thread: Help please. Nearly 4 year old wetting

  1. #1
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    Dec 2007
    Melbourne
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    Help please. Nearly 4 year old wetting

    Just after a bit of advice. I am actually at my wits end. My DD is currently about 4 months off turning 4.
    DD has been going to the toilet to do wee, no worries for around 6 months. She still refuses to poo on a toilet but that's a whole other post.

    Well I should say no worries until nearly 8 weeks ago. Around that time she got sick with a cold and a bad cough. At that time she started wetting her pants again. I wasn't too concerned because it would be hard to stop when coughing like she was. Her cough has been gone for a few weeks now and still the wetting continues. She is wetting up to 6 or 7 times a day. I can't keep up with the washing.

    I have tried talking to her about how big girls go to the toilet, rewards (ie choosing a new book to read before bed if she stays dry all day or using lip balm), tried ignoring it (Ie not making a big deal out of her wetting). She goes to 3 year old kinder and I have even told her that if she keeps wetting that she wont be able to go as it's their policy.

    Anyone have any advice they want to give. I am out of ideas and feeling pretty bad about it all.

  2. #2
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    Apr 2008
    Melbourne
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    Have you had her tested for a UTI? Often they don't cause pain with kids but with her being unwell she may have developed one?

  3. #3
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    Dec 2007
    Melbourne
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    It's worth a try Nai.

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  5. #5
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    Dec 2006
    Smidgen-ville
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    Is she just doing little wees (like holding on but not enough)? Or is she just doing a full wee as though she was in a nappy or on the toilet?

  6. #6
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    Oct 2007
    Perth,WA
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    Help please. Nearly 4 year old wetting

    6 to 7 times a day sounds like a lot. Poor you and your washing machine!

    My DS doesn't go to the loo anywhere near that much, but he holds on and holds on till I have to tell him to go, and even then he still denies he needs to.

    Getting checked for uti sounds like a good idea, is she distracted a lot? Can you take her at certain times a day? Is she drinking a lot?

  7. #7
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jul 2008
    Eastern Surburbs, Melbourne
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    You might have to go back to step one and start TT all over again. Everytime you think of it send her to the toilet, if she protests tell her that she needs to go when told until she starts not wetting her pants again.
    Sometimes it's because they are stubborn, to busy, to lazy, have an infection, attention etc.
    Is there anyway her kinder teacher can say something to her. Then maybe keep her home one day if it keeps up. If she doesn't like going then this won't work.
    Sometimes the last resort is back into nappies and letting her stay uncomfortable. This can work with undies but with winter here alot harder