I'm not being unreasonable am I?

[Liviam]

DS2 is 6 months old had a minor procedure under a GA yesterday afternoon at 4pm. He has been febrile since 10.30pm and I'm having to give him panadol 4 hourly and Nurofen 8 hourly to keep his discomfort and temperature under control. He hasn't slept properly since waking up from GA just been snacking & napping.
A few months ago we planned in advance to take the kids to the snow with DH's best mate/partner/DD. I do not want to take DS2. I don't think it's fair to him to take him to the snow, travel 2 1/2hrs to get there and then stay at friends house tomorrow night with everything his little body is obviously going through at the moment. I suggested DH take DD & DS1 while I stay at home with DS2 because DH thinks it would be very bad form to cancel the trip all together. Of course I would much prefer to go and be there when my kids see snow for the first time but I just can't bring myself to put DS2 through it when he is not going to get a single thing positive out of the experience especially considering the warmest (if you can use that word, LOL) it is going to be tomorrow is -4 degrees.
Am I being unreasonable?? Honest replies please - I promise not to get narky

[CKJ]

I think you're considering your ds' best interests over some enjoyment (for everyone except him)

With the concern of your ds not being at full health why jeopardize it even more. He would probably prefer the creature comforts at home.

Good luck with your decision

[~Gee_Whizzy~]

not unreasonable at all hun. your little one's health comes first

i hope he recovers soon

[Indadhanu]

Even though it was a 'minor' procedure, he is only 6 months old, so any procedure would probably be draining and confusing and probably make him pretty cranky and clingy. I think you're being totally reasonable, and would question why anyone would think otherwise.

[Lenny]

Wow, i don't think you are being unreasonable at all! We took both ours to the snow for the first time 1 year ago. DS '08 had a ball. Loved the whole thing. Ds '10 was miserable and had a huge meltdown (which is seriously out of character). He was just cold and hated all the layers of clothes. I spent the rest of the day in the car with him and he was so much happier. I was sorry i sort of ruined it for the others, but i hate seeing my kids so sad.

[Enchanted]

Sorry to hear your precious little man needed an op :hugs: No way are you being unreasonable. This is a fun trip, not something that "has" to be done. I'd be doing the exact same thing chick again xx

[Rouge]

Not unreasonable. But I do think everyone is entitled to their feelings here. As mothers we put our children first. Our partners often take the role of putting us first because no one else does so he's probably pining for you more than anything and wants you to enjoy it as well as the rest of the family. My DH would be equally difficult let me tell you especially if we were making first time memories. So try not to be too annoyed, but don't feel bad for not going. On the other foot. If you are concerned get some medical advice.

[Trillian]

I think because you have the option of just sending DH and the older kids on the trip then it's OK. It's not like you're making the entire family miss out and DS2 is still so young that he wouldn't even remember the trip so it's not like he's missing out. I think under the circumstances it's the right thing to do.

[Liviam]

Thanks ladies.I'm majorily sleep deprived at the moment so I needed to run my thought process by others to make sure i'm being unreasonable Just so annoying that our plans haven't worked out

[ss_storm]

I don't think you are. There's still plenty of snow season left of you decide to take a family trip later on with everyone. As someone else said, it's not like you are making everyone else stay at home too.
Fwiw we've lived an hour away from the snow for the last nearly 3 years, and we still haven't been! Lol. Hopefully this year!

[Liviam]

The kids are so excited. Devestated I'm going to miss it. Really wish I could cancel the whole trip so I didn't have to miss out on watching them in the snow for the first time. At least they are young so hopefully they won't remember it too much and we'll be able to go again next year and it will kinda be like their first time.
Can't wait to hear all about it and see their photos.

[OceanPrincess]

Just asked DH. He said he'd be put out by the plans changing - when you have expectations that things are happening a certain way, if they change at the last minute, people get cranky.

He cited an example of the other day where I got cranky when he changed things up on me, I said I got over it, he said yes and it'd be the same thing - he'd be cranky but he'd get over it. And he'd understand.

Although I did have to change it to the beach as when I said snow he said "no I'd want to stay home with you because I hate the snow"

[LuluHB]

I'm just sad for you that you will miss your little guys experiencing something for the first time. There's no way I would take him either.

I hope Mr H is feeling much better soon