Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss April/May 2009

Gosh guys what a full-on couple of days it's been in here!

coco ~ Good luck with your testing. It's beyond my knowledge, just sending you some good luck vibes. I hope the RE dramas settle soon. Our settlement date is 8 May and in our case the vendor is being awful. How I wish all our RE transactions were without hassles!

erybery ~ that's magical news about your small girl. I'm so pleased for you!!:D

Mrzbaby ~ I'm thinking of you, hang in there.:hug:

Jen ~ When you posted you were having a drink it was hysterical to read because it came up as 9.50-ish am!! I hope RB isn't too dreadful this time. I'm glad you're compling a list of questions for your Dr's appointment. Knowledge is power! :)

Sally ~ hoping that maybe you've caught your pearl :crossfingers:

boble ~ good luck with your investigations with the Sydney clinic.

I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed here and in RL. I'm just trying to breathe and not drop too many balls at once. :redface: DH and I did a relay today - I worked this morning and now he's working this afternoon. Thanks so much for our DS's birthday wishes. Fingers crossed he'll get better soon and life can return a little to normal.

It's so funny?! This month I'm pretty sure we aren't pregnant but I'm still checking for every little symptom. Interestingly....there are hardly any symptoms!! I'm a bit confused. :o I was starting to think (completely without medical back up, just me trying to make sense of things...) that I must have stacks/enough progesterone because of the strength of my PMS symptoms in the last two cycles. I'm just about ready to stop looking for anything, because I'm just getting confused.

Someone here (and I'm sorry, I can't remember who...) used to talk about a 'zen' approach to things. Well here goes nothing! ;)

My apologies to those I haven't named individually. I think about you all often.
Take care everyone,
M

Hi all,

I posted this over on another thread (I am not sure where actually as I am new to this site).

Anyway ....

4 days ago I had a m/c. We had been TTC for a while, and were so excited when we got the BFP. *sigh*

We were really struggling with TTC, so I had got the OPK sticks. I got the sticks because I didn't feel confident with temping, given that I work shift work, and would not be able to temp at the same time each day.

But I am anxious for us to TTC as soon as possible, and the DR has advised it will be OK as long as I have at least one normal cycle.
I am considering a fertility monitor, as I can't sit back and wait another year to TTC (I am now 37 and have 2 angel babies and no living children).

Does anyone have any experience with fertility monitors, and can recommend a good one (and where to get it from)?

Or even any advice really would be appreciated.

Thanks.

Welcome to this thread Milly - I replied to you in your other thread. No doubt the other lovely ladies will add their comments... :hug:

Milly 5

Firstly, hugs and prays for your little angel and a huge hug for you :hug:

I m not a spring chicken myself :doh: so I understand your concern with that clock that seems to tick louder and louder as each month goes on.

My first question would be, have you been to a fertility expert to get any tests done. There are so many 'little' things that can be changed that will help enormously. As an example I had no idea I had endo..... there was so much there it was putting pressure on my ovaries (turned out that wasnt the issue....... we had sinkers instead of swimmers) BUT if that had been the issue then a 'simple' op would have fixed it.

Second,I understand about the temping.... I NEVER get up the same time every day. I found that when I was temping I slept terriably because I was tossing and turning all night looking at the time so that I didnt miss my temp time. I also used OPKS.

I would say that the best option is to get to know the signs of your body..... get to know your cycle and keep a close track on it. There are cycle tickers that you can use as well. Get to know your CM (cervical mucas) it will tell you sooooo much. Look for the 'eggwhite' approx day 10 of your cycle..... with all else aside.... the 'eggwhite' is your GO FOR IT sign. :bd: and then toward the end of the cycle the 'eggwhite' is Ohhh oooooo AF is around the corner.

As for how long to wait...... most specialists will say let your body get back into cycle and then wait one full cycle.... so wait until your body gets back to normal and THEN wait one cycle...... so approx 2 months.

I have never used a fertility monitor so I can not help you there.

If you have any further questions please dont hesitate to contact anyone on here...... there are some amaizing people on here that can help and support.

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Morning all,

Shortcake - I used clomid and would totally recommend it, but if you know you are ovulating every month and quite regulary then I don't think it would make much difference as its not the clomid that makes you pregnant, it just makes you ovulate (well that's what it is supposed to do anyway). Not sure of success rates but worked for me first time! It is normally the first line in fertility treatment before more invasive, expensive procedures. Talk to your Doc and they may have some more answers for you. Big hugs, I know the waiting is terrible!

Cherished - It is easy to disable the signature so don't worry Ill still hang around to encourage you all! I would have disabled it sooner had I known people were getting upset but I can totally understand how other people feel about it. For me, it gave me hope but I know for others it is upsetting. Sorry to anyone I have offended xoxoxox

Welcome to the newbies - I was in your place not too long ago and this forum has been a constant source of encouragement. I wish you weren't here, but we will support you all the way!

AFM - Ob did a scan last night and said he cann't see ANY fluid on the baby's neck! Yay, so happy at the moment, this little girly is such a fighter, still have to have more tests and scans but its looking a lot more positive - In fact fantastic!

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erybery - Woo hoo! That is such great news! :happyforyou:

Don't worry girls, I will still be lurking and posting as well, I couldn't bear to leave you all!

I'm also sorry if I offended anyone with my ticker (although it has only been there a few days). I didn't actually know I could turn it off or I would have. I have already said I will only be lurking here and posting persies and won't post anything about myself as I am very conscious of making anyone feel sad or uncomfortable as much as I know you girls are all happy for me. I am happy to pm anyone (Jen) if they want or you can find updates on me on the PAML thread. I just don't want to leave this thread altogether as you ladies have been such a support system to me and I want to hang around and see you all get your BFP's :D

mrzbay - I'm so sorry you got a false positive, how cruel :hug: As it is only 10DPO I am still crossing my fingers for you though!

Will try to BBL for more persies.

Mel,

down the bottom of the page, where the Quick Reply box is, on the bottom right hand side of the box you type in, it has a tickbox with the words 'show your signature' next to it. You just need to untick this box before you post your reply.

If you are in advanced mode, you will have again have an option on the bottom to untick 'show your signature'.

It's not that hard to do, so if anyone still doesn't understand how to do it, please PM me and I'll explain it again.

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Mel,

down the bottom of the page, where the Quick Reply box is, on the bottom right hand side of the box you type in, it has a tickbox with the words 'show your signature' next to it. You just need to untick this box before you post your reply.

If you are in advanced mode, you will have again have an option on the bottom to untick 'show your signature'.

It's not that hard to do, so if anyone still doesn't understand how to do it, please PM me and I'll explain it again.

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Hi Sushee,

Yes, I am aware of how to do it now but I had just never noticed it before. I only got my BFP last week so I have never really had the need to look for it I guess.

Thanks :)

That's cool Mel, and good to know. It's probably a good idea to let everyone posting here know how to turn off their signatures anyway. It comes up a lot actually, where members don't realise how easy it is to do, so it seemed worth reiterating the instructions again anyway. :)

Mrzbaby I really hope that it is just to early to test I am thinking of you and best of luck.
My order of pre seed arrived in time for my O this month so I am hoping that will help with making my ttc wish to happen faster as I am not the most patient person in the world the last 10 weeks seems like a whole year not that I am wishing time away have a good day everyone.

Thanks for letting us know how to turn the tickers off! It will be very helpful when the time comes.. hopefully very soon!

Milly - Sorry that your joining us but it is a wondeful, supportive and helpful thread. I have only used OPK's and temping isnt reflecting my bodily activities I dont think but I do remember something being mentioned a while ago so who ever posted about it will be on soon no doubt to help!


meh - hope its gets easier soon and your little man starts to feel alot better!

Flowerchild - is the day 21 test a poas test?

coco - hope you get some answers soon!! xxoo

jen- sorry RB is here but hope you have a lovely few drinks to relax!!!

Afm - went to acupunture, he said my temps are all wrong and ALL to high????
Anyway I guess it doesnt matter cause the opk's told me what I needed...
I think.....

xxoo

First of all, I would like to apologise to anyone I may have offended or caused pain by posting my signature in here. I have previously expressed concerns about continuing to post in here as I don't want to upset anyone, but I can't bear to leave you all. I want to see you all get your BFPs. But Flowerchild was right to point out that there are many people who read these threads but don't post. Please don't give the mods a hard time about this. I am very thankful to them for the job that they do. And lets face it, if they wanted to be really harsh, they could forbid us to post in here at all once we get our BFPs. Again, I am truly sorry if I have offended anyone.


:welcome: to all the newbies. I am very sorry for the losses that have brought you here. But you couldn't have found a group of more supportive and wonderful women. I don't know how I would have gotten through without being able to cry, scream, vent and even laugh with the ladies here. I wish you all the best and hope your time here is short.

boble - I think I've said it before but it can't hurt to repeat it. Goodluck with all the testing. I hope you can get some answers.

meh - Thats too bad that DS was sick on his birthday. I hope he feels better soon.

sally - I hope you caught your pearl :pink-babydust: I don't think its possible to BD too much when TTC (unless DH has a low sperm count).

charm - I hope the pre-seed works for you :goodluck:.

cherished - Goodluck for the upcoming BD marathon. I hope you catch that eggie. :bluedust:

MO3B - Good to see you're still around. I hope you're looking after yourself.

jen - What mollycat said. I was sure I wasn't the only one saving you a seat in PAML. I hope you enjoyed your last rum and coke for a while.

erybery - That is such great news about your little girl :cheer:

mrzbaby - Fingers crossed that you're reliable answer on Sunday is a positive one :noaf:

Shortcake - Sorry that RB is giving you a hard time :hug:.

Eliza - Goodluck with the blood tests. I'm sorry the real estate issues are causing you stress, but it sounds as though they are getting sorted.

:hello: to everybody not mentioned. I read and think about you all everyday.

HI GIRLS!!!
My oh my has it been a while! I can honestly say this is the first time I've checked into BB in weeks! I just wanted to let you all know that I have most definitely been thinking of you all and sending out all the sticky and baby vibes I can muster!! Charlie is going fantastically, and the moment I work out how to get pics up I'll put a link in.

I haven't gone back and read the previous posts yet, but I will- promise!!

Jen: Have been thinking of you, hon! Hope evrything is going wonderfully and you're not working yourself too hard!

Will bbl for persies!!

Much MUCH love!!

Morning Gurlies!

mrzbaby...so sorry :hug: here's hoping you get that BFP on Sunday!!!

jen...hugs hugs and more hugs for you! I did indeed get wind with the warmth...we had gusts up to 40 mph...now unfortunately we are back to rain every day this week...UGH!

shortcake...*wavin*

tut...hey you! So glad to hear Charlies is diong well and keeping you on your toes!

:bluedust::pink-babydust:
:stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

Hello ladies. Sorry no time for persies I am going to lay down a bit. I just have a quick question. Today is the 3rd day I have had AF and in the past 3 hours I have gone through 14 pads... I'm also very dizzy and nauseated. Does anyone know what this could be from. This is the 3rd cycle since my D&C.

Seems pretty serious, Shortcake... maybe you could give your dr a call... that seems like way too much blood in such a short amount of time! :hug: Keep us posted, hon....



Have to shower and pick DS up from school and will be back for some persies... didn't want anyone to think I've fallen off the face of the earth--that's not likely going to happen any time soon, so looks like you're stuck with me! I have the utmost respect for all of you.... I'm sorry if anything I said yesterday was offensive to anyone... I think you all know how dedicated I am to this thread, and I always have only the best of intentions! I'm sorry if my actions yesterday disproved that. :grouphug:

And I'm sorry to the mods for posting my opinion in the thread--truly never meant ANY harm towards anyone!



Anyhow, will be back later for persies.... :pink-babydust: :bluedust: :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy:

Shortcake...sounds like you may be anemic from so much blood loss...give your doctor a call ASAP.

morning lovlies,

milly5 Welcome :hug: I am so sorry for your loss. I temp and use the opk's which I have found to be really accurate (if that helps at all) temping would be pretty hard for you if you work shifts so if the opk's work for you than maybe give the temping a miss? Do you track your CM too? I think I could really do a chart just on CM and use the OPK's also. Re ttc again. We decided to try straight away but didn't geta bfp. I have just had my 1st period and am hoping to get a BFP this time! Good luck with whatever you decide :pink-babydust:

Lulu, Sparkles,Ferrals, Teme, Missymoohoo & Susie-T I am thinking of you all :grouphug:

Shortcake I hope you are ok honey

sallyk61 what did the acupuncturist say your temps should be? I forgot to mention that I went back on Friday for the 2nd visit since the D&C and she said that there was a huge improvement in my hormones so I am feeling pretty confident that my body is all ready to go for o on (hopefully) Monday.

tutmae thanks for the baby vibes :)

charm What is preseed... I think I've asked before ages ago on this thread but can't remember if I got answer? Does it boost your chances heaps? How does it work?

Hannah so nice to hear from you hope you are doing well xoxo

Meh, Mel, Angles, Jen, RhiChi, Sunny, Smi, Ervbery, Coco, Boble, Mollycat, megsmum, Greenslw, Mrzbaby, JackJack& Mannie :hello: