A side point to another thread about naming private parts and the importance of using the proper terms..
How young do you teach children about protecting their private parts (i know the answer is probably ASAP) and how do you do it? What do you say to a 2 yr old, and when does it come up?
With DS i havent because he simply would not understand plus, we still have to change his nappy and wipe him.
With DD i have started saying that her chest, bottom and vagina are private to not show them off or to lift up her skirt in public. She has no modesty what so ever she will run around naked in front of anyone. However i think that message is getting through somewhat because she closes the toilet door now and says she is in there and hates DS following her in there. I have told her strangers are not allowed to touch her but havent been able to say that we cant as she still needs help with wiping herself when using the loo as she won't do it properly.
Yeah. I've sort of just in passing said that no-one can play with his penis, and that mummy & daddy can only wash it (altho I usually hand him the washer to wash it himself these days anyway) This is usually when he's in the bath. But I think it was in one ear and out the other, and of course I didn't want to harp on about it with him.
There's always someone around here nekkid. Both kids know their "private space" and only mummy, daddy and the doctor can touch that area if mummy is there.
Keep in mind one of the things parents forget in sex education, is not that no one is allowed to touch them there, but THEY are NOT allowed to touch anyone else there too. Another bit of info handed down from kinder, sometimes if a child touches another inappropriately its not always because they are being abused at home (or have access to material they shouldn't), sometimes its something that just happened they got a reaction and because they weren't told it was a no no they continue it just like other behaviours.
We told Paris at around 3, it started off slightly different to what she knows now, and we will do the same with Seth.
We have started explaining that only mummy and addy can touch her bottom. When she is at childcare her carers can help her wipe and of course a doctor if mummy or daddy say it is ok.
DD1 is a little exhibitionist and loves wearing skirts so they are often being lifted up. She also just loves dropping it all, bending over and yelling "look at my bottom". We have a long way to go with her
Yep, what Niliac said.
DH lets Darcy wash herself, as we've taught her that the only person who should be doing that is her or mumy if it's important, but we've taught her that it's the same for everyone, only they sould touch their own parts.
Yep, we just got Everybody's got a bottom, for Coco's 3rd birthday. Before that I hadnt' really mentioned it, now we're reading every day learning about it. The problem I have is that the book says it's ok to touch your own body, which of course it is, but Coco is toilet training and is CONSTANTLY touching her self as it feels different, but getting sore, so I am saying "don't touch" and now Im saying "you're allowed touch". All very confusing!
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