don't tend to dwell in it and just get on with things). I would love some advice on letting things go (unless you think I should be still feeling guilty, in which case i'm 100% there). I know that the way I'm feeling is probably going to result in little sleep and lots of dwelling tonight....

[surprised]

No help sorry hun but I'd love to know the answer too! At least we're not along

[Kazzo]

I know how you feel in a way. It sounds like you did everything you can to fix the situation. It is more the other persons silly behaviour that seems to be the problem and that is not anything you can controll. Try not to do the 'what if's'. What is done is done.

Sorry I am not to much help, that is just how I see it and deal with similar.