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hey munchy and tempus moriendi

happy to hear that you have some energy back munchy, little harvey sounds so cute. hope tomorrow will be easy for you being back at work.

tm sounds very very cold where you are, i have never ever seen snow before, you are so lucky ( bet you dont think that though, i bet snow would be a pain in the bum to drive in, scary stuff)

ok girls i need you help, we have bought our wedding forward by 6 weeks, its now going to be the 1st of november, but i have been feeling very guilty lately as i keep thinking that the money that i am going to be spending on our wedding could be used for ivf, so this is where i need your opinion. do you think its rude of me to ask our guests to pay for there own meal?? i will pay for the bar so they wont have to worry about buying drinks or anything, but if i get them to pay for there food it will save me anywhere between $2000 - $3000 and then that money can go towards my ivf?? so do you think that this would be ok?? as i wont be having a wishing well or getting presents, this would be our present from them if they buy there own meals???

ok be honest let me know what you think??

i have been to 2 weddings now where we had to pay for our own meals, and i didnt mind, but i know some of my guests might not think the same way ( there old and like tradition)

ok cant wait to hear from you

take care

I know I dont know you at all haha but I just wanted to give my 2 cents. I think if you make it clear WHAT the money will be going to that nobody will complain. I would say it would be no different than asking for cash as a present, which should be perfectly reasonable if there is a valid reason to ask for cash such as the couple bought a home and need to do renovations...or...IVF!! I'm sure you will have no problem :)

tm- my work dont know that i am pregnant yet not going to tell them for a good while might wait till my 12 week scan or 16 weeks one i feel loads better now still have a cough and a little sore throat bu alot better than what i was which is good as i am off to work in a min.

Mummy2chloe

i cant believe you have never seen snow before that is so strange i just asumed that everyone has seen it bless you but it is a pain like you said we are ment to be having snow hear 2morrow we always do in jan or feb time. about the wedding i think you should ask them to pay this is what i done my bridesmaids bought there own dresses and shoes and payed for there hair the men payed for there own suites i was gonna get people to pay for there own meal as well but i didnt need to in the end and my friends mu m decorated the whole room as a present to me it looked beauitiful and my mum in law made the cake but she does do that for a living. i think its worth doing especially if it means you can have another go at the ivf something that means everything to you i think you should go for it its gonna save you so much money also i borrowed a car of a friend there is so many things you could save on just have a good think hope it goes well let me no what you decide honey.

munchy xxx

oh my god munchy

you have just made me the happiest person right now, i had started a thread in the wedding section and told the girls the same thing and asked for there opinions and most of them think its not a good idea to ask them to pay for the meals:cry: i was about to start thinking about cancelling cos i thought if there are so many people that didnt like the idea then how will my guests feel and i dont want them to think i am cheap iukwim

but after reading your post and hearing about all the stuff you have done, that has made me feel better:D

i was thinking that they could pay for there meal i will pay for drinks, my girls are paying for there dresses and my gift to them i will pay for there hair and make up, the boys will be paying for theres ( renting them) i am borrowing flower girls dress, i am getting a plane cake from a cake shop and putting black ribbon on the bottom of the 3 layers, our wedding cars are free as there friends of ours that have the same sort of car as ours ( clubsports) we are hoping to get the flowers done at mates rates as my sister knows the lady at the flower shop, but yeah there just some of my plans, i will get on here when i have more time and tell you all about it, but you have no idea how happy you have made me right now, i feel alot better about asking them to pay for there meals now

thanks hun

so happy that your feeling better sweetie

Oh Honey

i am so glad i have helped at the end of the day its about you an DP showing how much you love each other not about al the fancy stuff the men rented there suits as well oh and my flowers i bought mine but my DH nan made the bridesmaid ones i think if you get people to help in anyway they will be happy to i am sure and that way hopefully you will have a little bub with the money you have saved it will all be worth it ah but yeh when you get time i want to no all about your plans i love wedding things we should swap email address so we can chat through that. anyway first day back at work really dont want to be hear but if all goes well i will be taking a yr maternaity leave so i will just keep thinking of that. glad your feeling better about the wedding try not stress yourself out also how is chloe is she on the mend.

Munchy xxx

mummy2chloe: actually, I like snow. I wish we'd have some, instead of all this cold rain. But it only snowed a couple times this season and mostly flurries that didn't stick. The one time we got 3 inches, but it melted the next day. The kids were very sad.

munchy: glad you're feeling better.

Hi TM

thanks! i am feeling even better today my voice has fully returned which is good the only thing i have now is a little cough and have bags more energy which is nice i dont feel like i am been a slob around the house my morning sickness is starting to kick in although its not in the morning its at any time of the day so how are things with you good i hope oh it started snowing hear today but not really sticking yet but we have more to come so the weather said so looks like we might me making snow men yeppeeee. anyway better go hubby just come back with a yummy burger for me to eat take care.

munchy xxx

hey munchy

so happy to hear you feeling better, wow SNOW how cool is that, your so lucky to live where it snows.

if you want pm me your email address so we can chat about wedding stuff, and i can email you some photos of dresses and things like that??

cant wait i am excited, i was up until 2 am last night looking at things on the net,
i found this really gorgeous silver rose ring box for my little page boy to hold, but the company wrote back to me this morning and told me that there US shipping only, so that means i cant get it which i think stinks, but anyway hopefully i will be able to find it somewhere else

ok cant wait to hear from you

take care

ok i just pm you munchy, thought i might aswell send you my email address while i am on hear, cant wait to talk to you

Hello hun i just pm you and gave you my email how good is that we can send pics to each other and that would love to see all the pics of wedding stuff i am so excited anyway as i said in the pm i am off to bed so tired speak soon chicken xxx

So did you get to make that snowman?

Hi TM

no i didnt get to make any snowmen hopefuly soon though as it is just getting colder and colder it did snow just not enough to stick harvey loves the snow he keeps asking me when it will snow i think they dont understand the weather sometimes bless him. how are you did you have a nice weekend i went to visit family it was so good to see them all again i think my nan loved having us all there anyway i am off to have a nice bath i have my 7 week scan 2morrow i am excited and nervous just want everything to be ok.

munchy xxx

I'll be crossing fingers, praying and everything else for you with your scan! I just got AF, but it's okay and I've decided to get serious this month about TTC.
But on the other hand, the Optivite seemed to get my luteal phase just the right length. I'm taking three a day. So here's hoping!

hey munchy, just checking in to see how the scan went, i hope its all good happy gooey news!!

hey munchy

hope your scan went well today, been thinking about you all day

cant wait to hear from ya sweet

take care

Hello girls

thanks for your messages scan went well i am 7 weeks and 2 days they saw a tiny sack and a little heartbeat which is good he did worry me at first as he asked if i had any pain or bleeding but in the end i think it was just a routine question i have my other scan on the 6th of march and a 16 week one on the 14 of april so fngers crossed i make it that far i feel more positive about it today i just want this month to hurry up i dont like to wish my life away but just this month so i no i will be at the safe stage.

Tm good luck with the trying TTC this month i have my fingers crossed that this will be your month honey get riding that man ha ha.

thanks again girls

love munchy xxx

So glad about your scan. And BTW, you're so funny!

Thanks tm hows it going with the TTC i havent been on here for a while have so much to catch up on hope its going well still have everything crossed for you honey i am good with the pregnancy just want to eat and sleep all the time at the min trying to not eat naughty stuff and i tend to have an hour nap around 4 in the afternoon when hubby gets back from work, but the nap really does help anyway hope you are good i am off to bed now cant wait to snuggle up in be covers and go slepp sweet dreams.

love me xxx

Actually, life $ucks right now because my FIL just died this morning of cancer. Long story short, he had prostate CA a few years ago, mostly beat it, then last november found out it was in his bones. Got a couple doses of chemo, then had a crisis last week, we were told he only had a few days left.

On the other hand, the family was able to gather around and say thier last goodbyes.

I'm a little stunned sometimes, and sad at others.

tm,

so so sorry to you and your dh about the passing of your FIL:hug:

please take care of yourself and if you ever need to talk we are always

here for you.

Thanks. We're coping, the funeral will be Saturday. Just taking one day at a time.

Tm

oh hunny i am so sorry i havent been on hear for a while so only just read the post my heart goes out to all your family it must be such an upsetting time for you all i can only remember to well when my grandad died of cancer and we had to say our good byes its so hard sedning massive hugs to you all and am hoping the funeral goes as well as it can i will be thinking of you all today.

take care

love Munchy xxx

Thanks so much--the funeral was on Saturday and it was very difficult of course, but we're just taking it one day at a time.

Tm

thats the best thing to take one day at a time thinking of you all. i have had a little scare had a bit of blood 2 days ago and then another tiny bit last night and have some pain so am really worried gonna go to the docs in a bit and ask for an emergancy u/s i cant stop thinking the worse but fingers crossed all will be ok anyway gotta go as gotta get ready for docs take care and look after one another.

Munchy xxx

munchy

i am so so sorry that this has happened, please take things easy

i will be here for you no matter what sweetie

please stay strong

tm
hope things are going well for you and your family

munchy: I'm praying very hard for you and bubs. Let us know when you know anything...

Hi Tm

dont no if you have read my threads but i had a scan the other day and there was no heartbeat am devestated just the past hour being getting really strong pains i am booked in for a d&c on wed but have a feeling i will m/C over the weekend if you read my threads you will see i am off to bed now as it is 1.10 in the morning over in england just scared that i will wake up in a puddle of blood my head is all over the place right now but my eyes are starting to close.

love Munchy xxx

no, no, no, that is NOT fair!

Words can't express how sad I am for you. I wish I could take this pain away. But please know I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers at this awful time. And you know you don't have to bear this all alone.

I'm so sorry.

Thanks alot tm well pains stopped the other night and just get mild backache every now and then but still no blood really just brown stuff so am hoping everything holds out till wed just really ****ed off they are making me wait till wed knowing my baby is inside my sleeping it feels strange i had to have brooklyn inside me for 3 days untill i gave birth and i feel like its just bringing all the emotions back its very hard at the min but i no i will get through it its just gonna take a while hope you are baring up with everything thinking of you all.

love Munchy xxx

Well, you understand why they want to see if you proceed naturally. The less they mess around with your cervix and uterus, the better. But knowing this in your head doesn't make it easier in your heart. You and DH be really good to each other right now. And keep us updated.

Hi tm

i lost baby monday night i had really bad backache in the eve and then around 11 it started to feel like a mild labour and by 11.45 it had come away i went to toilet when getting pains and some clots come out so as i went back to bed i felt a lump so ran back to toilet and as i sat down i heard something so i looked and there was the sack sitting at the bottom of my toilet this might sound grose but i was to curious i got a plastic bag over my hand and got it out of the toilet and when i looked at it i could see by baby inside floating around i was shocked and amazed at what i was looking at i could see its eyes and arms it looked like a little prawn after staring at it for a while it then started to sink in that it was my baby i was looking at and then my DH said it was time to do something so i wrapped it in tissue and flushed it away and i feel so guilty for doing that but i didnt no what else to do all my pains stopped after that but then yesterday tue i felt light headed all day then at 11pm started getting contractions there were so painful dh hard to rub my back it was far worse than the night before i started burning up and shivering in the end i passed a big clot and went to see an emergancy doc he gave me some antibiotics incase of infection and said i could get these pains for a few days as my womb is realeasing blood and stuff and it stores up clots then my uterus contracts it out which is what the pain is i have been feeling light headed all day again and cant eat a thing so hoping it doesnt happen again anyway i am off to bed its really late in england.

Munchy xxx

Oh, munchy sending huge cyberhug for everything you went through.

Your story wasn't gross at all. My last two mc's happened at home. In one my water broke, so the baby was seperate from the afterbirth. I put everything in a container and took it to the hospital. The last one was an unruptured sac the size of a marble. So I ruptured the sac to do the baptism (I'm Catholic) and buried it in the back yard in a jar of rubbing alcohol--they didn't need to see me in the hospital that time. But it's so heartrending to go through.

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Thanks tm

i just got signed off work for another week still getting weird pains in tummy and the bleeding today seems to have got heavier not dangerous heavey i thought after 5 days things would be settleing i have felt light headed all week not been able to eat properly as have had diarea as well for the past 3 days i just cant wait till be body starts to feel better. i just had to take dog to vets and on the way just wanted to burst out crying but i couldnt as i was on my way there i just think when people are around i am fine and as soon as i am on my own all i can do is think about my little angel i have lost its just so hard i think people think well at least its not as bad as my last one but that doesnt matter how far you are you still have your dreams for your baby and you love it from the moement you conceive i just wish people would understand that anyway better go its miday and havent eaten a thing so gonna have a crumpet. how are you with everything is everyone coping? i hope so sending big hugs to you all.

Munchy xxx

I think it's good you're not going back to work yet. You need to help your body heal physically and you need some time to work through everything. And you can't help but cry at the weirdest times, and sometimes with no warning at all.

That's exactly what I was trying to explain to a friend of mine the other day--you start loving bub the moment you know you're carrying it. Even though I had a hard time getting excited my last preg but I still loved it.

Sending cyberhug.

hey munchy

just checking in to see how your doin? i have been thinking about you heaps and hoping that your ok? hows little harvey and lewis going??

i am movig house tomorrow so if you reply or email me and i dont answer back for awhile you will know why, my internet wont be back up until middle of next week.

please take care of yourself honey

thinking of you heaps

Hiya hun

i am ok have my good and bad days but i am getting there i did send you a email to your address did you not get it lewis and harvey are good i have a parents meeting at school on friday to see how he is doing he wrote his name for the first time all by himself i was so proud of him and it was mothers day in sun just gone and he made me 2 cards and wrote inside them i love things like that. well i will be going back to work on monday i hope i am ok i should be i will just keep my head down i think and hope no one asks why i was off as most people didnt no i was pregnant which makes things a little easier. well good luck with the house move honey and email me when you are back up and running i really want to talk weddings and see the stuff you have planned hope move goes well speak soon chicken.

Munchy xxx

Best of luck going back to work. I always found that to be the hardest adjustment going back to a normal life. Take good care of yourself.

Thanks tm

do feel a little anxious about going back but it has to be done also i have stopped bleeding so i am back to ttc again well tonight will be the first night and i cant wait just feel like i am am doing something again i really hope i fall quickly and that it doesnt take 15 months again fingers crossed i think it will take me ages again but all i can do is try. hope you are well honey.

Munchy xxx

Keeping fingers crossed for you!