I have booked B in for one on the 2nd of March and im totally freaking about it - i actually can't stop crying!
Took her to a Childrens Health Care Nurse today and she recommended - ive known for a little while that it would prob need getting done eventually, but now that its booked in im feeling like such a bad mum!
i wish it was picked up at birth, so it could of been done straight away, i wish someone found it before i gave up breastfeeding, because we were having massive troubles, i wish the Pead had of picked it up at her 6wk appt.
But no one mentioned it - i had to discover it myself!
and when she has it snipped she will be 4mths old - that has to be absolutly painful for her.
How bad of a mum am i for not getting it done sooner!!!!
You are not a bad mum darl, your a fantastic mum to gorgeous little B !!
I am sorry that the dr's didnt pick it up at the 6wk check up but you have picked it up now and your doing something to help your daughter so dont for one second feel as though you are a bad mummy ...because you aren't.
Hun, please don't feel bad. DS1 had a tongue-tie also and we only discovered by accident when he was 2 weeks that that was the reason he couldn't attach. Before that a couple of the midwives had mentioned that he had one, but didn't think it was causing a problem. We were just very, very lucky that we saw a doctor who specialises in t-t - we went there for something else! He ended up having it snipped at 3 weeks and it was very easy and painless.
I am sure it will be fine hun. I know of people who have had it done in older babies and it hasn't been as bad as they were expecting. I hope this is true for you also. And definitely don't feel guilty - it's the health system that's let you down.
dont feel bad hun! DD had one and we had it snipped at 9 weeks and it wasnt that bad at all! as soon as it was done and the doc was finished i stuck a bottle in her gob and that was it! no tears, no bleeding! :hugs: i think its harder on us mums than it is for the bubs, just like immunisations, we stress they dont care all that much! good luck sweets she'll be fine i promise
Thanks MR and Skybie - i feel a little bit better about it - i know it will make things easier for her, and in the long run she will benifit - but im just so upset it wasnt discovered sooner. I beat my self up and cried for ages when i gave up BFing, and to think if this was found i would prob still be BFing! Oh well i guess no point in dwelling on the "what could of beens", is there?
Hopefully it wont hurt my bubba girl too much! i cried with her when she got her needles and im sure going to cry with her when she gets this done! life can be cruel, but i guess there are worst things out there.
im sure come the next day she will forget about it!
Thanks for telling me about ur experiences with t-t!
Ooooooo tomorrow is D day and im soooo feeling sick about it!
Poor B has been sick with a cold the past few days too and is just starting to feel better, so im feeling extra bad for what is about to happen tomorrow for her!
Im thinking i should cancel and give her a break a bit - but the appt was hard to get and the longer i leave it the worse it might be for her.... or should i cancel?
Incase anyone is interested B had the snip done today!
Broke my heart hearing her scream, but she is as happy as Larry now! However still not drinking! im hoping thats okay and things will be fine tomorrow!
Just thought i would quickly pop in and say it has been almost 2wks since B has had this done and she wont stop sticking her little tongue out! soooo cute!
so very glad that we went ahead and did it!
however come time for bub number 2 instead of checking for 10 fingers and toes i will be checking for tongue tie!!!
DS has tongue tie....at every check up i always get the nurse to look, but every time she tells me the same thing 'Its not to bad, he is drinking fine so dont worry'...but i do...he cant stick his tongue out and when he tries he gets a W tongue
Kim - I was told that also at every check up - i was also told that it will fix its self eventually - but i didn't want to take any risks - and risks B have speech problems etc later in life - so i thought while she is little may aswell get it fixed - i thought about it ALOT!!! and now im SO glad we got it done!
she had a V shape when sticking her tongue out!
Its totally up too you but in all honesty - i recommend getting it done!
Sorry I've only just found this thread!
Hj1981 - Glad to hear your DD's snip was a success! It is fantastic watching them poke their tongues out huh?
Harrison had his TT snipped at 5 weeks. It made a huge difference to how he fed from me... straight after it was done he went on the boob and fed properly for the first time, no nipple shields, just me and him... it was fantastic.
He is 2 now and very cheeky... he pokes his tongue out at us and we feel happy that he can do so... even watching him lick ice cream makes us happy because if he hadn't had the snip done, he wouldn't ever have been able to do those things.
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