TTC after MC

[Zecca]

Morning Everyone

This is my first time to this forum. My DH and I have been off the pill for just over 12 months now and I have been taking Clomid (seeing a fertility specialist) since June 08. We conceived in October 08 and I MC early Nov 08, I was 7 weeks, but the babies heart beat was very slow. I found it so hard to cope with, I couldn't stop crying and the pain in my heart was unreal

It has now been 2 months since and I have been back on clomid and I am on day 25 of my cycle today. I find out next Tuesday if I will get a BFP.. fingers crossed but not feeling overally positive

I find it hard to keep positive, I am so worried it will take along time to conceive again and I am worried I will MC again... I walk down the street and there are pregnant bellies coming at me from all directions and alot of my friends are expecting at the moment. I know what I am feeling is normal, but how can I relax and stop thinking about it ???

We tried IUI last month as well and it didn't work, DH has alot of sperm but they aren't of good quality, he has a very stressful job which doesn't help. I have had him taking the new menevit tablets so we will see how they work.

Thank you for listening to me

[PandaGirl]

Hi Zecca
Im sorry for your loss and hope you get good news. We had mc in dec and was/am feeling like you. we are trying to get pregnant again, im not sure if it will but I feel if im pregnant then the day I was ment to have my first scan, EDD etc might be less painful, could also be wishful thinking on my part.

And welcome to the forum, its my new addiction

[Zecca]

Hi Pandagirl

I am sorry to hear.. it is such a horrible thing to have to go through. But I do suppose time will heal things. Although I still have my days, when I wish I still was PG... I think I am more worried now about getting to the due date and still not being PG.

I hope we are both PG very soon -

I think I will become addicted to chatting on here too - it has already made me feel good being able to express myself.

Zecca

[satya]

I'm sorry for your loss. Try not to stress too much about it taking a long time to conceive again. I used to hang out in the TTC after M/C or loss threads & found that most women would be pregnant within just a few months of a loss - heaps by 4 months - nearly all by 12 months.

I remember very well how hard it is after a loss seeing all those bellies & bubs. They seem to stalk you everywhere you go. I knew I had to find a way of dealing with it because I was not coping with it well at all. I realised that when I saw those women I didn't know their history. I didn't know how hard they may have struggled to get that bub. So when I started to imagine that the woman I was looking at may have suffered losses, or taken many years to have the bub I somehow felt better about it.

I remember a few times during my pregnancy & since the birth seeing that longing look in a womans eyes.... I remembered that feeling very well so I could recognise the look when it was directed at me. One day you will be the one receiving the look because of your big bump & you'll wish there was some way you could reassure that woman that one day she too will be in the same position.

Best of luck for the future.

[Zecca]

Staya

You are so very right... everything you have said makes sense. I will try that from now on and not think negative thoughts about them.

I hope I am able to concieve again in the next few months, but I am really glad I have joined the forum now to chat to people cause it is so nice to talk to people who know how you feel and what your going through.

I know I will be one of those pregnant women one day and that I am meant to be a mum and have a baby, it just feels sometimes that it is so far away. But it could be closer than I know... I just have to have patience.

Thank you

Luv Zecca