I don't think so. We have two each for our two DDs but that is because we chose my sister and her husband for DD1 and my brother and his wife for DD2. My DH has three brothers and four sisters so it was too difficult to choose from all of them that is why we chose from my side of the family and also not friends.
I don't think it's too many. I think you consider what each individual can offer, and what they mean to you/the stowaway. I bet they'll all be happy be asked
All three of mine have four... My sister and BIL, asked because they will most likely have guardianship if something happens to me and DH. A good friend from church, who prays for them and will be the ones to take them to church should something happen to us. Then they have my DH's brother, asked to be "fair" to DH's side of the family I didn't see the need for BIL but for the sake of family harmony we included him.
The friend from church - DD has my friend, then our two DSs have her hubby. We are close with the couple, both equally, and decided it would be nice to go with gender so that our kids have someone else to turn to if mum and dad aren't listening. Or something. So our DSs have three godfathers They are lucky I reckon!
My brothers eldest dd has two (myself and SIL's little brother), the other two have four (their ds has te same two as eldest, plus Another of SIL's brothers and his wife. The youngest dd has another of SIL's brothers and his wife, SIL's beat friend and brothers best friend)
We have given dd four godparents as well. Bro and sil are one "set", dh's best friend and his wife are the other "set". They are very different couples and bring very different things to dd in her spiritual development. It was important to me to have someone important to each of dd's parents as her godparents, and it felt most natural to have the two couples as each couple is an important unified unit. Although not family, dh's best friend is closer to him than any family member. They have been friends for over 25 years...
Do what feels right for you guys. You don't have to fit a particular ideal, you don't have to justify your choices to anyone but yourselves.
I don't think you can have too many.
DD has two but DS ended up with four (two godmothers and two godfathers). One 'set' of godparents is the same for both DD and DS and they will also have guardianship if anything ever happens to myself and DH.
DS ended up with my BIL/SIL as well as DH is very close to his brother and wanted him as godfather to our son.
My opinion on selecting Godparents is this, "do what you want and what feels right"
My DD has two female godparents, both aged under 12 years old. (They are actually sisters & DP's own Goddaughters). It felt perfect to choose them to spiritually guide DD through her life.
My DS has one male Godparent, and it is in fact DP's very own Godfather. Again, it felt perfect and natural to choose him.
Our choices have nothing to do with Guardianship.
Sunny love, your answer helped too a lot because I was actually going to ask about just having 2 godmothers or 2 godfathers only.
So four it is if DH agrees. I think he is a bit hesitant because he feels he might upset one of his friends by asking another of his friends but I don't think that will happen and if someone is going to get a bee in their bonnet over it then they are not the type of person I want as a godparent anyway.
DD has two godmothers - DH's sister and one of my sisters. DH and I are godparents to my other sisters daughter (kids are very similar age) so we were sort of sharing it around the family.
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I didn't see the need for BIL but for the sake of family harmony we included him.
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