Ds1 is 6/7 and ds2 is 4/5.
They both still ask to have baths with me and Dd.
When either comes into my room when Im changing they both have a good look
At what age are boys too old to share baths with mum?
What about the ladies change room at the pool? If I take ds2 swimming he's too young to go to the men's alone.
What do I say to them? I don't want to make it into a "thing" iykwim
For me, if they are comfortable with it, I am comfortable with it. We are a pretty open family. I know my boys are younger than yours (5 and 19 months) but I think my opinion won't change any time soon.
As for the pool, I've seen signs at different pools around the place saying any boys over 6 have to use the male change rooms or the family change room.
At my local pool there's signs saying No boys over the age of 6 allowed in female change room (vice versa in the males, no girls over 6).
As for bathing, you do what's comfortable. I'm very open with my kids and I have no issue with them seeing me or DF. We never make a big deal out of it and they know boys and girls are different and why.
Your kids will tell you when it's no long ok with them!
My nephew was very shy from around 5 and no one could look at him!
6 seems like a good age for public stuff.
The boys are ok, they giggle and say don't look at my diddle. I just tell them Im not looking, and give them a tickle on their tummy.
They are both very aware of ladys bodys. And will giggle at ladys who have "big tops" on tv.
Nothing new really.
Hubby is from a sexually repressed culture. There was no sex ed at school really and his parents would never talk about sex. So he is more uncomfortable with the boys in bath with me then I am.
Think he's dreading having to have any discussions with the boys about bodys lol
Our pool has a sign saying that boys aged 6 and under are allowed in the female changerooms/toilets. Personally I think that's still too little, but the privacy of other people has to be respected too. They may not be comfortable with a slightly older boy being in there. My eldest is nearly 12 and he still sees me naked in the bathroom. We don't actually bath together, but sometimes we will tag team and one will get in straight after the other has gotten out. I don't know when the right age is, but I'm thinking that he's going to start wanting more privacy before I will kwim?
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