So now that I'm 29 weeks pregnant I've started putting a lot of thought into the newest additions arrival.
So a bit of background... I split with my DD's father when she was about 18 months old. From then until she was about 4.5 y/o - it's been just her and me taking on the world (with loads of support from my parents) I have always worked shift work full time so had enough money to spoil her stupid (which I did as a bit of a coping mechanism as I always felt guilty I wasn't there enough) On my days off, her and I did everything together from coffee dates to park play dates to dinners out together. She really is old beyond her years and is like my little best friend. We've been through so much together and 9 times out of 10 she's the one who kept me strong and got me through it.
Anyway since 2009 I've been with my DP, who my daughter gets on with fabulously. He's so good with her and has fitted into our lives perfectly. He has a 19 y/o daughter from a previous relationship that lives in Perth.
So now, we have 11 weeks left to prepare my very spoilt daughter for her sisters arrival. Tips/advice/words of wisdom please!
I must admit my DD is very very excited about the new baby and I've involved her in everything along the way thus far. If anything, I do think she's going to be a little mum herself. But I'm just worried that this novelty will wear off and she will get sick of sharing me - as she's never had to before.
No advice here as such because my kids are much closer in age. Just wanted to share that I suspect it is for siblings as it is for the parents when their firsts are born, KWIM? I found it difficult to adjust to having a child, which made me a bit more understanding of my daughter's behaviour when my second daughter was born. I obviously loved my baby, but I grieved the change in my lifestyle. I believe the same thing happened for my DD when DD2 was born. The wonderful thing is that we all adjust! While we had some difficult times at first, the girls are firm friends now (between arguments that is, lol!).
The great thing about having an older daughter is that you have communication on your side (hurrah!) so use it. I also suspect that having you around a bit more will outweigh the "sharing" of you that has to take place.
Good luck with it! I'm sure everything will be wonderful. x
New baby and 6 y/o sibling: advice required!
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