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I became a member of belly belly when I 1st became pregnant.. My babies were born at 24wks and 2 days and only survived for 12 days.. It is sad that I should still be conversing with my belly buddies. I wasn't due til March 11.. But instead I have joined a different part of the forum.. My babies were born on 21st of Nov 2008 and passed away 3rd Dec.. I am not coping with the loss at all and with all the distractions over xmas and new year I think it is only just starting to sink in.. I am going to a bereavement support group next week run by Bonnie Babes on the Gold Coast.. I think speaking about this with people who understand would be more beneficial for me than seeing a health care professional.. What do others think.. Altho this is the worst thing to have in common with someone it helps to know you are not alone.. I miss being pregnant and I feel ripped off.. To go thru labour and birth and to still come home with nothing but a memento box.. I do have to say the hospital was wonderful. We also have alot of pictures which we have all around our house. Anyway I was just wanting to tell a bit of my story. Also I wanted to comment on some of the insensitive people say. Eg A friend of mine sent me a text (she lives interstate) that said 'hope the new year brings you health and happiness' Sweet, yes but i couldn't help but text her back 'I have just lost my children how can I be happy?' So she text 'I am sorry you are feeling bad about what happened, I hope you can set more positive goals for the future' So I then got angry and sent back 'BAD you are sorry I am feeling BAD?? My babies have been dead just over a month you have no idea how I am feeling! and as for goals.. MY GOAL IS TO GET OUT OF BED EVERY MORNING!!!' Does anyone else feel the same way.. Sorry for ranting but this girl has known me for 13yrs..She is a mother.. It made me angry!!
Last edited by blessedatlast; January 23rd, 2009 at 08:24 PM.
I'm so sorry for your loss... no-one should have to go through what you have
I'm sure there'll be a few girls in here soon who will be able to offer more support.
I just wanted to let you know you have come to a great place, there's lots of support & advice here on BB & all of the ladies here are wonderful, caring & supportive.
I hope you sharing your story somehow helps ease your pain a little......
Blessed I am so sorry for your losses I don't know what else to say... I'm sure others who are going through the same thing will jump in here soon with some helpful advice and support
BAL I have been thinking of you so often...there are no words...sorry just doesn't come close. I have found the support here on BB has got me through some of the toughest of times and I know the girls will all rally and stand firmly beside you...you have every right to be angry and to say how you are feeling...there are people in this world who will just never get it...Big hugs hun xxx
Oh hun, I am so sorry about the loss of your beautiful boys. This is a horrible journey that noone should have to make. I have been to a few Bonnie Babes meetings and have found great comfort with the ladies. Like you said, it's unfortunate that they have lost too, but good to have someone that REALLY knows what your going through. Close friends are great but don't realise that some things they say can cut you to the core.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious sons. I wish I had words that could take your pain away but the pain will stay in our hearts forever. I lost my son at 24wks nearly 3 years ago now and I still grieve for him but gradually we learn how to deal with our grief and it does get a bit easier with time. Just take day by day. I'm sorry your friend's were very insensitive with what they said, no one can really understand unless they have suffered a loss themselves, you will find lots of comfort and support here. I hope you benefit from counselling as I think talking about your loss will help you get through the grieving process. Take care, lots of .
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Taite and Seth my gorgeous boys
I don't know what else to say... I'm sure others who are going through the same thing will jump in here soon with some helpful advice and support
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