having a down day :(

[sassymummaof2]

I havent thought about VBAC for a few months now,
im currently 36 weeks preg, and doctor wants an answer this coming monday
so ive been made to think about it again
I have had one, natural birth after 23 hours
and induced with my second, after 6 hours resulted in a emergency c-section due to fetal distress

my c-section was only 13.5 months ago,
im just haveing bad thoughts that i cant do it natural anymore,
im scared i willl never forgive myself ever if i rupture and baby either has braindamage or dies,...
Im just not sure im willing to take the risk
im wanting to have another baby in a couple of years time, and im scared that if i do rupture , and loose my uterus, this wont be able to happen,

I just want this baby so badly, i feel that me not wanting a c-section , because of the pain and recovery after, is being selfish , the thought of the pain from it makes me almost vomit and cry ,,,


can some one please , let me know if they had / having these feelings and how to overcome them

[Sammiejane]

Hugs for you! I hope that you are feeling better soon.

I cant help you as i am just recovering from an emergency c-section myself, but only offer words of support...

Do what your gut tells you to do - if you really want to have a VBAC but dont want the pain why not explore other pain relief options.

No Dr is going to put you in the position of risking the life of you or your child, i am sure that the interventions are going to be there if you try and then bubs becomes distressed or if you look like you are in trouble.

There is nothing wrong with trying for a VBAC and then deciding that you can no longer handle it...

which ever option you choose is not you being selfish, you are the one that needs to deal with either the labour or the c/section, no one else can do this for you, so make you decision that you are happiest with (not what the Dr, your partner, friends or family exect or want from you).

Good luck and i hope that someone else will be able to offer first hand advice

[{sarah}]

Just keep telling yourself that there is less than 1% chance of a rupture.... It is far safer for both you and bub to have a VBAC over an elective c/s. There are far more risks IMO in having the c/s over a vaginal birth.

If you were induced, this more than likely contributed to your bub going into distress, so without being induced this time you should be fine. It is not selfish to want to be healthy & happy with minimal damage to recover from. Who wants to deliberately go fr surgery when there are other options, it's not a selfish decision at all.

Ask yourself, will you regret not giving a VBAC a go?

I say go for it, there are signs of a rupture that can be caught well before bub or you re seriously hurt. One of our members had a rupture & she went on to successfully have another pregnancy with twins.....

YOU CAN DO IT!!

[feeb]

A VBAC is a fairly safe option as you are monitered closely and any signs of fetal distress or uterine rupture you would go for am emerg cs.

1.Given that u have had a vaginal birth in the past you know your body can do it.
2. You have another young one at home who you wont be able to pick up for 6 weeks if you have a cs.
3. You want more children so a VBAC is a better option for you as many doctors will strongly suggest you onlt have 3 cs so if u have this one by cs you then will often be suggested to only have 1 more child.
4. a cs is major abdominal surgery so all the risks of surgery are still there.

Good luck hope this helps you a bit

[deancey]

I am sorry you are having a hard time making up your mind. I am due to have my specialist app on monday to see about having a VBAC so I will be in your position in a few days.

At the end of the day for me though I just want my baby to be born healthy and if that means another c section then so be it.

You have nutured and cared for this baby for the last 9 months so no one will think any less of you for electing for a c section if you choose.

My major pull for having a VBAC is quicker recovery as I have a 2 1.2 year old to look after also. I dont like the fact that I shouldnt be driving for 6 weeks and not picking older child up.

I hope you can make your decision and be at peace with yourself. Talk it over with your partner and maybe you can both reach a decision you are happy with.

[Ozziehoffy]

You can do it!! You have to trust your body.. that it knows what to do, it's done it before. I had a successful VBAC last year and I was petrified but did a hypnobirthing course which helped me tremendously. Gave me the courage. They do keep a closer eye on you with a VBAC so they are aware if things are happening which shouldn't. I had to have vacuum assisted birth as bubs was in distress but I still got my VBAC. You do what you feel is best but I know you can do it!!!