So many negative people about VBAC.....

[Sparkles]

Hi,
I am planning a VBAC if all goes well. Got induced with DS at one day overdue due to pre-eclampsia, induction went well with only gels, water broke by itself, fully dilated a few hours later and pushing & pushing & pushing, bubs had turned posterior and was NOT budging. After 6 hours of pushing they called it and in for emergency c/s, after spinal was in checked to see if they could use forceps etc but a no go. Anyway in the last week i have had sooo many people be totally negative about me wanting a VBAC and saying "don't be silly, just cs again!" and i'm like WTF.
My ob is completly supportive unless i get pre eclampsia again and baby needs out but has informed me that how my DS turned is probably the least successful rate for a VBAC after as it may just be the way my pelvis is shaped and this one may do it as well. DS was in perfect position right up until labour! Any thoughts/feedback would be great?? I can't help but start to doubt my decision even though i feel a VBAC is the right thing!! Obviously i still have plently of time but just want to get my head around it all.
TIA

[Charlotte91]

I too found people were really negative about me attempting a VBAC.
I had a cs at 34w due to a breech and very sick bub so my chances of VBACing were really good.

Ignore the negativity, and research research research!

[Miss_Dee]

Ignore the naysayers! If VBAC is what you want, and there's no risk to you or the baby to give it a go, then what's the harm. It's great that your obs is supportive. Don't doubt yourself, there's nothing to doubt.

[BellyBelly]

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[Rosey]

Dont let those negative people impact your self confidence. You could have a totally different labour second time. You can achieve your VBAC.

Have you thought about some calm birth classes? Getting a doula for support?

(I had an emergency c-section also and if/when my time comes again I will give a VBAC my all as I know I NEED it.)

I wish you the very best

[RhiChiChi]

You need to find new friends! lol

As long as you trust in your body & yourself, don't worry about what they say.

Have a look at the link Kelly posted & check out the VBAC thread too - I pop in there occassionally!

Best of luck

[Sparkles]

Rosey - we live in a rural area so doing calm birth classes is not going to happen as we would have to travel and have DS in tow. Alhtough i have been told they are briliant. Once again a doula is something i would be interested in and currently looking if there are any in the area.

Thanks everyone x

[Three Graces]

Definately see if you can find a doula, somebody who can support you throughout pregnancy and labour etc and be your voice and advocate for you.
Great that your obs is supportive. Are the people who are being negative from an older generation? Like your parents generation? I found that I got that attitude 'once a caesar,always a caesar' from older relatives and friends.
I'm always gobsmacked by mums who have a VBAC and don't even know what the acronym means - they just get a Dr or obs who supports it and talks them out of an elect caesar and they pop their next bub out. It wasn't that easy for me and I tried a VBAC and then had to find an obs who supported a VBA2C. I ended up just telling people that we were going to play things be ear and see how it turned out. Very vague and general and only told close family etc what I was planning. Turns out I got pre-clampsia at 40 weeks and had another C.s, however, bubs was in the perfect position, I'd started to dilate and she was much smaller that her previous brother who was a whopper. My obs said at the 6 week checkup that had I not got pre-eclampsia she felt I would have got my vbac (aww, don't tell me that now).

One of the mum's in my playgroup just had her second bub last week and had a successful vbac. You're body has already laboured before and knows what to do. You can't predict any medical issues that may or may not arise, but ultimately it's your decision and everybody else can just go jump! Read lots of the literature on the net - I think there was an article quoting stats that the success rate for a vbac1 is something like 75% and only drops to about 71 or 72% with a vba2c. Australia does tend to suck on the support of VBAC's and a lot of friends were quoting me that the success rate was something like 30%, blah, blah, blah.
I hope you can brush off the naysayers comments and get your vbac in the end, good luck

[Sparkles]

Three graces- thanks for that info. No funny enough it is from my generation being friends & people I know who had to have a cs for no. 1 due to numerous reasons but then just went on to chose a cs again!

[Three Graces]

ohhh, yep get it now. 'Do as I did' kinda thing.
Do you think some are a little jealous of your decision? Especially if they weren't as well informed or got pushed into repeat c.s by unsupportive Dr's?

[Cassius2]

I think it is important to know that posterior positioned babies are really really common and is not indicative of a malformed or odd-shaped pelvis. I recommend checking out 'spinning babies' website so that throughout pg you can try to get the optimal fetal position and learn some nifty tricks to help a posterior labour along.

Wishing you all the best for your VBAC!!

[Mummabella]

I think if you really want to have a VBAC and feel in your heart it's the right way to go then do it Don't let negativity bring you down, I know many people that have sucessfully had a VBAC.

My first bub was prosteriour and I had the vaccum which luckily worked :-/ But the nurses were preping for surgery... lucky little miss made an apperance!
My son moved around so much he ended up transverse (while in labour) and became stuck :-( The dr ordered an emergency c sect because their was a possibility that the cord would prolapse and things could have gone very badly for the pair of us.

Because I am an anxious person, I don't think I could mentally get through labour and worry that I'll have to have another emergency (I have generalised anxiety and panic disorder)... I just think twice I went through long, drawn out labours, with oxytocin so I just want an elective. Not to say I'm not worried about that also.... eeeeek!

[Charlotte91]

I'm so glad I VBAC'd.. Although there were times I begged DH to get my OB so I could have a c/s. Shortly after my OB turned up and told me I was 8cm and "I don't want to hear any talk of c/s's now".

My VBAC was so rewarding. I got to pull DS out and onto my chest. I'm so glad I did it.

All the way through the m/w was preparing me for surgery by slowly decreasing how much water I was allowed to drink and she asked me a few times to consent to a cannula. To which I refused.

If you attempt a VBAC, be prepared for interventions and scare tactics.

[Jennifer13]

I had a HBAC. Best experience of my life and one I will carry with me forever.

It is well worth trying for. Arm yourself with plenty of information to achieve your VBAC. A calm birth course is a great idea, as is a doula. Confidence and faith in your body and your ability to birth is really important, as well as supportive caregivers and an environment that facilitates this.

GL! you can do this!