How long do you have to wait?

[LadyRaven]

I miscarried my little man on Thursday and nearly bled to death. I know I need to take time to get my blood and vitamins and girlie bits well again. But I was just curious how long you have to wait till you ttc again? I feel hollow and empty and want my baby back...

[Early Kids]

I would give yourself at least a few weeks hunny.

[HannahS86]

I am so so sorry for your loss. I lost my little one on Thursday as well, and know exactly what you mean about feeling empty. Everyone here is very understanding and knows how difficult this experience is. I will be keeping you in my prayers.

As far as your question, I will tell you right now that there is no definitive answer. After my first m/c, the "physician's assistant" said we should wait two cycles before we started TTC again. After my second m/c, I went to the same office, but I saw an actual OB this time, and she said there is absolutely no physical reason to wait. She said what they mean by 'two months' is that you shouldn't consider the first two cycles as actively trying, because your cycle might not be back to normal yet. But she told me there is absolutely no higher risk of having problems in a subsequent pregnancy if you DO conceive before getting another period. She said the typical recommendations to wait a cycle stem from times when they used the date of your period to determine the gestational age. Now, ultrasounds are far more accurate at determining that anyway. But like I said, there are still people who would say to wait a cycle, some say two, some even say three. For the most part, all the research I've done (and trust me, that's a LOT) has said that trying again right away is fine.

All that being said, I believe you should only start trying again when you are emotionally ready. That is the biggest issue in your decision. I know for me, it feels like I will only feel less empty when I get pregnant again, as scary as it will be. So sorry again that you are going through this. Praying that you will have a healthy little baby very soon.

[LadyRaven]

Thank you for your thoughts, I just feel like I need to put a little people back in me to feel like a person again. I know it's a rush and it's not the best thing emotionally, but, arg, i dunno, it's hard to explain. It's like a part of me is missing and I need to fill the hole inside me both physically and emotionally again... guess I'll just let mother nature decide

[Michelle71]

There is no time When you feel up to TTC is the right time. Physically, there is no significant reason to delay. With Caitlyn my cycle came back at 6 weeks post her birth.

[LadyRaven]

So it doesn't strengthen the uterus to wait or anything? It all bounces back super quick?

[Isadora]

Someone told me the other day one of the easiest times to fall pregnant is just after you have been pregnant. I dont know how true that is so dont quote me, but apparently your body is still in the baby making frame of mind.

After my mc I was told to wait 3 months, but after speaking to my doc last week she said it doesnt make much of a difference, if I was to fall pregnant now I should be fine. Its just giving yourself time to heal emotionally I think. However you should have a good talk to your doctor about it just to see what he/she thinks.

[Vianna]

I miscarried my little man on Thursday and nearly bled to death. I know I need to take time to get my blood and vitamins and girlie bits well again. But I was just curious how long you have to wait till you ttc again? I feel hollow and empty and want my baby back...

[Laceys Mummy]

hi i feel ur pain my lil girl was born on friday at 22 weeks she was beautiull and when i read u feel empty i feel the same i havent even burried her yet and i want another dont stop tryin never give up