My FIL has had a lot of trouble recently. MIL has divorced him and I believe she has married someone younger than my DH (whole other thread...I don't even want to go there).
MIL has the kids (4 younger ones ranging in age from 14-10). FIL has just been thru a court proceeding to get visits with the kids which he is allowed to do once a month. His first visit was supposed to be this weekend. He had to fly and then meet them in Townsville (he is on the Sunshine Coast). Only MIL and her guy were there. Apparently the kids didn't want to come. FIL called someone about this and they said go and try and talk to the kids. The kids apparently said that they didn't want to go with him cos they didn't want to be taken away from their youth group and their friends and their jobs. The end result is he is now back at home without having got to spend any time with his kids. The poor guy is absolutely gutted.
I guess the main reason I'm posting this is to ask, can the kids say 'no we don't want to see him (and my BIL too)'. It seems to me as if they have been 'brainwashed' by MIL and or the new guy. Just really feel for my FIL as he is doing the best he can and is being given a raw deal everywhere.
I hope this makes sense.
Thanks