I was just replying to my other thread about dd and getting her changed out of her class thanks to bullying. This is what I was writing:

"When it came to bullying with dd, she doesnt talk about it. Instead what happens is she gets physically ill (in every way possible), talks negatively about herself and us (her family), she uses words that are never used at home, and she lashes out physically then cries. Last year when this started we didn't understand what was happening to her. It took months to work out what was going on. We had her at the drs, making her have blood tests, allergy tests, we even talked about behavioural issues. In the end, dd mentioned something very small, but it made everything make sense. She didn't see what the kids were doing as wrong, she didn't get that it was not the right behaviour. We went to the teacher and had a meeting and made an action plan. As soon as it was implemented the symptoms that I just mentioned slowly stopped. This year, this started on the first day back at school, we gave it a couple of days before we realised that it wasn't coincidence."

I remember being bullied at school. I never ever talked about it, yet I would have shown almost identical signs that my dd is showing.
Also my dd doesn't understand at 6yrs what bullying is, how it happens, how it makes you feel. I know they have programs and special days (they just had the wallabies there talking about bullying, but absolutely none of that sank in with her), but at 6yrs I don't think she (and many other kids her age) understand the fuss, or the danger about being a bully or being bullied.

Also I think that the term bully has such a wide definition that for the younger ones it is hard to define it, understand it, and to be honest it sounds mean to call someone a bully (almost like an overreaction I suppose) at times.

But mainly I wanted to start this, to say that watch your kids, being bullied, picked on can show itself in so many ways, and a lot of the time kids, especially the young ones have trouble describing what is happening, or how they are feeling.