DD1 is adament that this baby has to be a girl. If you mention it may be a boy then she gets upset. She has even told me that we will have to try again if it is not a girl.
I have tried taking her shopping with me to look at baby boys clothes and the like to get her use to the idea but that did not work.
Has anyone had this issue and did you have any problems once baby arrived and it was not what you LO was hoping for.
DD was exactly the same. Similar age I think to your DD when we were going through this. She was adamant too. Then when DS2 was born, well she told me he was "the best boy ever!"
A couple of days later however she told me I had to have another baby so she could have a sister, and she said that a few times, but each time I explained that mummy and daddy had enough babies now and there wouldn't be any more and she is fine with it now.
Yep. I joke about it now, but there's still a part of me that's disappointed my youngest brother wasn't a girl. I actually cried when I was told I had another brother
We are having the same issue with our DS! He's 3 and he is also adamant this baby is a girl. We've tried asking for his help to find names but he will only suggest girls names. We have showed him the list with boys names and explained we don't know what the baby will be but he just won't hear of it. "I have brothers, I want a sister it's a girl." Is what he says. I have 3 boys so really the odds are for another and that is what I expect it will be (I don't care either way) but DS3 says it's a girl and gets quite upset if we try to say it might not be. I hope he will be ok with it if it is a boy, I'm sure he will eventually, but not sure how to deal with it of he's not ok at the start
YES!!!!!!!! I'm the oldest of 4. And the only girl. Each time dad came home and said I had a brother I was in tears. The last one I cried most of the day. I still wish to this day I had a sister (and joke with mum and dad how mean they are and should try again lol). However I have 2 beautiful girls now
I, like onelittleprincess, was the eldest child. my first little brother came along when I was 2, that was fine, next one when I was 4, I cried, a lot, so I'm told. I desperately wanted a sister. then mum got pg again, when I was 6....another boy, I refused to go to to the hospital to see her or him, I referred to him as "it" for the first 2 years of his life, I was very disappointed and quite horrible about it all really....
but, I do now love all 3 of my brothers, still wish I got that sister though
I always wished I had a sister, bit im lucky I have a brother who pretends for me =p
I never want to find out the sex of my babies before thry are born, but always said the only reason I would ever find out is if it helped a sibling to understand.
My DS told me if DD was a boy that we'd send him back and get a girl. Lucky she was a girl because I don't know how he'd have been if she was a boy. He absolutely loves her to death and I love seeing their relationship grow as she gets older
I think they can. When i was pregnant with dd3, the big girls had their minds set on what they wanted. One wanted a boy and of course the other wanted a girl!
Anyhow, I spent a fair bit of time explaining to them that we didnt get a say in what gender the baby was. In preparing them for a boy, I kept on saying how it would be nice for dh to have another boy round the house, that a boy means they can look after them when they are bigger etc. Also having a brother means that they would have had a prince to play with when they were playing their princess games. My girls were never keen on looking at boy clothes, but I think that is because they couldnt relate to wanting to wear the boy clothes.
In the end though, it didnt matter whether they got a brother or sister. They got a cute little baby, who was theirs to love and be little mummies too. Any disappoint was quickly thrown out the window.
I wouldnt worry about it too much now, try and brace her for the prospect of having a baby brother. But I would be focusing on how she can help you and the baby when it arrives. What her role is going to be and how important she is going to be to her baby sibling. That may shift the focus enough that she wont mind what the gender is.
Absolutely. You should have heard the outcry from my elder two boys when we told them they were getting another baby brother. My 6yo still brings it up that he is sad I am the only girl in our family. Its taken a long time for him to even talk about the baby in gender specific terms I feel really horrible but I try to validate his feelings while explaining that once the baby is here he truly will not care. It can be difficult for them to understand that gender of baby isnt a choice and that sometimes people get all one gender of sibling. My eldest often asks why everyone else (and Im sure it feels that way!) gets brothers AND sisters but he only gets brothers; and 3 at that!
Thanks for your replies ladies and some for some of you and your LO.
Freya and Willow, you will both be able to report in on your LO reactions very soon. Good luck ladies, I hope everything goes well for you both.
Beans, thanks, I have told her how much she can help me but she says she will only help if the baby is a girl. She says if it is a boy Daddy can look after it. I am hoping like you said that just that there is a baby will be enough and she will forget about what sex it actually is.
Schonell, funny how kids think to just send it back. Glad you DS is happy.
~TT40~ I actually thought about finding out at my scan last week just so I could tell DD1 and help her get use to the idea but DH really wants the suprise and so that is what it will be.
OP, I am glad your DD is happy with her brother. Gives me some hope.
I am hoping that if the baby brings along some sort of Barbie present that it will win DD1 over with that. I did not want to do the present from baby to siblings (just siblings to baby) thing but if it will help then I will.
I may have DD1 on side if baby is a boy now. We told her the name we will call the baby if it is a boy. The name is also DH fathers name so DD1 calls the baby 'Little Nanu' (maltese of grandfather) now. She is excited now that it might be a boy, She still says she wants another sister but a brother will be okay too
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Can siblings get gender dissapointment?
for some of you and your LO.
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