Do unto others?

[hipmummy]

I have family members (MIL/FIL) who for the last two years have forgotten my birthday. To me that hurts because I value birthdays quite highly (I do not expect or usually give presents, however I consider at least a phone call or a visit).

So what do you do when it comes to their birthday? This person has a big birthday coming up, one that I would usually give a significant gift for. Do we give them a present? (Mind you the first year they forgot was a big birthday for me)?



Do you bite your tongue and still call? Or do you intentionally do nothing?

[Babyluv]

I would still call. I don't know your relationship with them though. Maybe get your dp to remind them when your birthday is coming up.

[Catastrophic]

Call...

And next time it's close to your birthday invite them over for dinner for a birthday celebration...


Cat xox

[RhiChiChi]

I would buy a present. I wouldn't change who I am for them, even if they have forgotten about me in the past. Have you talked to your inlaws or at the very least your DH talk to them about them forgetting your birthday?

[Nai]

I would call and maybe send a card but woulbn't bother with a gift. I only give gifts to a small number of people and they also give them in return. If they aren't the gift giving types and don't give o you then I wouldn't think they would expect one from you.

[Traveller]

I would definitely call and send a card but a gift, possibly not. I no longer send my dad presents for example after he forgot by 30th, and all my children's birthdays for the past 2 years (not to mention Christmas) but I'll always make contact with him so he knows we haven't forgotten him even if he has forgotten us.

[briggsy's girl]

I would (and have) make sure DH rings for the significant birthday (or any birthday really). I would organise a card for him to write in. But i wouldn't make a big effort to contact them myself or get them a gift.

[sloane]

I would buy a present. I wouldn't change who I am for them, even if they have forgotten about me in the past. Have you talked to your inlaws or at the very least your DH talk to them about them forgetting your birthday?

i would probably also do this. you need to be comfortable with the decision you make.

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