I have to be brief cos it is late. DH is studying really hard atm. So hard that his days off he goes into work to practice for this exam. He has only started this having to do this recently. Prior he was studying at home locked in his office, but at least he was at home studying on his days off. Otherwise he is working pretty hard 40hrs a week plus an on call shift where he is gone overnight and an hour each way to work and back.
Dd has had it tough lately with a new sister a new home and daddy being unavailable. When he passed the first part of his exam, he had a week off and suddenly she changed back into the happy little girl we know. He has gone deep now into his work now and she is regressing and getting anxious everytime he leaves, or we leave anyone. She cries and asks him not to go to work and asks him to stay and be "a good family daddy". She's only three.... It's breaking my heart.
I know that he will sit his exam in 6 weeks, so there is an end in sight. I also know she is resilient and will be ok after this all ends. It is only for a short time.
So how do I help her now? How do I help her cope until we get our daddy back? Any ideas gratefully accepted.
Xx Bella.
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maybe a calendar? you could plan a "party" for after the exam and cross off the days together. each week she could make a new decoration, simple things like streamers etc.
Can he schedule in a certain time of day just for the 2 of them to play? Even if it is 30 mins and they sit and chat or draw etc. whatever she likes doing? Even though he is busy and studying by scheduling it in it will become a habit and might help her a bit? Hope the next 6 weeks fly by
Thanks tanstar, that might help! She is big into rituals atm, so maybe that could help her cope. Generally he does her bed routine with us after his work day finishes. But I wonder if we could add in 30 mins ritual playtime somewhere? Cheers!
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DT, it seems like a if she had calmed down a bit. We are trying to communicate more clearly with her about what is happening and that seems to help her. I think she was also feeding off of my guilt over her distress. Both from me and DH. I think we are both struggling to let her go thru this experience. I am gonna try and do up a calandra this week. And we are establishing more rituals around saying goodbye to daddy, that help her cope better.
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