thread: Am I really the only person who feels like this?!

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    Oct 2012
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    Am I really the only person who feels like this?!

    Some days I wonder why I even want to be a parent. It feels like everything is wrong and I can't do everything to my ability - or don't want to. The thought of being on my own with my children sparks anxiety, which then in turn results in major guilt.

    I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant too which is just adding fuel to the fire.

    I love my children so much.. I just don't know what went wrong

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    Jul 2009
    Riding it out...
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    Being a parent is not easy! I think we all have times where we feel like this. specially if it's been a rough day, week, month... I'm sure your pregnancy hormones probably aren't helping your mood either. They'd be raging right now with all your body's got going on in there to grow and develop your new little one. Try not to be too hard on yourself, and try not to be suer woman. Everything doesn't have to be done right now. Take time to just be, be with your kids, or be veging on the couch for a breather. That many young ones and growing another will take it out of you physically and emotionally. I'm sure you're doing a great job We all have crappy days and even weeks or months, you're definitely not alone

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    Dec 2008
    Brisbane, QLD
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    I cant say if it's normal but I do wonder sometimes why I want/wanted this so badly.

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    Definitely not the only one!

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    Feb 2010
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    We all have those kinds of moments. You're human, remember? Being a parent is a tough gig. 'nuff said.


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    Aug 2012
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    Am I really the only person who feels like this?!

    I've been wondering about the same thing myself - and I only have one! I know for me the sleep deprivation is what's bringing out the worst in me and fuels my depression.

    I hope you can somehow take some breathers so you can recharge yourself. It's impossible to just give give give without getting a chance to recharge.

    Hope you feel better soon.

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    May 2010
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    I was just going to post a thread about "Is this depression or just hating parenthood"? ... I'm a bit different to everyone else though because I find it SO bad that we're not having anymore kids ... You have many kids so must be better at it than me!

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    Oct 2004
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    I was just going to post a thread about "Is this depression or just hating parenthood"? ... I'm a bit different to everyone else though because I find it SO bad that we're not having anymore kids ... You have many kids so must be better at it than me!
    Don't say stuff like that. Im sure you are a wonderful parent to the children you have. Some people just have a higher level of tolerance/capacity then others. I have 5 kids & 3 are high needs. I tell ya, there are days where honestly, if I was given the choice to go back and NOT have kids. I would go back & NOT have kids. But then you have those moments that make it all worth while.

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    Nov 2011
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    Am I really the only person who feels like this?!

    I feel like this so many days too. Sometimes I wish I had stopped at 1, but then something happens that reminds me why I love my 4.

    Be easy on yourself, growing a person is exhausting especially in the first trimester! are you able to get some help with your other kids? (eg daycare or a mother aid?)

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    May 2010
    Australia
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    Yeah true, the good moments are so good that I wonder how on earth I can be so negative sometimes (immediately followed by a big dose of guilt!)
    And the bad times are so bad that I forget how good it can be..... 'tis just life I guess.
    I have 1 child, and have trouble coping daily, so should be grateful that I don't have more to deal with like others do. Sorry, didn't mean to hijack your thread.