Whats going on with my boy? (little bit tmi)

[sconeonamission]

Hi!
My almost 12mth old...

Last week (starting Monday) he's been vomiting. Once a day. For the first 2 days, it was in bed at night. Then the next 5days it was during the day. Still only once a day. No particular time, just whenever. The worst was in the car and I looked back at him and he just started heaving it up. I wondered where he kept it all. Both before and after the spew he's fine. Saturday, he power spewed onto dh and then later at lunch he fed himself til he perked then ate somemore. Hasn't been sick since saturday lunch.
Then, on Friday, the nappies started changing. They are feral. It's like wet cottage cheese (sorry for tmi) and no matter what he's wearing, it escapes. It would make even the best of *these smells don't effect me* ppl gag (coz normally I am and yeah thats what happened).

He finally got his tooth thru on Sunday. It's a left bottom tooth, the one next to the one in left one in the middle. I thought that would fix the nappy issue, but it hasn't.
Possibly the opposite bottom tooth (the right one next to the right one in the middle) could be coming thru.

He's been pushing things round for ages, but not walking on his own. Last week also he started to stand on his own for a bit (anywhere from about 10 to about 30seconds), mainly when he isn't paying attention to what he's doing.

At what age do toddler tantrums start? Is "toddler" the best word? He doesn't toddle, but he's not a baby - he's almost 1!! But it's definately a tantrum. Ate brekky today rather happily but tried to put him on the floor and he arched his back and wouldn't bend. So I just lay him down and he kicked his feet crying, tears streaming. He can get cranky, but this is the first time he's done something like this. Arched his back again when I tried to put him in the car seat. Is he frustrated coz he's not getting his own way? Maybe there's another issue or pain somewhere? It's a shame he can't talk yet coz least then I'd know!!!Refusing a 2nd nap which he does need (again, just in the last week), and waking once thru the night (but this could possibly be coz he's breast fed thru the day and when I'm at work at night he has one formula feed - maybe it's the formula?!?).

It does seem that a lot has happened in this last week. I just thought -- maybe a growth spurt? Does that cause kids to go berko, or is mine just a cranky baby.

[Trillian]

It's normal for them to start asserting themselves at this age and earlier, and its fine for them to do that as they learn their boundarys etc. With teething, I know it can cause some pretty caustic teething poos to happen, but combined with the vomiting I would be looking at something else as being the cause. It doesn't sound like a gastro bug or other viral thing to me - maybe an intolerance or allergy? Besides the formula, has there been anything new introduced to his diet or anything?

I would be following his cues ATM with sleep and everything because he is so out of sorts that trying to make him follow any old habits will be hard when he is both unwell and going through some major developmental leaps as well.

[Nadine216]

I'm not going to be able to help with the poop and vomit issues, but I can say that my dd also arched her back from a young age whenever she does not get her way or feel a bit ... well ... unreasonable. Your lucky that he is not stomping his little feet and flapping the little arms yet .. now that has me totally off my usualy self-controled high-horse , iykwim.

So all I wanted to say is that you are not alone with an arching baby I have a little half-moon daugher myself. I usually just let her lay on the floor for about a second or two, then pick her up and give her something else to do. If she arch while I'm trying to put her in her carseat ... I firmly tell her no and place her with determination into her seat and buckel her before she can slip off. If she throw an arch when I need to pick her up at the shop or somewhere, I just pick her up and hold on tight and say loudly "NO" and just keep walking and thus affirming my autority so to speak. It's hard and she really gets to me sometimes, but it's important to not let them see that you are thrown by their little display of rebellion. Ususally she gets that she is not getting away with the behaviour and stop just as fast as she started .. other times it's tears from dd and heart-shattering-insides for mommy, but after a good cry and a even better cuddle ... all is well in mommy-dd-land

GOODLUCK!!

[alioops]

Rhiannon the vomit and poo worries me. I think you should take him to the Dr.

As for the Tanties, They can start anywhere between 1 and 3, Sarah started when she was 1 and now Em is starting to be a bit the same

Jensen is growing up hun. He has learned that he is no longer part of you and can do what he wants to do. I miss my baby too!

[Janie]

Rhianon, I'd take him to the Dr for the tummy stuff.

As for the tantys, my DS started them at about 13 months........which I was totally unprepared for. Full on arching the back, rolling around on the ground, kicking and screaming tantrums. We know how to handle them a bit better now, well at least for the moment All a part of it hun, welcome to toddlerhood

[Nai]

At 11 months DD would throw herself on the ground and bang her head on the floor if she didn't get her own way. I just let her do it and walked away - she soon realised that the banging hurt and didn't get her anywhere so she stopped but she still has tanties big time.

I would also see the GP about the vomit and poo...

[sconeonamission]

Thanks guys! Well he hasn't vomited since Sunday and his nappy is so much better! I was expecting to find the same, but it was almost back to normal! The only thing I can think of that would have made that happen was.... ice cream. Now now, I didn't give it to him. My grandma and DH's mother. tsk tsk. I could mil out and basically told her no. Looked away and looked back again and she gave him more... grr LISTEN TO ME I AM HIS MOTHER!!

now thats off my chest, I'm disappointed we're into the tantys so early (well I thought it was early - tbh I didn't think it started til they were 2). Just will not go down for a 2nd nap. Has his 1st nap between 9-9:30 til around 11-11:30. Thats it! Today I had planned to get things done, then a migrane happened and I was going to have a nap when he napped.. NOPE! It's harder to deal with a tanty with a migrane . We have a health nurse appt next week, so I'll def be bringing this up.

[Trillian]

Glad to hear that the nappies and his tummy seem to be better. As for the sleeps, some babies will just drop them and be fine. The more you fight with him over it the more he is going to fight back. The only thing you can really do is watch for his tired signs and pop him into bed as soon as you see them.

[Nadine216]

I'm also happy to hear that he is doing better

Just wanted to add a little incident that happend this morning ... regarding the tantrums.

I gave dd her vitamin-syrup and told her to hold the spoon for me. She was sitting on my bed and as I came back to wipe her mouth, I asked for the spoon back. She, being the who she is, placed the spoon firmly under her armpit and said "mine" So I asked again and tried taking it away (OK, I could just have left her with the spoon, but it's sticky with syrup and we had to go to day-care .. what is that saying about picking your battles??) So in the end I took the spoon from her with a polite thank you and WHAM ... she arch her little back and started to throw a tanty. DH was on the bed with us. I left her like that (sort a under his watchfull eyes) and I did not take two steps, when she rolled over twice and off the bed

I felt so bad!! She cried a little and could not decide who is to give chugs and dry tears ... daddy or mommy. But in two minutes time she was back to her old devious self

So watch-out for tantys on your bed ...

[sconeonamission]

Noted, Nadine! He fell off the bed the other day and yeah I felt so bad too! Had a nice red mark too!

Well, not as bad tantrums today, just when I tried to put him in his car seat. Is this normal?
And whinge-y, omg. And clingy. Whats happening? Let go of my legs! I have hot water. I'm baking. I'm trying to get you food. You were happy a couple of minutes ago, pushing the washing basket round the loungeroom.

Sometimes, the only way to make him happy is to give him food, namely fruit. But, then I worry that i'm giving him the wrong idea about food and he's goin to have a bad diet in the future...

He could eat a whole punnet of strawberries, greenery and all if you left it in front of him too long.