DS has a split personality!

[Arimeh]

Well, ok, he doesn't really, well he might but its not been diagnosed.

He is a totally different kid at home to what he is at school. The teacher goes on and on about him, his good behaviour, his politeness, the way he is nice to the other kids especially if they are sitting by themselves, he is her "right hand man" at school apparently. She wishes there were 25 of him in her class. She would like to take him home for the weekend - you get the picture.

And the other mums there love him too. Just now I had one of the mums at a birthday party ask me if DS ever misbehaves. They think he is wonderful. And so well behaved.

So then I get him home - and he's a little bugger! Teases his sisters until they scream, chases them around until they cry, whinges and whinges in our faces about stuff and is just generally, well... annoying! LOL He never does what he's told, and always misbehaves.

My child has a split personality, and everyone else is getting the good half, and we're copping the bad half. Believe me, I'm ecstatic that he is so awesome for other people - but gawd, I would so like some of that good behaviour at home instead!!!

Anyone else's child like this?

[Mems89]

Yes, DD1 is much the same. It's because at home she is in her comfort zone so has no reservations about showing her true colours.
At school and out and about she is shy and is conscious of others, so won't misbehave or do anything to draw attention to herself.

[MrsFabuloso]

Yep. Lily is a brat. No-one believes me. But geeze Louise can she be a right little you-know-what. Everywhere else, talking to other people, at preschool, play dates, parties...she's an angel, uses her manners, listens and acts like she looks like she would. At home, she is the instigator of bad behavior. She is a champion whinger and sook. She drives me up the wall!

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

DD1 was like this when she was younger everyone was convinced i was loosing my marbles and this angel child couldn't possibly be driving me crazy.. oh boy have they seen her true colors now though.

FWIW though i think quite a few school aged kids go through that stage, my 9yr old brother is the apple of his teachers eye, at home his pushing the boundaires trying to 'figure out where he fits'.

[Arimeh]

Yep. Lily is a brat. No-one believes me. But geeze Louise can she be a right little you-know-what. Everywhere else, talking to other people, at preschool, play dates, parties...she's an angel, uses her manners, listens and acts like she looks like she would. At home, she is the instigator of bad behavior. She is a champion whinger and sook. She drives me up the wall!

And thats why they are getting married off to each other lol

[MrsFabuloso]

And thats why they are getting married off to each other lol

So they can have a taste of their own medicine? LOL....I think poor Mr A will be in for a run for his money. I feel sorry for any partners DD will have in future!

[Doing my best]

yep.. My DD is exactly the same!!

[Liviam]

Absolutely!!! My two are completely different so much I often double check I'm picking up and taking home my kids not someone elses, LOL!

[~Kaz~]

DS was like this to some extent until he turned two and then the daycare saw some "real" behaviour for a while lol. He still has some tendency to be this way, but probably not to the extent that you're experiencing. I have a mate with a daughter who is like this to a T. Total nightmare at home and really full on to manage but she's an angel when out and about and especially in care. I find it frustrating that carers and teachers who have studied child development and know this is normal for some kids, act totally shocked when you, as a parent, try to balance the picture. In the end I gave up trying to convince some of them that DS really didn't sleep very well at all at night. Ever. Just because they do something in care or school, doesn't mean it's because it's happening at home.