My parents want my 15 DS to live with them, go to school in sydney. Im fm Melbourne..

[Caz1971]

I have been in tears all afternoon. My 15 yr old DS is up in sydney visiting his grandparents for the school hols. We live in Melbourne. Recently have been a few clashes with him and my husband (stepdad). We have been with his stepdad since he was 3, so he is like his real dad. Anyway. also have been having financial hardships .

So we called my parents (DS grandparents in sydney). His grandfather suggested he come and live with them up in Sydney.

Over my ... dead body! I said why cant u just send some money for him. My mum said oh we will spend it!

Also my DS gets quite nervous/stressed, he is going through that teenager stage. We also have a 4 yr old DS and of course that will bother him!

I don't want my son separated from us. He is just 15. He was going to his senior school this year and so excited , he has his mates here too.

I know that when my DS and stepfather get locker heads he gets really stressed and wants to leave.

My parents say he will have a better life up there, no stress. But my parents are no saints if u know what I mean! we reckon his grandparents are brainwashing him too to live with them. He is not an adult and I seriously think he will get away with alot living up there with them. His stepfather can be strict but stern and he wont be disciplined up there.

what would u guys do??? thanks. we did chat with DS this afternoon but he was very confused? He didnt say anything .

[chody47]

He is your son. I'd say no!

[Trillian]

At the end of the day, it's not up to them, it's up to you. They are probably making it sound like the grass is greener, but have they really thought this through? Probably not. Your DS would be feeling all sorts of guilt - his grandparents have probably talked it up, made it sound like it's going to be awesome, and what 15yo woudln't want part of that? But he doesn't want to let you down either. Get him to come home, go to school and then keep going there for holidays if he needs the time away from things at home.

[Caz1971]

Yes I totally agree with both of you. we said NO! Its unthinkable, trying to break up our family. My parents are psychos. (long story)

[Mumma T]

Your Son, Your choice. I agree it would be grass is always greener, and the fact that your son didn't say anything could be that he didn't want to offend your parents. Good luck xx

[AndiE]

Yes I totally agree with both of you. we said NO! Its unthinkable, trying to break up our family. My parents are psychos. (long story)

Based on this statement alone, you need to say no and stand firm with your decision. You're his mum - it's your decision.

[Footsteps]

Sounds like something my mother would, she told us kids she wishes shed never had us and is trying to compensate for that with my sisters children. One of the 10 million reasons I don't have contact but seriously you did the right thing. 15 is a tough age without outside help. Huge hugs huni. If you ever want to talk pm me x