When did you actively start trying again after miscarrying? Did any of you try immediately? What was the outcome? Does anyone know WHY it is suggested to wait one cycle, is it just the EDD thing or is there truth in the lining of the uterus theory, or neither? Does anyone know of any real increased risk of miscarrying again if conceiving immediately after a miscarriage?


The reason I'm asking these questions and my story in a nutshell: I suffered my first miscarriage 3 weeks ago. It was a missed miscarriage discovered at my 12 week scan, bubs had stopped growing between 6 and 7 weeks. I miscarried naturally. This was my first pregnancy and we got pregnant in the first month of trying. We are very keen to try again but decided to wait until after I'd had my first period since the miscarriage (ie, the first "full" cycle) and I was confident of this but over the last few days as I can feel my body "waking up" again (no O yet but my body, it would appear, is getting ready for it) I have been thinking about not trying not to try now if that makes sense and see how we go. If nothing then we'll try properly next month. DH disagrees and wants to wait although it was his idea to do away with precautions a couple of times over the last few days.

I'm so desperate to be pregnant again and to be on a clear journey to becoming a mum. I'm not sure if I want to try immediately because of this desperate need to be pregnant again or if it is because I think my body is truly ready. I do not want to wait another moment without trying, the waiting is killing me but I (obviously) don't want to increase my risks of miscarrying again. My cycle seems to be returning but I am still very tired and got my bloods back on Wednesday, I have borderline low iron levels. I've only read the results (that was a conclusion not my assumption ) but will be seeing my doctor next Friday (non-urgent apparently which is why it has taken so long to see her). But seeing as I had quite high iron before the miscarriage, I'm pretty sure my body will right itself.

I know that either way DH has to be on the same page as me but he was the one that suggested we DTD without protection. Granted this was after we had a discussion about how I was quite confident I wasn't close enough to "O" to be fertile yet. But who knows what my body is doing at the moment, we both know that and we both know that there is a real risk of getting pregnant. I'm not trying to trick him and he knows that.

I hope I don't come across as cold, losing my baby is the worst thing that has ever happened to me and the sadness will always be there but I just want to be a mummy so badly. I wanted to before getting pregnant and this whole experience has given me a glimpse of the beautiful world of motherhood and I want more, I want it all and I don't want to wait *stamps foot*!

What do you all think? I'm interested to hear your thoughts and experiences on TTC after loss in addition to the questions above.

And sorry about the ramblings, I have the need to use way more words than the average person Thanks for bearing with and reading.