Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage/Loss August/September 2009

:wall::wall::wall: could it get any worse! dh's mum and aunty are here for lunch and his anuty (who I dont' really like anyway) gets out her pics of dh's cousins 2nd bub who is 2 months old... Of course I didn't want to be rude so I looked at them (without commenting) dh just rubbed my back in support.... It's not her fault, she doesn't know what is going on but I am really upset today

Coco at least you had a choice to look or not.. I'll be ok thanks for asking honey. Hope your appointment goes well

Tanya thanks lovely, it looks like it'll be next cycle for both of us... when are you ovulating? You must be bd'ing around now?

Big cuddles Cherished.:hug::grouphug::hug: You're a toughey, I know that already. I just wish I could make things better for you. :wall:

Cherished..sorry I didnt ask, hope you're ok, I was having a meltdown..was focusing on me for once. I needed to. Sorry if I upset you by not replying to your post. I didnt see it.

Coco :hug:
I really hope you are ok !

That must be so hard for you :comfort:
xoxoxox

Thanks ladies. Im just..I dont know. Ive had enough of this crap! Argh!!!

DH was ordered to take his vitamins and also we have been given the options of either

a) waiting a few more months to see whether we get lucky
or
b)Start going through having either IUI or IVF now.

I just dont want us to be one of those statistics of having to have assisted conception. One of those "why me" things u know? Ugh..

On the plus side it if it has been 18 months with the only pregnancy ending in miscarriage and now 2 years with no pregnancy still and then the laparoscopy and endo removal the gynae seems to think that the previous time before that can be wiped off the record. So now its like...We've been trying for 7 weeks :wtf:

That's fine, but how do I wipe my emotional slate clean??? Any tips? Because Im starting to border on overload..

Hi Ladies,

Sounds like a few of you are having a hard day.
Its never easy to be happy for others when we all want so badly to have a baby of our own. Just a few deep breaths and remember that it is going to happen.

Coco - Im sorry you had to see the photos. Maybe you should ask dh just for now not to pass any of that stuff on to you.

Cherished - Sorry you got stuck looking at pics too. And im sorry that a/f showed up. This is the worst time to be trying to be happy for others. Well done on holding it all together.

Chickybabe - Im glad the bleeding has stopped. Continue to rest up and hopefully the scary part is all over for you.

Eliselouise - Has a/f come or are you still waiting. I so hope you get your BFP!

Big :hello: to everyone else out there.

Coco good luck with the post op appt this arvo hope all goes well :)
Cherished honey that must have been so hard, hope you are feeling ok now and hopefully you can get a BFP on your little angels EDD :hug:
Chickybabe thats good news that everything has stopped and hopefully now it will stay away for good. Good luck on monday and im sure everything will be fine for you hun
AFM done another test this arvo and no surprise another BFN and to top itall off im 99% sure AF will be here within a few hours :wall: GRRRR!!! and to quote what you said in an earlier post cherished, [HTML]I really thought i was pregnant this month, what an idiot![/HTML] Anyway i suppose not much that can be done about that now, so just have to try and stay positive and get myself ready for next month (which i cant see happening as DB starts harvest and works away from home majority of the time, so no doubt we'll miss BDing at O time :wall: )
Anyway thanx for listening to my whinge and good luck to anyone testing over the weekend!

Coco - Sorry about the not so good news. Why dont you get on the assisted conception forum and ask a few questions of the ladies in there? I have a friend who TTC naturally for over 2 years, then did about 6 rounds of IVF and then when the doctor told them they would have to look for donor eggs or donor sperm they gave up... A few months later they got a natural BFP and now have a healthy baby girl. What im trying to say is maybe you are just far too stressed. Maybe its time to just have a break, consider your options and (that dreaded word) relax. I know its not what you want to hear but maybe it would help. :comfort:

Just as i had suspected, AF has just shown up GRRRRR, looks like its gonna have to be next month now :crying:

Eliselouise - I'm sorry this wasn't your month. Poor babe, I'll keep my fingers crossed for next month.

Coco - Good point about your emotional slate. I think your news was reasonably positive though. Have you only had once cycle since the procedure?

Good Evening Lovely Ladies XX

Eliselouise I'm sorry this was not the month for you. I hope that you are feeling ok:hug:

Chickybabe great news that your cramping and spotting is settling down, I :pray: that your bub has burried itself in a nice cozy spot for the long haul. I hope that your Appt on Monday goes well.

Cherished I understand how hard thisafternoon must have been :comfort: I hope that you are having a better night.

Coco please please dont feel that you will become a statistic If you decide to opt for assissted conception, you will make a great loving mother no matter how you get there in the end,that is what I focus on. But since you did recently have endo removed your Dr is right, you can start fresh! Be positive my darling we will get our BFP's soon.

Maddison I just realised you live only an hour from me. I went to a natropath named Gerry in Swan Hill. Have you heard of him??

Sparkles I never thaught i'd say this here...but hope you get AF :lol: naughty naughty!



AFM 4th night of puregon inj, have my scan Monday afternoon so looking forward in seeing big fat healthy egg! or two.....

Hello to everyone I missed, there is a lot of us here to keep track of, will take me time to learn everyone.

Elise- So so sorry AF has reared her very ugly head !

:hug:

I was really starting to think this was your month

:comfort:

xoxoxo

Elise :hug: for you honey Im so sorry! You were so Blaze` about your tww and I was secretly hoping it was your month!!

Sammy thanks hon, I am ok now. I just have had an emotional day and feeling negative..Ill pull up soon. Im ok..

Murraycod: Would you mind talking aobut your IUI experience with me? Ill add you as a friend, I would really love to hear all about what they do, how much it is, etc etc.

Hope you r all ok xx

Big hugs to everyone who had a rough day yesterday!!

Well AF showed last night fullblown, happy as thats 2 28 day cycles, but i still have an 11 day luteal phase, oh well, bubs had time to implant last time so it should be right. I never had a 28 day cycle after going off the pill last year, so its pretty exciting i have now had 2, wonder if its the accupuncture helping out??

Hope you all have a happy weekend!

Sunny my beautiful friend thanks, I know you would make it all better for me if you could :hug: I am ok, I am blessed with a fantastic life and the best dh in the world... I was just haveing a me me me meltdown yesterday (I'm just lucky they don't happen everyday!)... You know I am very happy and I believe we will get our little bubba when the time is right.. hey did you get my pm the other day? So glad you are doing well xoxo

chickybabe thanks for your hugs, I hope your scan is a wonderful experience on Monday and all is well with you and your little one :D

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Coco: We've been trying for 7 weeks
That's fine, but how do I wipe my emotional slate clean??? Any tips? Because Im starting to border on overload

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You could choose to get professional help from a psychologist, I know many girls on this thread over the months have seen someone and it has really helped them... RE your post to me, I thought you did ask me if I would be alright :confused: I must have gotten my threads confused, I'm sure you'd never ignore a post from someone who is upset regardless of your own meltdown. I've told you before I am really worried about you and I hope you can get past your miscarriage, get a BFP and have a healthy baby :stork-boy:

Maddison you wise lady, a few deep breaths is the oldest advise in the book and probably the best ;) right up there with think before you speak lol with both of them combined I think almost every challenge can be overcome... Thanks for the reminder honey :)

eliselouise I had a bitter sweet chuckle at you quoting me... obviously I know how you feel, seeing we both got af on the same day lets hope you, Sparkles & I are belly buddies together too!

murrycod Thanks, can I ask what your natropath gave you? what herbs etc or other advise?

Murray cod - Yes i have heard Jerry Van Liessum is very good but i have never been to him. He is actually a friend of my husbands. Next time you are in town you should pop into my shop to say hello. Would be great to meet some of the people on here!

Coco - I hope you are feeling a bit better today. I agree that its only been one cycle since your op so give it a few more goes. Try to take a little pressure off yourself. Its going to happen for you. Its just a matter of time. :bluedust:

Sorry i know i have missed a heap of people. Hello to everyone.

If a runny nose was a pregnancy symptom i would say this is my month and im having triplets. Far out, its making me crazy. Welcome to the hayfever season! :(

Coco, hang in there. I was nearly pulling my hair out before we got our BFP in June. We had tried for 18 months, and I was so thrilled. I was actually scheduled for an infertility consult the day I got the BFP. My sis-in-law went to this OB when they were having trouble conceiving, and he was able to help them. AF was a little late, so I figured it couldn't hurt to test before my appointment. Now we're back to square one, but at least we know I can get pregnant and DH shouldn't have to be tested. If we aren't pregnant within a couple of months after we start trying again, I'll go back to my OB to see if Clomed or something similar would be an option.

Sometimes it feels so unfair that you're having trouble conceiving, and there are tons of people out there who don't even make good parents getting pregnant. Don't give up, and you'll have a sticky baby of your own.

AF is being very annoying--I've never seen her this heavy before, besides during the m/c itself. Maybe I jinxed myself wondering if she was really here... I was going through a pad every hour yesterday.

On a positive note, I've managed to lose a few pounds in the past week. The clothes don't seem to be fitting any differently, but the scale is giving encouraging news. I'm going to walk on the mini tramp again tonight. I don't have to work this afternoon--I pulled a double shift yesterday to cover the graveyard shift, and that finished my 40 hours for the week. It was long, but I don't have to go back until next Tuesday. Monday is Labor Day in the US, and I get a paid holiday. I'll have to plan something fun to do with DH over the weekend.

Evening all
Well i have had a terrible day. I worked last night and finished at 6 this morning, i came home and slept till 8.30, then got up and drove 1 1/2 hours to netball (second semi final)
We won the game which is great coz now were in the grand final, but i sat on the bench the whole game and didnt get any court time. i thought i was fine with it but when one of the girls came up afterwards and said sorry mate i just lost it and burst into tears. I thought i was coping ok with this months BFN and AF showing up but i dont really think im coping as well as i thought. To top it all off the coach pulled me aside afterwards and said to me "ill tell you a little secret, have you noticed that our GK is quite pregnant?? And she doesnt know whether she'll be able to play in the grand final so you will no doubt get a full game" That made me happy that ill get a game but it ripped my heart out hearing that she is pregnant. i am truly happy for her and think she will make a great mother but it just hurts soooo much.
So on my way home from netball i stopped off at the shops and did some retail therapy, i brought 4 new summer tops, a sexy nighty, some shoes and a few presents for family. Am feeling a little better now but i think what i probably need is a good nights sleep and for AF to bugger off and leave me alone for good :lol:
Sorry for the whinge girls but db is hard to talk to about this emotional stuff coz he doesnt understand why i would get so upset about such a small thing.
Enjoy the rest of your weekend lovely ladies and talk soon