Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Los ~ December 08

Thanks, ladies,

Krystie - Thanks for your kindness, you're right, I did m/c naturally, and I think I may have had a blighted ovum as my gestational sac was only measuring at 4w on my six week u/s. My m/c didn't last long and was pretty much just like a normal period. Did you guys end up conceiving shortly after your m/c?

Acria - Thanks for understanding, Christmas day was absolutely awful, because we hadn't told any extended family yet so they thought I was just in a bad mood (I didnt want to tell them that day).

Erybery - Preseed is a vaginal moisturiser that I've read about on these forums which (as I understand) mimics the physical attributes of CM and allows the passage of sperm through the cervix (apparantly some lubricants hinder the sperm's movement). We're going to give it a go!

Thanks for your welcoming words!

HF2009

Hi everyone,

Wow, I have been guilty of lurking and not posting so I have heaps to catch up, I'll try not to forget anyone!

HannahD - Oooh, sounds promising! I so, so hope that this is your month. What a wonderful start to 2009 that would be. Sending you all the luck and babydust in the world. :bluedust::pink-babydust:

Hoping for 2009 - Welcome and I'm terribly sorry for your loss. What a terrible Christmas it must have been for you. Best of luck for 2009.

Krystielove - How wonderful you are to still be here to support us all and you have done such a great job of persies!

erybery - Sending AF vibes your way. You can have mine for this cycle ;)

Acria - :crossfingers:

HannahS - So sorry AF showed up - I wish she would leave all of us alone! Best of luck for 2009.

Theresa - Oh sweetie, I wish there was something I could say to take the pain away. :hug:

Babymiracles - :goodluck:

Jen - Great photos. I have to admit amongst all the chaos I forgot to take a family photo. I got heaps of my nieces and nephews though so that's the main thing. Thanks for all your wonderful support and advice!

WTH - :crossfingers:

Polly - Best of luck with FF - I soon became addicted but am having a break for now.

Megsmum - How are you doing?

Mannie & Toccara - How are you both? I hope you both managed to get through the festive season.

Smi - Hope that the m/s didn't prevent you from pigging out on all that rich Christmas food!

plc - Once again, congratulations. I bet your little girl is just gorgeous!

Possums - How are you going?

Big hi to everyone I have missed. Just because I haven't mentioned you doesn't mean you are not in my thoughts and prayers.

AFM - DH and I are going away for a few nights tomorrow and I have to say I am looking forward to getting away! Just going camping over New Year's but it will be so nice to be away from the normal routine. So I might not post for the next few days.

I have to be back on Friday for some more blood tests to check if I o this month. The FS said to have it on day 28 or 29 of my cycle but I think last month was a once off with me o late so I am going to test on Friday which I think will be CD24. Not sure if I am doing the right thing though? Should I wait longer and presume I am going to have a longer cycle (which I have never had until last month)?

I am still trying to be 'zen' and for the most part it is working. I have no idea what CD of my cycle I am on (I just had to work it out then) and it is a pretty good feeling. It means I am stressing less about when to BD and also when AF is due. After last cycle I have no idea anyway and I am no longer charting. It feels good.

I was pretty good on Christmas day except when everyone left and I had time to think, I then shed a few tears for my angel.

Thanks so much for everyone's advice and support for the last couple of months. Words cannot describe how much you have all helped me and I will be eternally grateful. xx

Anyway, wishing everyone a wonderful new year and may 2009 bring us all a :bfp:

Hi everyone

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for their kind words during this difficult time. I am really struggling with it all and have not been coping too well. I have never experienced such turmoil and heartache. Sorry for the lack of personals but I just don't have the energy right now.

Thanks again everyone - your support has gotten me through this Christmas period. xxx

HF2009 - My DH and I had 3 unsuccessful cycles after our angel left us, and then we conceived again on the 4th cycle. I felt like it was taking a lifetime at the time though. We actually conceived on my first cycle going back to my acupuncturist and taking chinese herbs. Not sure if that is just coincidence, but at the end of the day I am happy for anything that might have helped give me this precious baby. Good luck with everything honey!

Good Morning Gurlies!

I had a wonderful holiday weekend...HOWEVER...I am officially green at the gills...m/s is kicking my butt! I am nauseaous 95% of the day...

I hope everyone had a beautiful holiday!

plc...CONGRATS ON YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRLY!

okay ladies back to work for me...hugs to you all!

:bluedust::pink-babydust:
:stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

Quick post....

Plc: First of all.. thank you so much for yout love and comforting messages. AANNNDDDD..
CONGRATULATIONS ON THE ARRIVAL OF YOUR BABY GIRL!!!!!:loveshower::happyforyou:
My very best wishes going your way!!!!

Mel, Hannah D, Acria: :grouphug: thank you so much for thinking of me and your messages of love & support!!!

Zachary's mom: My heart gos out to you .. I'm very sorry for the loss of your little boy.... He is playing in the heavenly day care with my 3 angels.. I'm sure they are happy there and they send their love through the warm sunshine and flowers outside.
Please know you have a friend in me. ♥

Mollycat: that poem was BEAUTIFUL!!! (wiping tears) I miss my baby and my angels... I would have been 26 weeks this week and it tears me apart. :(
Thank you for sharing with us.

Hopingfor2009: My heart goes out to you love.. I know you will be blessed again... we both will!!! HUGE HUGS 4 U!!!!!

Smi: Congrats on your little one.. wishing you a H&H 9 months and baby!! I'm so happy your first u/s went well love!!
hugs.

Everyone else.. Wishing you the very best for this year to come... I know deep down that 2009 will bring many joys and things to smile about!!

:grouphug:

Ruthie

WTH--Would never forget you! ;) Big *hugs*



babymiracles--So sorry to hear that nasty AF has paid you a visit! Boo! I remember having a couple rough periods after my m/c... it seemed to alternate, so one month would be super light, then the next would be painful and heavy. Good luck with your BT's and injections! *hugs*



Possums--Some more :stickyvibesgirl: for you!!



megsmum, Toccara,Polly, Ruthie, & issy--:hello: and big *hugs* Thinking of you all!



HannahD--Thanks! I think my family's beautiful, too, but I may be a bit biased! lol.... Keeping everything crossed that was implantation spotting you had!!



hoping for 2009--I'm so very sorry not only for the loss you experienced, but also for the cr@ppy Christmas eve you surely must've had! :comfort: How rotten and unfair for you! Hope your follow up appt. gives you the answers you're looking for as to when you can begin TTC again. You're in my thoughts and prayers! *hugs*



HannahS--So sorry that AF reared her ugly face! :angry: I know what you mean about all the questions about trying too hard, or stressing too much... I still find myself asking those same questions every month since March! It's SO hard to be patient when we want what we want yesterday!! *hugs*



Krystie--Yay, I found you on facebook and sent you a friend request!! Woo hoo!!



Acria--Your symptoms sound super promising!! :crossfingers: for a New Year's BFP for you!!!



erybery--Sending lots of AF vibes--bring on the Clomid and TTC! Good luck!



Theresa--For lack of better words... just wanted to give you some :comfort: I'm so sorry for your pain! *hugs*



smi--Well you asked for it!! You've officially got m/s! Yay!! Could be worse... you could have :pms: lol.....

I may not manage to get online tomorrow, but just wanted to send you all a bunch of (cyber) hugs and kisses for 2009.
Thank you for helping me to survive 2008. Looking forward to a brighter, luckier future for each and every one of us.
We deserve it!
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE.
:bluedust::pink-babydust::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:
Love
WTH x

Hi ladies!
Hope you're all adequately recovered from xmas/boxing day shenanigans. I managed to eat my weight in turkey, ham and crayfish/lobster and am only just starting to feel hungry again. I organised with my doctors to try to some off the steroids, but only after all the xmas food. So far I'm on day 3 and have been throwing up quite a bit. I'm hoping that it's just my body re-adjusting. Either way, I only have just over 14 weeks to go and I think I can manage that long. If I didn't have to work it would be a LOT easier. My work has no fans or air conditioning and the past two days have been around the 38 degree mark (not sure what that is in farenheit American gals, sorry) and absolutely unbearable, so I closed early yesterday and the shop stayed shut today. Heat + belly + vomitting = not very nice indeed.
That being said, my belly is huge and Charlie loves to wriggle and kick all the time. It's gotten to the point now where you can see on the outside when she kicks and she's started kicking DH a lot harder at night too. Heehee. Swinging between moments of panic (oh my god! I'm going to be a mum! I can barely take care of myself! aaaaaah!) to moments of calm to moments of just wanting to meet our little girl NOW! I just keep reminding myself "only 14 and a bit weeks to go".

Sorry, rabbiting on a bit. I'll blame the heat.

Smi: Hey hon! So glad (IYKWIM) that the ms has kicked in. I'll keep my :crossfingers: that yours stops when it's supposed to, unlike mine. Hope everything is wonderful for you!

WTH: Big big :hugs: for 2009 hon! It's your year!!

Jen: Same goes for you, girlie! Keeping everything crossed for a big belly 2009 for you! Bug :hugs:

KL: My goodness time flies doesn't it! 20 weeks already! YAY!! Big :hugs:

To the rest of you lovely ladies, I'm sending out big hugs and kisses for the new year! Hope you are all wonderful!!

xx

Zachary's Mom - You absolutely do not need to apologise for not doing personals. Sometimes it is just too hard, and it's good to just read what everyone has written, and keep caught up. So don't worry your sweet head about it, just take good care of yourself, and know we're all thinking of you :hug:

smilanatu - haven't seen you since my return! Huge congratulations on your pregnancy!

hoping for 2009 - let us know how you go with the preseed! If I don't fall pg this cycle, I'm going to be getting a bbt thermometer, and looking into all these things.

Mel1979 - a few days away sounds like a great idea, and I love how calm you're being, most of the time ;) An excellent way to be!

WTH - And a happy new year to you as well! There's nothing like a fresh start to boost one's positivity :)

tutmae - Charlie's kicking sounds so exciting! The temperature sounds absolutely horrid, but it's defintely a good idea to have closed the shop and rested with your vomitting and the heat. Take it easy and give Charlie lots of tummy rubs from everyone!

AFM - Never have I been so glad to be home, and dusting my house! My DH, parents and sister all squeezed into my parents' car today and drove 3 hours to see the Degas exhibition at the National Gallery (well worth it btw! Beautiful and inspiring), but my Dad just cannot accept that he doe snot know his way around Canberra, and that it's not the same as when we lived there 20 years ago. Many arguments later, we all squished back in for the 3 hour drive home and 30km from Gundagai, I had to pee, badly! That was the longest 30km ever. Anyway, home now, dusting done and about to clean out the kitchen. I'm working tomorrow, and then going to my parents' house to cook dinner for NYE, so I'll have to leave DH the rest of the cleaning to do before tomorrow night. That should prove interesting...

Lisa xx

Hey ladies!

We had our appointment with our doctor today, who I will miss, as he's leaving the practise and going to a public clinic (my appointment was his last). He assured me that my levels had dropped suficiently to start trying again whenever we feel ready (which for us is ASAP). He talked to us about the different ideas out there in the medical feild about conceiving straight after m/c, but feels that it's really an informed decision we will make together. So we'll have a month of "not preventing, not trying" and see what happens, we'll officially start next cycle. I'm so happy! I have hope for the next few cycles! We got pg so easily last time ( I think I mentioned earlier, I was on BCP) , and this has given me some confidence that we may be pg again within the coming 6 mths.

Who would have thought that a couple who was thinking "2010-the year for TTC" would now be so desperate for a baby!!!???

Mel1979- Thanks for your supportive words!!!

KrystieLove- Thanks for your well wishes! I can't wait for my BFP but I'd be thrilled if it came in four months like yours did, even though it will seems like ages, like you said! (although we won't try acupuncture or alternative medicines for a little while).

Ruthie - Thanks for your hugs and optimism, I can really use those! Can't wait til we get our BFPs.

Jen805- The appointment went well, thank you for your hugs and prayers! Hope things are going well for you.

Acria - I haven't decided whether or not to use the preseed we bought but I'll let you know if I do... I read a lot of nice testamonials about it on their website, but I was please to hear that the pharmacist has heard some real life success stories from regular customers (it's only available at selected pharmacies in Australia). She seemed pretty enthusiastic about the whole thing so, maybe :crossfingers:

Thanks girls,

HF2009

Just wanted to wish my Aussie friends a Happy New Year's Eve!!! :confetti: Saying lots of :pray: for a mass exodus from this thread into the PAML thread for a new year's blessing for us all!! Wishing you all the happiest and healthiest new year!! Lot's of love! :loveshower:

Hi there,
Im new to this site just found it while doing some researching.
Me and my husband got married in august and have being TTC since than.
Week before christmas I found out we were pregnant than a week later I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks :crying:

Ive read all the articles and millions of web pages and just looking for some hints to know if there is anything I can do to help get pregnant faster and if because it was barely 5 weeks if I should wait to start trying again?
It was just like I had a missed period but a little bit more cramping. Lasted 2.5 days like my period normally does.

It really hit me alot harder than I had expected it to .

Also I read on quite a few sites that taking a small dose of asprin 81mg may help in conceiving has anyone ever heard this before?

Hi all, just popping in to wish you all a very Happy New Year with lots of positive vibes for everyone. Just remember tomorrow will be 2009 and a New Year with a new outlook. For all of us that have struggled through 2008, just remember that 2009 is the year for everyone's dreams to come true. :pray:

JenBug - :welcome: I am so sorry for your loss. I am not sure about TTC again, my dr told me to wait a cycle before trying again but I had a D&C and I was 11 weeks (missed m/c) so my baby did not pass naturally and we only found out he was gone at our routine appt in early Nov. I wish you a more successful 2009 and although I am only fairly new to this forum, the support from the ladies in here is just wonderful. We all know what you are going through and understand the emotions but try and stay positive. I can't help you with the aspin question though, maybe some of the other ladies might help you on that one. :)

Here's to all of us having our dreams come true in 2009

Polly
xx

JenBug--:welcome: So sorry to hear of your loss! :comfort: It is a truly heartbreaking experience that I wouldn't wish upon anyone! I'm happy that you found us while researching--that's exactly how I came upon this site--and I can't tell you how much of a relief it was for me to be supported by other women who've experienced the same heartache, loss, sorrow, and pain as I felt. It's such a lonely experience anyway, but when nobody can relate to what you're thinking and feeling, it's extremely hard to pull yourself out of that dark place. I'm sure you'll find comfort and support here amongst the unfortunately too many of us that are here--this is an amazing group of women who care so deeply about supporting each other!

My dr. recommended that I wait 2 cycles after my m/c... I chose to wait one.... and am still waiting! But at least I knew when I was ready to begin TTC again. Have you had any BT's to confirm whether the hcg hormone has returned to normal? Mine took about 6 wks, but other's have returned to normal right after they m/c--but it's important to know, because until it's back to normal, you can't get pg again. I also started taking baby aspirin after my m/c because my dr. recommended it for the next time I become pg.
Hope that helps, and welcome, again! Here's a big :pray: that 2009 brings you your forever baby! :hug:

Hi lovely ladies,

I know its been a while since I posted and have been guilty of lurking and glad to see plc had her bubba, how wonderful! :happyforyou:

Have also been thinking of you all even if I haven't posted for a while, was off the ttcing for while since my 3rd m/c and will be for a little while longer given my prognosis. I have hyperthyroidisim, which means my immune system is attacking my thyroid and my brain is producing more thyroid stimulating hormone than is normal which is between 0.4 and 4.00 uml, my test results showed 11uml. So my GP and Dr Gavin Sacks (who was great when I finally got to meet with him last week while in Sydney) have prescribrd Oraxcin to bring my thyroid levels back into normal range, however it will take several weeks of monitering and more blood tests, Dr Sacks said not to even consider trying until the levels fall back to normal or I will miscarry again. Thyroid function is extremely important, if its not in normal ranges then your body cannot support a pregnancy and its a common cause of miscarriage. So glad I know, all my other tests came back normal. Dr Sacks said that I have a 60% to 70% chance of a successful pregnancy next time so long as Im in the normal thyroid range. Such good news to hear....if we still have problems then we are to come back to Sydney to see him for more tests, however he thinks we have nipped it in the bud now. Dr Gavin Sacks is an immunoligist and specialises in recurrent miscarriages. Well worth a visit or a phone consult if you are not in Sydney.

One other good thing about this result is that the thyroid also controls your weight and metabolism I have struggeled with my weight for years not knowing why I couldn't lose and keep it off, now I know why. The tablets will also help in getting my weight down so 2 bonuses in one diagnosis.

My advice ladies is have as many tests done as you can if you keep having miscarriages, its well worth it. I used the list of tests provided on this website though not all of them, (that would've been my second set of tests) and other tests prescribed by head of obstetrics at Cairns Base Hospital.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel, keep striving for it ladies....your miracle is out there.

SMI - so glad all is progressing well for you.:stickyvibesgirl:

Mel - thanks for thinking of me, hope your doing ok too and 2009 brings you your miracle baby as it will for all of us.:hug:

I have also accepted another job, another Bank approached me for a position, better money and a change of scenary, so baby making is off the cards for at least 4-5 months, it will probably take that long til the thyroid levels come down anyway so all is going as planned.

I know I've not done personals and I'm sorry, will try when I get home next week, am still in Sydney and using my nephews computer, so best get off now....have a great New Year and be safe...wishing you all the best for this coming year of the Ox! Goodbye Rat!!! glad to see the back of you.....wasn't all bad, I did get married this year and it was a wonderful day....

Sending lots of :bluedust::bfp:your way ....

God Bless

Mannie xxx

JenBug: My heart goes out to you love.. I'm so very sorry your your loss. Been there 3 times unfortunately. :redface:
I hope and pray 2009 brings yo a little one love. Docs usually say that if you miscarry before 12 weeks you can wait one cycle and TTC again. Many don't even wait and conceive right away.. I personally recommend waiting at least just one cycle. Your body needs to heal and go back to normal to start fresh ya know? My best wishes going your way love.. you are among friends. ♥

Polly: I haven;t had the pleasure to meet you but thank you for the new years wishes.... Happy New year to you and all my girlies here.. I know down from the heart we will have our miracles.

Jen: OMG Girl.. I just simply LOVE YOU!!!! Happy New year to you love... May GREAT things come your way ♥

To all my girlies...
I had a massive meltdown today.... a friend sent a video of her 1st u/s and OMG it was EXACTLY what I saw when I was 7 weeks with my angel.... my husband came home to find me a complete mess....I just have to let go.. and I had a good cry .. my husband hugged me for a loooonnggg time... those type of soothing hugs a man that loves can give.. I cried a LOt... but it felt good in the end. I have a wonderful husband ladies. I'm very blessed and like many of you said to me.. I will focus and give all that I can give to my two boys.. ♥
.. things are going way better than expected here $$ wise with the babysitting & my husbands unemployment help...I might start babysitting a 2nd baby starting next week... I'm very happy about that. Hubby is just waiting for 2009 to kick in as many companies have job offers after the new year.. wish us luck. :pray:... my husband reassures me that after Tax return season in April (my due date... :redface: )
We will save up or have good $$ to sea fertility specialist.. so that my ladies.. IS GOOD NEWS!!!!!!!!:pray: please.. PLEASE keep me in your prayers... God has been good to us... I just feel so torn that last year about this time I was planning my TTC journey for 2008... and you all know the rest.:redface:
Bur in the end.. it will ALL BE WORTH IT!!!

So here ladies.. to 2009..... 2008 took the one thing most of us want so dearly.. yet we have HOPE. Another year.. to start fresh.. to really prepare to change our lives.. with our well deserved BABIES!!!!

May God bring us all many blessings.... Those who just got their BFPS... **sticky vibes** and I wish you a H&H 9 months and baby.. **belly rubs** for those pregnant.... WAY TO GO GIRLS!!!!
And those TTC... I will join you sooner or later.. but you know STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART I'm rooting for you all!!!

HAPPY NEW YEARS!! MAY 2009 Bring us ALL a lot of things to treasure, cherish, be thankful for and laugh about.


hugs.
Ruthie

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU

I hope that with the new year, all of your hopes, dreams and prayers are answered. Thinking of each and every one of you. I know of a couple of empty seats in the PAML thread, just waiting to be filled. :pink-babydust::bluedust: for the new year for those TTC.

:bellyrubs: and :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: for all those waiting for their special miracles to join their families.

and special hugs for a special :babyboy: and a special :babygirl: and their mummies.